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Punishment - 4/6/2015 4:39:22 AM   
Pyrosub


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Status: offline 		I have always struggled with my weight and in my early twenties I had an eating disorder. When I met sir I told him about my past and how it still was having an effect on my life. I’d recently been skipping meals and had lost weight from it. However sir advised and helped me to learn that I am not to lose weight in this way. He set me a task to eat 1500 calories a day by eating 3 healthy meals and fruit for snacks and helped me to monitor my weight to ensure that I didn’t lose too much and become obsessed with my weight loss.

I have recently been deceitful and have skipped 2 lunches. I didn’t openly tell sir, he asked me what I had eaten for lunch and then I confessed that I hadn’t had anything. I understand that I should be punished for being deceitful to sir for not taking care of his property. Sir would like to know what you suggest for my punishment. Asking you further adds to my humiliation and I feel so ashamed and upset that I have disappointed sir. If you have any suggestions please message me and I will pass on your comments to my master. Thank you
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RE: Punishment - 4/6/2015 4:52:22 AM   
Pyrosub


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Status: offline 		Or post your comments on here x

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RE: Punishment - 4/6/2015 11:03:03 AM   
dreamlady


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ORIGINAL: Pyrosub

I have recently been deceitful and have skipped 2 lunches.
Sir would like to know what you suggest for my punishment.... If you have any suggestions please message me and I will pass on your comments to my master.


You are asking for private messages rather than for posted replies?

These are just general comments, then. If your Master feels that your public confession will help you learn a lesson, then that's his call.
I would personally want to get to the root of the issue as to why you did not follow his nutrition program when you agreed to do so.

Do you question the soundness of his advice and feel that your way of doing things before (skipping meals) was more effective for weight loss? If so, then you are acting out passive-aggressively and having a communications breakdown which needs to be remedied first.

In order to keep your blood-sugar levels on an even keel throughout the day, nutritionists often recommend eating many small meals and eating healthy snacks (raw veggies, granola, limited amounts of fresh fruit) throughout the day, combined with a daily exercise regimen which can be as routine as taking walks or using the stairs instead of an elevator or escalator.

Skipping basic meals 3x/day is not an option. The only variables are portion size and timing, such as starting out early in the day shortly after awakening and not eating dinner late or doing any late-night snacking.

I'm a big fan of essays and of journaling. Perhaps you should keep a journal for accountability on your meal times and log your food for meal planning purposes so that your Master can review it regularly, not only to check on you but to review your food pyramid and roughly calculate your daily caloric intake.

You are allowed input, but your Master makes the final decisions ultimately. Talk it out, and express your feelings with brief notations for future discussion.

DreamLady

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 9:03:15 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Are you still in treatment? If not, perhaps you need to return to your therapist to prevent a major relapse.

I don't think punishment will help. Perhaps journaling will. Not simply what you've eaten but how you're feeling.

In addition, I'd suggest you consider what foods you can keep with you to eat when you're unable to eat a whole meal. Granola bars, hard boiled eggs, raw vegetables and dip, yogurt. If you have a fridge on hand you'll have more options. But many lunch boxes have space for a freezer pack to keep things cold.

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 2:44:50 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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Personally I think it's highly irresponsible on your Sir's part to solicit a bunch of random strangers on how to punish someone with a psychologically sensitive issue such as an eating disorder. None of us know you. None of us knows him. None of us knows your dynamic and all of the things personally discussed between you both. I think your Sir should do what is right and handle this in-house. He knows you best and this is very much a deeply personal situation.

< Message edited by SeekingTrinity -- 4/8/2015 2:46:33 PM >

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 3:04:28 PM   
thompsonx


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Status: offline 		I would sugest that your sir take a more hands on approach. Upon finding you had skipped/missed lunch he should have immediately taken you to the mall containing a see's candy store and have you infused asap with no less than a 1000 calories stat of "deep dark chocolate truffles" none other could possibly be capable of erasing your caloric malfesence

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 5:10:54 PM   
slvemike4u


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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 5:43:29 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		This should've been a poll... I am going with A: Cut out her tongue and boil her in oil.

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 6:07:39 PM   
slvemike4u


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Status: offline 		Harsh...and should He enjoy it he doesn't get to do it again.
Shouldn't the punishment be something he can hold over her head as a threat of doing it again ?

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 6:16:35 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

Harsh...and should He enjoy it he doesn't get to do it again.
Shouldn't the punishment be something he can hold over her head as a threat of doing it again ?



