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RE: Is it to much to ask? - 3/31/2015 3:27:18 AM

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I do appreciate all of your responses. Everyone had a valid point and I can understand where all of you were coming from.
Before I go off on a rant in the future I will be sure to check the boards for posts on the same subject.....I guess the best advice would
be to hit the Munches.and meet live and in the flesh. In the meantime I'm ready to take my punishment.

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RE: Is it to much to ask? - 3/31/2015 3:20:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

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I can tell you that posting to a message board asking for input then not responding is not a good way to establish rapport on these boards and the lifestyle... Respect and politeness needs to go both ways.

Butch

But ... but ... but ... no response is a response, Butch. Didn't you get the decree?

Michael

And that's true. The difference here is that presumably you join a forum to make online friends.

Which is a far cry from assuming that strangers that you accost want to be your friend or fuck buddy.

And if you join a forum or a fet group just to troll, then you should be fine not making friends. It's all about what you want and what is the best way to get that.

Whining on a forum where people do respond about people on the other side who won't read your rant is not an effective tactic which will garner you friends and real life coffee meets.

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RE: Is it to much to ask? - 3/31/2015 4:05:38 PM

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it is too much to ask. Those ads on the other side that want you to explain who you are in detail are largely from pro's. Those pro's get a lot of mail, or are busy servicing the ones that have paid. Instead of sending mail to the 20 something's who have years of experience try seeking out people who are more local to you. Going to munches and events is a good start at finding someone, even if they tip you to pro's that really have experience.

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RE: Is it to much to ask? - 4/2/2015 10:54:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: osobadmale

As a submissive I will respond to an ad and many of these ads ask for a detailed answer. Many will even say, one line responses will be deleted or no canned answers.
It takes lots of time to answer these ads. So you write this detailed narrative about yourself and then you hear nothing back. Is it to much to ask for just a short
polite "Sorry I'm not interested" I'm well aware you get lots of dumb answers but those of us that are real and follow your rules it would be nice to at least here
something back so that we know you at least got the email. Just wanted to know what your thoughts were on this.

If you want to answer an ad, that's your choice. If you want to follow all the "instructions" in the ad, that's your choice too.

But just because you decide to answer someone's ad that doesn't mean they owe you a response, or they are even required to read what you wrote.

And, seriously, would your life really be enhanced by having someone write back: "Sorry not interested." And even if for some odd reason getting a "Sorry not interested" email brightens you day, be aware that there are lots of men who would be pissed off by that and prefer to get no response. So I don't think a woman who sends "Sorry not interested" emails is making the world a happier place than the woman who doesn't respond.

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RE: Is it to much to ask? - 4/2/2015 10:59:07 PM

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.I guess the best advice would be to hit the Munches.and meet live and in the flesh.

Everything has pros and cons. Online has its frustrations, but it's a relatively quick and easy way to reach out to people across a wide geography.

Munches aren't better or worse for meeting a partner; just different. They require more time; you are exposed to a relatively small universe of people. You can go to a munch and not find anyone you are attracted to, so if you only reason for going is to find potential partners, it can be a waste out of the box.

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