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Just Didn't Work - 7/26/2015 4:38:40 PM

RockaRolla

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I was with my man last night, and in the heat of the moment he wanted me to slap him hard, several times, in the face.

It's a kink I've been into in the past, and done to other partners without a problem. This time it just didn't click. Even though he enjoyed it and had no regrets, I didn't cause him harm or permanent damage, it's just not something that worked for me.

I never really understood the phenomenon of a D/s dynamic or BDSM play in general going by the wayside when the couple falls in love, but that may have been what happened here. There's also the fact that he's been a victim of abuse in the past, and has honestly been through enough shit I'm scared of adding to it. Though I can indulge his maso side in other ways without guilt. *shrug*

Regardless, it didn't work, I accept this and he accepts it. There are plenty of other ways for us to enjoy each other.

Though I am curious about the why for me.

Any kinks you've enjoyed with some partners but not the others? Why?

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RE: Just Didn't Work - 7/26/2015 5:10:41 PM

Wayward5oul

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I am curious to hear what kind of feedback you get from this, because I am in a similar situation, though from the opposite side. I recently started a relationship with someone who has been into bdsm for several years. All was fine at the beginning, but as we got closer he found it difficult to engage in activities he had been doing with others for years. He never gave an exact reason, but judging from his comments, he didn't feel right doing anything that might hurt me. He wanted to, but when it came time he couldn't do it without feeling guilt or shame. It was not something that he experienced with other partners, so I am left wondering what some of the possible reasons are, aside from the knee-jerk reaction that my insecurities tell me-something wrong with me.

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RE: Just Didn't Work - 7/26/2015 5:38:33 PM

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Many kinks I enjoy with some partners but not others.

For one, the more in love I am, the dirtier I get. The more humiliating I can be and so on. Because I know their body and soul. I've studied them.

But each relationship is different. Every blend of energy.

It's all different, and I like to find a personal groove with each person.

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