Okay, okay, but just for the pansies on the site... Whack off a finger, she'll only fuck up 10 times.

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 6:50:57 PM   
thompsonx


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Status: offline 		Dont forget there should be about ten toes also...no?

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RE: Punishment - 4/8/2015 6:53:55 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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ORIGINAL: thompsonx

Dont forget there should be about ten toes also...no?


Don't be ridiculous. How will she use chopsticks with no toes?

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RE: Punishment - 4/9/2015 1:05:01 AM   
Awareness


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrosub

I have always struggled with my weight and in my early twenties I had an eating disorder. When I met sir I told him about my past and how it still was having an effect on my life. I’d recently been skipping meals and had lost weight from it. However sir advised and helped me to learn that I am not to lose weight in this way. He set me a task to eat 1500 calories a day by eating 3 healthy meals and fruit for snacks and helped me to monitor my weight to ensure that I didn’t lose too much and become obsessed with my weight loss.

I have recently been deceitful and have skipped 2 lunches. I didn’t openly tell sir, he asked me what I had eaten for lunch and then I confessed that I hadn’t had anything. I understand that I should be punished for being deceitful to sir for not taking care of his property. Sir would like to know what you suggest for my punishment. Asking you further adds to my humiliation and I feel so ashamed and upset that I have disappointed sir. If you have any suggestions please message me and I will pass on your comments to my master. Thank you



A) You've had an eating disorder
B) You struggle with a fear of abandonment
C) You accepted this guy as your master super fast. I mean unwisely fast.

I have a couple of questions for you:

* Do you ever feel empty inside?
* Have you ever cut?

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RE: Punishment - 4/9/2015 2:34:02 AM   
IcarusBurning


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pyrosub

I have always struggled with my weight and in my early twenties I had an eating disorder. When I met sir I told him about my past and how it still was having an effect on my life. I’d recently been skipping meals and had lost weight from it. However sir advised and helped me to learn that I am not to lose weight in this way. He set me a task to eat 1500 calories a day by eating 3 healthy meals and fruit for snacks and helped me to monitor my weight to ensure that I didn’t lose too much and become obsessed with my weight loss.

I have recently been deceitful and have skipped 2 lunches. I didn’t openly tell sir, he asked me what I had eaten for lunch and then I confessed that I hadn’t had anything. I understand that I should be punished for being deceitful to sir for not taking care of his property. Sir would like to know what you suggest for my punishment. Asking you further adds to my humiliation and I feel so ashamed and upset that I have disappointed sir. If you have any suggestions please message me and I will pass on your comments to my master. Thank you



why? has he run out of ideas?

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RE: Punishment - 4/11/2015 11:14:37 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Having committed to someone who thinks a serious illness such as eating disorders can be treated by punishment is punishment enough.
How would he punish you if you had cancer?

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RE: Punishment - 4/11/2015 11:24:15 AM   
gymrat2285


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Status: offline 		punishment can never ever be the solution to a behavioural condition. what you need to do is find overriding patterns of behaviour to render the old negative pattern obsolete.
do NOT punish or beat yourself up it will enforce the negative behaviour.

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RE: Punishment - 4/11/2015 5:19:43 PM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Having committed to someone who thinks a serious illness such as eating disorders can be treated by punishment is punishment enough.
How would he punish you if you had cancer?


I think having cancer is punishment enough.

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RE: Punishment - 4/11/2015 7:02:14 PM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		Maybe it's the cynic in me, but I'm always wary of these "I fucked up, help Master punish me" or "My slave fucked up, how should I punish her" threads.

Relationship dynamics tend to be personal, especially when punishment aspects are introduced. It depends strongly on what registers as a carrot and stick for the /s half of the relationship. To ask complete strangers how to punish someone they've never met isn't just ineffective, it shows a lack of imagination on the D's part. Worse, it's inviting strangers into your dynamic.

If your D intended to punish you for breaking his rules, the methods of punishment should've been established before his rules were enforced.

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RE: Punishment - 4/11/2015 7:14:53 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Having committed to someone who thinks a serious illness such as eating disorders can be treated by punishment is punishment enough.
How would he punish you if you had cancer?


I think having cancer is punishment enough.



As is any serious illness. And Eating Disorders qualify as that.

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RE: Punishment - 4/17/2015 10:18:15 AM   
MasterDrakkula


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