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masters secret - 5/2/2015 10:47:12 PM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		Is it wrong as a slave to want your Master to tell someone in his life about you?
I know bdsm is not always something you tell the whole world.
But i want him to be proud enough to tell someone. Anyone
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RE: masters secret - 5/2/2015 10:58:04 PM   
JVoV


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Status: offline 		It's not a matter of right or wrong. If it's something you want, then you need to let your Master know.

Every relationship is different. Do you two go out in public together at all? How does he introduce you?

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RE: masters secret - 5/2/2015 11:21:42 PM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		No we do not go out in public. If we ever are together he wil intrudoce me as a student of his

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RE: masters secret - 5/2/2015 11:40:47 PM   
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RE: masters secret - 5/2/2015 11:46:16 PM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		And how do you know i am not cheating on my husband. That is not the toppic

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 12:20:34 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Yes, it is the topic and may be a reason he hides you.

If he is married, he needs to be discreet.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 1:00:48 AM   
JVoV


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ORIGINAL: lilithslavegirl

No we do not go out in public. If we ever are together he wil intrudoce me as a student of his


Then it seems like your relationship has strict boundaries, for whatever reason. So you probably already know how possible it is to move beyond those, and the problems that could arise from doing so.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 1:31:53 AM   
ARIES83


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lilithslavegirl
Is it wrong as a slave to want your Master to tell someone in his life about you?

I don't think so.

quote:

lilithslavegirl
I know bdsm is not always something you tell the whole world.
But i want him to be proud enough to tell someone. Anyone
quote:

lilithslavegirl
...how do you know i am not cheating on my husband.

If he has a wife, you a husband and the secret of the relationship is that you have one, then I have no advice for you.

< Message edited by ARIES83 -- 5/3/2015 1:48:53 AM >

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 2:01:03 AM   
JVoV


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Status: offline 		Pffft. Husbands can be cockolded. It's wives you gotta worry about. Don't you ppl read the fiction section?

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 2:17:04 AM   
sweetieDA


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Yes, it is the topic and may be a reason he hides you.

If he is married, he needs to be discreet.


Quoted for truth.

Why does he introduce you as his student? Did you consent to this?

I have been a married man's secret and I would never do it again. Think carefully about why he is keeping you secret and whether or not you want that or whether you're just going along with it so as not to rock the boat.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 3:33:25 AM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		I've not got much to add to the sound advice you've had so far on this thread, except to reinforce the fact that ultimately it is for you to decide what you need from a relationship, then either it is a question of making compromises (and compromising on important things rarely works out for me!) Or finding someone who will make you a more public part of his life.

It's a choice only you can make for you.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 3:46:22 AM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		Not married. But in our lines of work you can not be open about these things. But it does not change fact that i would like him to comfine in just one person. That i am not just someone but his slave for a year now

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 3:48:04 AM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		Even if he needs to be descreet. One person he trust.... Wil it hurt so much

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 6:23:35 AM   
Miyani


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Status: offline 		Why are you asking us? What does he say, as to why he will not acknowledge your role in his life?

Would you be satisfied if, instead of introducing you as his student, he introduced you as his girlfriend? I don't insist slut introduce me to everyone as his Daddy, but he should sure as hell acknowledge that we're romantically linked. If the guy you're with won't even do that... why not? If you've been his for more than a year, it's highly possible you're not in his classroom anymore, and you're 27, so there shouldn't be legal issues.

If you really need to be acknowledged as his slave, I'd recommend making kinky friends. It can be hard, even dangerous, to come out as kinky to vanilla folk, even if you trust them.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 6:34:42 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Have you asked him why he doesn't want this to be a publicly acknowledged relationship?

Beyond that, judging by what you wrote on your profile, maybe he feels treating you like this is fulfilling your fantasies and that you don't want anything different.

Talk to him.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 6:36:33 AM   
Kaliko


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ORIGINAL: lilithslavegirl

Is it wrong as a slave to want your Master to tell someone in his life about you?
I know bdsm is not always something you tell the whole world.
But i want him to be proud enough to tell someone. Anyone



If he's not telling anybody that you exist, than that would concern me, yes. I'm curious - are you a student of his? Why wouldn't he just introduce you as his friend/girlfriend/something that's not a lie? Unless "student" means something to both of you?

On him not telling anybody that you are his slave - that wouldn't concern me. Why should he? It sounds like your issue, not his.

I guess I look at these as two separate issues:

If he's lying about who you are (student) then that is not behavior I would like to see in somebody you've entrusted yourself enough with to call "Master."

If he's choosing to not share the intimate details of your relationship with someone, then that is simply his prerogative, and probably is just good sense. I would suggest asking yourself why it's so important to you that anyone else know. Are you in it because you want your Master to be happy with you? Or are you in it because you want other people to know how happy you can make someone? It seems self-serving to want this of him.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 12:28:55 PM   
JVoV


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ORIGINAL: lilithslavegirl

Not married. But in our lines of work you can not be open about these things. But it does not change fact that i would like him to comfine in just one person. That i am not just someone but his slave for a year now


Talk to him about going to a munch, where you can both be around others in the lifestyle, and not have to worry about being outed.

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RE: masters secret - 5/3/2015 5:59:35 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I'm curious as to why she expects him to tell this to a vanilla friend or coworker and not suffer unwanted repercussions from it.
Or would she be okay if he called up her mother and said "your daughter is my slave bitch"?

After all if she's the one pushing for him to out himself, shouldn't she be willing to be outed as well?

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RE: masters secret - 5/4/2015 1:36:30 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Yes, it's wrong. You gave us very little to go on so we must give a safe answer. It's wrong to wish harm for your relationship partner(s) by exposing them. Hope that settles it for ya'.

Everyone's already cover the aspects of it. Why do you want to out him? Would you be ok getting outted? Why not go to a leather club club where getting outted is more or less harmless. After a year, you would think you guys would have worked some of that out.

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RE: masters secret - 5/4/2015 6:20:55 AM   
lilithslavegirl


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Status: offline 		I do not want to out him!

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