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RE: Transform Wife to Keyholder - 8/3/2015 5:17:05 PM

HoneyBears

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

If she likes things hot and passionate - both in person and when you are away from each other -- chastity can do that. It's not so much about denial as it is about setting the table.

You might have the right idea about the purpose of practicing chastity between spouses/SOs, when one mate is in control of the other's sexuality, but this does not appear to be the end game for a great majority of male chastity slaves.

This is not even on these men's radars, wanting to be a more passionate lover or to become a better lover who is more attuned to satisfying the full sexual spectrum of his Mistress's intimacy needs.

In fact, IF getting locked up in a chastity regimen was actually an effective "device," and IF my sweetheart needed any improvement in these areas (which he emphatically does not), I would have put him in a cockcage long ago.

... No, not really--he's too large for that exercise in futility ...

-- Lisa

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RE: Transform Wife to Keyholder - 8/4/2015 4:52:34 PM

LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: ccarpendar

The thought of having me locked up in chastity is not a turn on for my wife. I have been playing with chastity for two years know and she is very aware of it. She recommends that I do not wear the chastity device as it does nothing for her. I tried playing with chastity as it was interesting to me and I have recently found that the desire to be controlled and locked up is not going away. She played along at first but very quickly turned away from it. She knows that I am a very kinky individual and I have many "odd" desires as she puts it. She lets me go on about my own business but she does not participate in my adventures. I am looking for some real advice as to how to get her interested in being my full time keyholder. I want to talk to someone who was not really into it at first and maybe even blew it off but is not into it. I need to know the best ways show her what male chastity will do for her in our relationship and how enjoyable control over sex can be. I am willing to give it all up to her. I have told her this before but she has shown no interests. How can I get her to understand the benefits of chastity without her just disregarding it off the bat and to give it a real shot.

Chics don't "get it" (most chics).

Wanna be one of those guys that has a fulfilling relationship with a chic who gets it?

Find one.

Why chics don't get what men want is stunning to me.....chics know more about MORE men's shit on their WORST day than 1,000 men know about ONE chic on their best day.

Life could be SOOOOOOO much better if chics just said...."yeah....they're fucked up....crazy fucks.....they like fucking alien life forms with green slime dripping from their orifices....black and white drive in movie shit".

It's fucked up. Girls....you so control the game.....

Okay...I'm gonna spell things out for the ladies....

Ladies.....guy says something stoooopit.....you laugh....throw a few "but for" (careful cover) stuff in there and then wait for him to say that he'll pay for......and of course....love you forever shit......work him back to the "but for"...and you've got him.

(I should be a psychiatrist).

(It's a gift....and a curse).

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RE: Transform Wife to Keyholder - 8/5/2015 8:08:46 AM

BlueRoses1111

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

(I should be a psychiatrist).

Only If you start prescribing your own medication. Please get certified NOW!.

I think PRIOR to marriage people should discuss these things but that seems to be the problem. They hide it and then spring it on their partner after several years or decades in. The partner feels lied to or worse feels like they married a two headed stranger and this all promotes fear, anxiety and mistrust.

Her kink is not the Ops kink and that's fine. You can't make people be into something that either repulses them or turns them off. It's really that simple.

As an option you can bring her along to perhaps a kink event and introduce her to other aspects of kink but if she's uncomfortable please remove her from the situation immediately. You can
't force kink on anyone.

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