TimYearneau
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You had two sessions with two pro dommes? You paid for the sessions, the sessions were fine, but they asked you to do something you werent prepared to do and you left
Am I getting the positions right so far?
I dont want to assume anything before I answer your broader question.
Neither were Pro-Dommes. I met both at social gatherings at different times. I told them I'm looking for a life-style Mistress and they both agreed.
Thanks for the response Tim.
Ok so I had the scenarios wrong,
I take a session as a paid "play time/scene" which is why I asked.
The first lady...became an escort service as you were getting to know her, did she mention this to you in your emails and chats or during your sessions.
Many people use the word networking to get their business growing, passing out cards, facebook, twitter, to promote their businesses, and she may have thought word of mouth is a definite asset. You decided to forgo the 150$ escort... I dont blame you.
You walked away, you had the presence of mind to say nope not going down this path.
Everyone likes making money, it depends on your moral /ethical stance, and the fullness of your wallet that decides whether thats an ulterior motive or not.
Had you spoken to the second woman about forced bi, or that you had bi fantasies?
now personally if I was faced with the same dilema i would have been pissed that she introduced a third party without telling you about it, or discussing you, it would have been not only no, but hell no.
Oh and he may NOT have been her "dom" there are a lot of men who like to watch their SO with another man.. but if you knew nothing about it, then I would have walked out too.
Depending on how long she had been with her "man" My man would come before a prospective sub.
BUT I would not expect any interaction with a third party without being thoroughly discussed and agreed to.
I would have walked out too...probably gotton quite nasty about it as well.
Ulterior motive in the first case, maybe...but a new business will suck up a lot of motives.
Ulterior motive in the second case..not so much.....if she didnt discuss it with you previously, then I would have nothing to do with her again...boundaries not kept. but as an ulterior motive...possibly, maybe over excitement at coming across someone with a kink for bi....I dunno her side of the story. Again you walked away, an unpleasant life lesson, but learn from it, and move on.
As Everyone having an ulterior motive. thats what comes of having dreams and ambition. SOme play the long game, some play the short game, some do it with a passion, some do it by design and some do it by accident. and some dont realise they are doing it. Until its pointed out to them.
You have to be self aware...we all want things, not just money, how we go about getting "things", IS an ulterior motive. Using other people as a means to an end, happens VERY VERY often, in every aspect of life.
You walked out of it, of your own volition, you did the right thing for you...just dont assume, that every women/dommes/doms/subs/slaves/men/trans/ have a motive...thats a horrible way to live. it sucks the happiness right out of you....
just m y 2 cents
Thank you for your input. I do realize my fault in that I "jumped" into it without knowing either of them too well. I didn't know what the proper terminology is when you meet a life-style dominant woman for a date and/or platonic play. I just used the word "session."
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