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diapers ? - 6/30/2015 12:11:36 PM

iCandy

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I have been seeing a guy that has disclosed to me that he was once under the dominance of a Domme for a few years in his early 20's. He is now in his early 40's and describes himself as a Master, seeking a slave..

Over the course of our very distant, 6 months (seeing each other once or twice a month) he has put me in a diaper a few times, I have wet it for him. I do not like wearing them and I did it for him.

The other day I was visiting he knew I would be over that weekend.

The almost very first thing I found was a huge pissed diaper that he had left on his washing machine. He put it on himself and wet it .. (for me to find?_ ) I must admit it left a very bad view of him in my mind.
I asked what is that, he admitted it was his, he forgot to dispose of it .. omg. wtf...

I feel like this particular male is more of a switch. I am a bit confused as usual. any other Masters like to use a diaper ?

Any body have any advice or diaper experience ?

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RE: diapers ? - 6/30/2015 12:28:40 PM

UllrsIshtar

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Dominance is the power and influence over others.
If this person has power and influence over others, they dominate, regardless of what their personal interests are.

Likewise, self-control, self-dominance are the having of influence and control over yourself. If a person can make determinations for themselves, and what like, what they want and what they approve of for themselves, they are self-governing.

What you want is a 'Master' who lives up to *your* idea of what a 'Master' should and should not like to do.
Apparently this man doesn't care that you tend to view diaper use as a submissive act, and he's confident enough with himself and his own preferences that he doesn't feel the need to hide from you what his preferences are.

I'd say he's pretty damn dominant, and it's probably you that's more of a switch.

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RE: diapers ? - 6/30/2015 2:08:07 PM

MiaCastle

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How do you have self control pissing your pants?

I'm with icandy and would question the dominance of a diapered dom. Just my preference I guess, my concept and maybe judgement. All's fair in love, relationships, play partners and diapers isn't a go in my play-land. There are people that I wouldn't consider dominant and that is alright. I don't mind being accused of being opinionated and even unfair at times. There are people that can claim anything. Some influence on that alone, a perception with a title can be what amounts to a number of self professed dominants and those that give them worth based on a title and not the person.

What we want in our relationships is what we want. We don't have to accept everything other people do in the name of kink and fairness. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be with a dominant man in diapers, or in my case, a submissive man in diapers. Babies are dependent, adults in depends present as dependent. Dependent doesn't represent dominant to me, though I know many are, I don't see it as a strength, but a weakness. I doubt I am alone in this. We are human beings and will have our weakness, but a dominant welding a paddle, while in a diaper and I might laugh to the point of tears picturing it.

We become who we are and put value to certain things. I wouldn't value a dominant in diapers, though they have every right to wear them and good for them, but it wouldn't be someone I considered dominant.

As a dominant female, I have seen many men that were closer to submissive than dominant, but claimed to be dominant because that was more acceptable to them. They have a difficult time admitting they were submissive because they saw it as faulty. Lots of men think they have to be what a 'real' man is and downgrade submissive men because of it. Acceptance in many ways is challenging to people. Our concepts are what they are. Right, wrong or neither, we can go for acceptance of all things and still wouldn't necessarily be right, fair, accepting or correct.

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RE: diapers ? - 6/30/2015 5:29:09 PM

DesFIP

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You can be dominant and still enjoy bottoming. Or submissive and enjoy topping.

It may not be a control thing to him, just a sensation related item.

However, what is wrong is that he wasn't upfront with you about this and that he didn't talk to you about it. Instead he blindsided you by deliberately leaving this for you to find.

Beyond that, if you can't have a relationship with someone who expects you to indulge his diaper fetish, that's perfectly fine.

If you otherwise are compatible, then you'll have to both agree that you should not be subject to wearing diapers, nor do you want to know that he does when you aren't there.

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