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Do Brownie points work? - 7/10/2015 11:07:58 PM

treedcat

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If a slave had perhaps committed lets say some minor infractions that might merit punishment could those infractions be balanced off by doing something special for their Domme.
Just wondering how the Dommes here would address the situation

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RE: Do Brownie points work? - 7/11/2015 12:37:25 AM

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Do you really want to know?

I would be angry that he was trying to manipulate me into a better mood because he had done something wrong. Honesty and facing what was done with a willingness to accept the penalty is how I expect it to be handled. You have already done something you feel you have to make up for and some women like that, but I wouldn't. I can handle an error. I won't tolerate manipulation.

You know her, so what would she want?

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RE: Do Brownie points work? - 7/11/2015 12:52:08 AM

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Yes i see what You are saying although in this instance it was not an attempt at manipulation, i would never do that, the brownie points accrued before the errors were made but You have clarified my thinking.
Thank You

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RE: Do Brownie points work? - 7/11/2015 12:59:44 AM

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If it is after the fact, then that would be different. I may feel that glow of how sweet he was to do what he did, but I would still hold the position of right and wrong and it would depend on what was done. I don't like grey areas. A lot of things are black and white especially if they go into areas of deception, cheating or if it effects other people and such.

Dynamics to me are not just there for play. If he doesn't value our dynamics and relationship and knowingly and willfully does what he knows he shouldn't, especially at our ages, I would have to consider that we might not be a good fit. Even a minor infraction can amount to a big deal. It depends on what it is, how it came about and if I feel he compromised himself, me or us.

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RE: Do Brownie points work? - 7/13/2015 3:33:07 AM

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I would still take him to task for what he did. And give him special props as a result of brownie points. Both are important.

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RE: Do Brownie points work? - 7/13/2015 12:18:56 PM

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I don't see how positive acts in the past can minimize the harm done with an error, unless you're trying to undo the damage you've done. Otherwise they're two separate acts.

I agree with Nookie. Both acts need acknowledgement. Reward the good deeds, reprimand for the bad.

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