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RE: masters secret - 5/4/2015 6:26:22 AM

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You have a relationship. You're not happy with the current parameters of the relationship. You talk to your relationship partner and between you two, you make concessions, compromises, changes. Or you don't. Then you decide whether this is the relationship you want. Then you follow through with behavior alterations either as a couple or as an individual. Or you don't. You check in. "How's this working for you?"

Lather, rinse, repeat.

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RE: masters secret - 5/4/2015 8:07:27 AM

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I do not want to out him!

You know... there may just be a neat solution for you. Does he know about this forum? Why not ask him to come here and have a look around. I'm sure your relationship will come up sooner or later and you get your wish. At the very least, he will discover your feelings from your posts. Telling us of your feelings before him may well earn you a beaten butt... but time heals all butts. And it may strengthen your relationship in the end.
It beats doing nothing.

Another thing to think about is him having you write a diary. One for him to read if he wants. They are a great way to get an insight into the feels that are sometimes hard to talk about.

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RE: masters secret - 5/6/2015 7:29:08 PM

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Unless he's married, wanting kink only and not an actual relationship or there's some other reason you're his dirty little secret, I see no reason why he couldn't at least introduce you as his girlfriend. When I had a closeted BDSM-wise partner, he would still introduce me to others as his girlfriend. Maybe you should investigate his marital status further. If I couldn't be introduced to his family and friends at least in a vanilla way, I'd consider it a general red flag.

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RE: masters secret - 5/10/2015 2:17:13 PM

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I was in a similar situation - I left

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RE: masters secret - 5/20/2015 5:53:03 PM

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He could easily just be afraid of taking the next step. I mean what would his friends and family think of him if they knew about your lifestyle? Would people in his life approve of the age difference? You said he introduces you as a student so I assume there is one. Honestly he could just be afraid of backlash.

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RE: masters secret - 5/23/2015 3:36:56 PM

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Is it wrong as a slave to want your Master to tell someone in his life about you?
I know bdsm is not always something you tell the whole world.
But i want him to be proud enough to tell someone. Anyone

Is it wrong as a slave to want your Master to tell someone in his life about you?

I like to read an OP exactly as written so my answer will be, of course not. It is natural. It is human. There is wanting and then there is insisting. You only want something that is natural for you and I understand that desire. I would be surprised if you did not have this desire.

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RE: masters secret - 5/24/2015 12:03:23 AM

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First, I am a Professor, and have been for 10+ yrs, and I do not date any Students of the University, period. I also know 3 or 4 Professors who are not into child molestation either. But, that is today's reality.
Second, yes, he should acknowledge her with more than a common noun; but, if you are introducing her to the Pope "this is my slut, street whore, money machine, Lil Slave" isn't going to be any better.
For most groups I introduced my sub/slave as "my love, or my special Lady". Which was more than they really wanted to know anyway. If some person became really noisy I would say "her name's Michelle Obama, she's cheating on BoBo tonight!"
To me, lilithslavegirl, is in love with her Master, and seeking a sign of reciprocation, which is in her case "earning her bdsm learners-permit with a broken heart." Or, so said a Gypsy I met 10 minutes ago. Whatever..

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RE: masters secret - 5/25/2015 8:37:24 AM

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And how do you know i am not cheating on my husband. That is not the toppic

I like your response. That is not the topic indeed! You know, perhaps if you ask him for a collar to wear everywhere you go might turn the corner here for both of you. Star asked for one, one of those eternal locking ones, you know? I refused that but did give her a very nice leather one that she then wore out even to nice places to eat. That actually was fun for both of us and you will be surprised how many people are used to seeing collars on television in various programs and are not shocked in the least bit and if they are then they would be more shocked to discover I have her wearing a radio remote control peanut too, just praying someone else does not have the control also for that model in the room, although now that I think of it, that actually means there's another girl in the room wearing that same model and it would be fun to find out who she is...

...and that is the topic, isn't it.

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RE: masters secret - 5/26/2015 11:01:12 AM

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@DarkSteven @sexyred1 raise a valid point as did you back - valid if either, or both, are completely unaware. Albeit these site tend to be flooded with married folk less than honest about it.

Plus you allude to he hides you, not a good thing, but i think you mean something else like do you believe anyone tells anyone this is my sub/dom.

Not something I would tell my sister my mum a "friend - true ones are rare perhaps them or who know all of me but they would have already have guessed*

But that is where that falls down I do not date sub/domes – call them what you will. I date the person, all of her. So I say this is my girlfriend and as she fall to her knees in joyous gratitude I tell her to whip me up some muffins whilst she down on the floor.

However, if your master/dom person is specifically looking for a sub/slave – how he defines a relationship. Then you should not be introduced as this is my girlfriend.

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RE: masters secret - 6/30/2015 6:32:21 AM

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I think the reason everyone is saying that you just want to out him is because you haven't really given answers to help them further understand the situation. Help them by giving further explanations to some of their questions and they may be able to understand what you are wanting.
Questions like: does student mean anything to you?
Was it once something you agreed on and now you need more from the relationship?
Was is once a fantise for you or him or both even?
Is it important who he tells or just that someone close to him in his life knows?
Have you told anyone close to you?
Also have you talked to him about it and what was said.

You also have to ask yourself what harm it would do to him and eventually the relationship if he did talk to someone close to him about it and it back fire on him.
These people can really help if they get the right info. Also don't be so defensive about some of the things they are saying. Let it sink in and ask yourself some questions you would ask if you were talking to someone in your situation. I guess what I am saying is to step back and look at it through different eyes.

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