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A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:09:50 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		There gone.. I am extremely disappointed. Don't understand why everyone is being so judgmental and rude. I have never ran into people acting this way in 3 years of online time in the bdsm scene. Maybe it just speaks for these message boards so I believe I will stay off of them from now on.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:18:10 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Do you have a question or a topic for discussion?
Or do you normally walk into a room full of friends, knowing no one, and start to harangue all of them?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:19:39 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		Excuse me? I was not being rude to anyone.. I thought this was like a blog where anyone could post any thoughts or questions why do you have to be rude?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:19:58 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		~Just...shakes...head.~ you know, I'm not a submissive but if I was? I know I'd be the type to wonder why my mistress cannot spell or even write better than you seem to be able to. I guess I'd wonder " why should I spend money I work really hard for on someone who can't be bothered to use spellcheck for the protection of her potential submissive's brain.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:20:57 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		This was not directed towards anyone & a room full of friends? It's people like you that make the BDSM scene so cliquey and make new comers feel not welcomed.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:28:47 PM   
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This is not fuck you pay me. This is not rinsing.


Is it called fleecing?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:29:27 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		I enjoyed reading what you had to write, Victoria.. I'm sorry it's gone as it was well presented although paragraphs are good. :) It's a perspective with which I'm unfamiliar and certainly a legit topic of conversation. As most here know, one need not have an actual question
to open a thread.. simple general interest or the desire to share a view point is just fine here.. truly, we are not all the same.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:38:52 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		I was not familiar how you post on here.. Also was not aware that spelling in a little blog I wrote up quickly reflected on myself as a domme but oh well. I have been in the BDSM scene for 5 years & the FinDom scene for 2 and it is misunderstood & many new dommes are jumping in without realizing that just because money is the main factor you still have to have the d/s relationship and honor your commitments. But some people just enjoy tearing others down because they have nothing better to do. I will stick to posting in fetlife, findoms.com, facebook, and on my personal website. Sorry that others had such a problem with someone they did not recognize posting in "their" message board. Thank you for your support though! It is very much appreciated!

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:40:53 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		This is the response FinDommes get a lot though. Those who don't care for it often have to tear it down. I don't care for several fetishes, but I don't go around making comments on blogs about things I don't care for or don't understand.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:52:17 PM   
shiftyw


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Status: offline 		I think, in general- more "bloggy" posts are accepted better in creative writing. Or perhaps your journal.

I didn't get here fast enough to read your original post.
But judging by how you're describing it- it may have faired better in those places.
In general we "discuss" here- rather than just journal or rant?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 7:56:15 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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I read through it briefly before stepping out for a moment. I planned on rereading it again.

Two...problems?...stuck out for me personally. And no, it wasn't the financial domination. I'm of the opinion to each their own. And though it's a situation I personally don't engage in, Im honestly always wanting to expand my horizons as far as learning goes. I agree that paragraphs would have been better than wall-o-text. And it wasn't really what was said, but rather how you said it. It came across a bit like you were lecturing AT me, rather than broaching a subject to open a discussion WITH me. But seeing as how you mistook this for a blog, I guess I could see a bit better why it came across the way it did.

Just my $0.02...and trying not to come across as snarky

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:02:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Apparently I missed something here. The OP was changed?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:05:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MsVictoriaReign

This is the response FinDommes get a lot though. Those who don't care for it often have to tear it down. I don't care for several fetishes, but I don't go around making comments on blogs about things I don't care for or don't understand.


Unfortunately, I didn't see your original post so I can't know what happened here, but I would like to assist if I can. Everything may depend on how you worded what you have. There are findommes on the forum and they are pretty well accepted from what I have seen. If someone comes in demanding, I see flack start up pretty quickly.

Mind helping me out here, as I would correct anything that needed correction?

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:07:25 PM   
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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:12:27 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		Wow seriously? Why is everyone so rude? I was not looking for attention was just trying to make a point to those that think FinDomme's don't care about their subs. And yes I appreciate the positive input. I am new to this site and was not aware how your forum and threads were done. It was not posted at anyone specifically. Thank you for the advice about the paragraph form ect but I do believe after my experience here tonight I will not be posting another blog again.

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:15:07 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		It just stated that even in a findom relationship it is still that a relationship. There needs to be trust, loyalty, honesty, ect. There are so many new dommes coming it and taking money & not following through with commitments ect. It was just a thought I had and for some reason it really erkked some people.. But Like the post above that attacked me personally I'm guessing some didn't just have a problem with the blog

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:18:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Moderator3


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsVictoriaReign

This is the response FinDommes get a lot though. Those who don't care for it often have to tear it down. I don't care for several fetishes, but I don't go around making comments on blogs about things I don't care for or don't understand.


Unfortunately, I didn't see your original post so I can't know what happened here, but I would like to assist if I can. Everything may depend on how you worded what you have. There are findommes on the forum and they are pretty well accepted from what I have seen. If someone comes in demanding, I see flack start up pretty quickly.

Mind helping me out here, as I would correct anything that needed correction?

There was zero wrong with it. It was well presented, calm, and informative.

Nothing would have had to have been changed and it didn't rant in anyway, shape or form.



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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:22:07 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		Thank you!
& to the woman who posted before you about me basically begging for attention..
I am sorry if you have a problem with my pretty in pink profile but I happen to LOVE pink!

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:23:15 PM   
MsVictoriaReign


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Status: offline 		Oh never mind she deleted it.
I am just very confused as to why people took it personal as though I was speaking directly to them? I have never had this happen in a forum before..

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RE: A s/d relationship is just that.. A relationship! - 3/13/2015 8:51:02 PM   
Moderator3


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Status: offline 		Okay, well, I guess I'll never know. lol

I'm sorry that whatever happened, left you upset and will hope that you will stick around and see how things go. While we allow snark and people can get into it sometimes, it isn't all bad.

Each section has guidelines found at the top of the section to assist in knowing what is posted in that area and you can always email me if you have any questions. These are threads that everyone is able to post in and you will get various responses. Some good and some bad. You can always block the ones you don't want to see.

Back in the day, things could get really heated. I remember my thread. Wow! Fifteen pages of slam dunk, members fighting and I was clueless as to why it erupted. I get it now though!

I hope you'll give the forum another chance.

Edit duck to dunk. I'm tired and just moved an entertainment center, but then, when do I need an excuse to mess up a post!

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