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ORIGINAL: whitedragonX

Oh its this thread again. I think being a money domme might be a real fetish but it's hard to tell everyone likes money. For being a pay pig it more than likely is a fetish idk. All I do is that I'm tired of seeing money dommes on this site. If I want to pay someone I'll just find a professional and pay for a session.

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

hahahaha *snort* hahahahaha Nothing around here ever changes does it? Oh, yeah, I'm back by the way. Took some time off for blah, blah, blah , who really cares.

This topic is such a joke. Really, I just asked someone on the other side if I told him to would he send me money right now? Know why I did it? I wanted the guy to go away. I have, for years, watched guys do the whole "I'm so devoted thing" when we both know they are telling lies. Ask for money. It is a great way to make them piss off. By the way, don't get me wrong. If someone serves me. As in real life not net. I do control every aspect of their life. That includes their income. I don't for a moment get why this is ever really a conversation. My "kink" (one of them anyway) is total control. Get over it, move on, if it isn't your kink.....Yay for you but bugger off anyway.

*still love you and that evil smile R.S*

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

hahahaha *snort* hahahahaha Nothing around here ever changes does it? Oh, yeah, I'm back by the way. Took some time off for blah, blah, blah , who really cares.

This topic is such a joke. Really, I just asked someone on the other side if I told him to would he send me money right now? Know why I did it? I wanted the guy to go away. I have, for years, watched guys do the whole "I'm so devoted thing" when we both know they are telling lies. Ask for money. It is a great way to make them piss off. By the way, don't get me wrong. If someone serves me. As in real life not net. I do control every aspect of their life. That includes their income. I don't for a moment get why this is ever really a conversation. My "kink" (one of them anyway) is total control. Get over it, move on, if it isn't your kink.....Yay for you but bugger off anyway.

*still love you and that evil smile R.S*

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ORIGINAL: NeedAWhirlie
I do derive sexual pleasure at the thought of submitting financially.

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

THAT! Was well written!

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ORIGINAL: NeedAWhirlie

I'm curious, ResidentSadist, why the need for a DSM-approved definition of something someone calls a kink? I'm not going to defend from an APA perspective, because I couldn't. But I don't feel it's necessary. If I derive sexual pleasure from a certain "atypical" situation, I can call it my kink, yes? I agree that not all kinks, certainly, fall under the BDSM umbrella and sometimes it's eyeroll-provoking when BDSM seems to have gone mainstream hip and is completely misused. I think that's the case with the rise of financial domination- simple human exploitation for monetary gain.

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ORIGINAL: NeedAWhirlie

i'm new to the forums, but not to CS or D/s by any means (I say that wistfully from my perch of 39 years ha ha)... so please don't find me too presumptuous in adding my two cents here.

I think it's fascinating that this topic caused such a stir in such a short timespan.

First, MissImmortalPain, thank you! for saying so succinctly and perfectly what I was thinking.

I don't know you or ResidentSadist, so i'm keeping myself reserved in manner.

I also will confess I skipped over pages 3-15 (oh, I did catch the German bit), so I deeply apologize if i'm repeating something here or missed something critical that makes my post completely irrelevant.

I'm curious, ResidentSadist, why the need for a DSM-approved definition of something someone calls a kink? I'm not going to defend from an APA perspective, because I couldn't. But I don't feel it's necessary. If I derive sexual pleasure from a certain "atypical" situation, I can call it my kink, yes? I agree that not all kinks, certainly, fall under the BDSM umbrella and sometimes it's eyeroll-provoking when BDSM seems to have gone mainstream hip and is completely misused. I think that's the case with the rise of financial domination- simple human exploitation for monetary gain.

BUT, I can personally attest to the existence of financial domination as a sexual kink. So, I'll just go ahead and open up here, something in all the years of CS(fka CM) profile journal entries I've never shared... I do derive sexual pleasure at the thought of submitting financially. So i'm presenting the other side of this coin. Now- will I sign up for a "pay tax" with some of these FinDommes advertising online? No because it's not going to be a safe reality for me. But in my fantasies, that's another story and orgasms happen. I say this, as embarrassing as I find it (not in a kinky way) to admit at large, because while I might be in a small minority, it's not a minority of one. So for the others in a similar situation as mine, I wanted to start to break down the shame of it. That's why you don't see it in person, ResidentSadist- because it's hugely embarrassing and it's never welcomed, and worse, someone like you goes on a soapbox about how it can't be real. How could that make someone like me feel? Like hiding it away, away, away and highlighting only the "acceptable" BDSM kinks I have. You could meet me in person and never, ever know this about me, so you'd go on believing this kink is not real.

So let me just clarify- no, I've never and I won't ever sign up to a FinDomme online to pay her just to pay her, but neither will I engage in any online D/s that I would consider a real relationship. But I have been in real-life D/s situations in which financial control and submission was one component of the relationship. Consensual and enjoyable.

Anyway, to me it's just another aspect of ultimate control... thank you again, MissImmortalPain.