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effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/11/2015 7:48:54 PM   
noorgasms4u


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Status: offline 		I wanted to ask you what kinds of effects you have experienced when receiving long term orgasm tease and denial.
Does your body, mind, senses, or manners change?
Is it hard for you to concentrate or think clearly?
Is it hard for you to behave correctly at work?

I feel a strong need to be kept in such a state but thought it prudent to do homework first. Male and females are encouraged to respond.
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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/11/2015 8:34:06 PM   
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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/12/2015 4:29:36 AM   
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BTW: Being focused on chastity IS being focused on your dick. Just saying.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/12/2015 12:02:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you're really serious about "doing homework" why not just lock yourself up and see what happens?

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/12/2015 12:06:03 PM   
MiaCastle


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Status: offline 		noorgasms, you want to lock up a brain and wonder if things will go well? No device needed here and you have your answer. Just thinking about it has fried the brain.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/12/2015 12:44:14 PM   
kyra


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Status: offline 		It continually puts me in a very lustful state, which I like a lot.

It makes me a "living dildo" for dommes, because I'm conditioned not to orgasm. And if I'm the one domming a female, there's no stopping period from orgasm.

I don't have problems concentrating, thinking clearly or behaving correctly. Quite the opposite, as it enhances me.

The only thing I've had to watch out for is sometimes fighting off the orgasm when I overdo it, which can make your body very tight and tense. It takes awhile to get it down, but even then, I sometimes push things slightly too far. You get a feel for it the longer you do it.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 8/19/2015 2:35:23 PM   
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If you're really serious about "doing homework" why not just lock yourself up and see what happens?


My thoughts exactly.

Everyone is going to react differently. Personally, after a day or two, I completely forget that I'm locked up. But others may experience the exact opposite effect and may not be able to think of anything else. YMMV.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/24/2015 6:12:12 AM   
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If you're really serious about "doing homework" why not just lock yourself up and see what happens?


That wouldn't tell me anything. There is a huge divide between self-denial and being made to do it by another. The former is just an issue of not playing with yourself. YAWN. The latter is a major rush, as it's a hand-over of control.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/24/2015 6:16:05 AM   
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BTW: Being focused on chastity IS being focused on your dick. Just saying.


I strongly disagree. It can be that way, but it's nowhere near definitive.

If viewed properly, it is all about the giving over of control. That's all about the Domme, not the sub's dick. In fact, the sub's dick becomes entirely ancillary to the concept -- hardly a point of focus.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/24/2015 6:27:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: noorgasms4u

I wanted to ask you what kinds of effects you have experienced when receiving long term orgasm tease and denial.
Does your body, mind, senses, or manners change?
Is it hard for you to concentrate or think clearly?
Is it hard for you to behave correctly at work?

I feel a strong need to be kept in such a state but thought it prudent to do homework first. Male and females are encouraged to respond.

Nothing much changes in me at all.
It also depends what you mean by 'long term'.
Are we talking a few days? Weeks? Months??

Personally, for me and my OH, if we don't engage for a bit (and by that I mean a few days) it gets forgotten about and doesn't play any part in either of our thought processes one way or the other.
We do what we do when we feel like it. Time is of no consequence at all.

There isn't any difference whether we did it an hour ago or a month ago.
That's because we look forward to what we are doing at the time and fully enjoy it for what it is.
We don't think about the gaps in between because 'life' fills in the gaps.

YMMV.


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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/24/2015 7:10:09 PM   
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There was a sub here who had orgasm denial for as long as one year and felt it's not long enough! She loves it as it's her kink!

But you really have to consider if you really would enjoy this. If you are someone like me who needs to cum on a daily basis, then I would imagine, the distraction would be quite difficult to deal with and could affect daily living yea.

Orgasm denial is a hard limit for me, as I am a woman with unlimited capacity to orgase and an insatiable sexual appetite. I think any man who practices denial with me is wasting my capacity.



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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/24/2015 7:11:18 PM   
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Well when I didnt cum for 4 years I became a royal bitch if that counts

Why didn't you cum for 4 years? Not into masturbation?

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 3:02:41 AM   
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Does your body, mind, senses, or manners change?

I get more tactile and short-tempered, but only around specific individuals who I don't have to put up any sort of front or act for.

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Is it hard for you to concentrate or think clearly?

No. I went through three relationships without an orgasm, and didn't have any intimate contact until I was 17, so I'm pretty sure I can handle however long my Master decides to withhold things.

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Is it hard for you to behave correctly at work?

No. I go into a professional mindset at work - I focus on the job, and what the job requires rather than anything that might be going on outside of it. Do I occasionally let my mind wander while on break? Sure. But the moment that I am back in the office, focus-mode engages.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 4:46:35 AM   
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No. I went through three relationships without an orgasm, and didn't have any intimate contact until I was 17, so I'm pretty sure I can handle however long my Master decides to withhold things.

That counts? I only lost my virginity at 19 which for me is late, considering how sexually aware I already was by 19 and since my first was also a virgin together with me, he was totally more clueless than me. But I been dating boys my age since I was 5 yr old so it's purely by choice. But anyway, how come no woman counts masturbation as orgasms? I've been masturbating since like forever, before I even lost my virginity.


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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 10:41:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Greta75

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No. I went through three relationships without an orgasm, and didn't have any intimate contact until I was 17, so I'm pretty sure I can handle however long my Master decides to withhold things.

That counts? I only lost my virginity at 19 which for me is late, considering how sexually aware I already was by 19 and since my first was also a virgin together with me, he was totally more clueless than me. But I been dating boys my age since I was 5 yr old so it's purely by choice. But anyway, how come no woman counts masturbation as orgasms? I've been masturbating since like forever, before I even lost my virginity.



I wasn't sure whether to count it; I didn't start or even consider masturbation until I was in a relationship, and even then I get bored with it too quickly to do anything worthwhile.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 1:04:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me it just made me turn it off. Turn off desire, turn off sex, turn off need.
Teasing can only go so far for me without orgasm before I just don't want it or them.
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ORIGINAL: noorgasms4u

I wanted to ask you what kinds of effects you have experienced when receiving long term orgasm tease and denial.
Does your body, mind, senses, or manners change?
Is it hard for you to concentrate or think clearly?
Is it hard for you to behave correctly at work?

I feel a strong need to be kept in such a state but thought it prudent to do homework first. Male and females are encouraged to respond.



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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 9:47:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
Being focused on chastity IS being focused on your dick. Just saying.


It's an amazing paradox, is it not.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/25/2015 10:57:02 PM   
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I wasn't sure whether to count it; I didn't start or even consider masturbation until I was in a relationship, and even then I get bored with it too quickly to do anything worthwhile.

That's true, masturbation is more fun with a man involve.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/28/2015 1:55:51 PM   
DannyIsNotWelcom


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ORIGINAL: noorgasms4u

I wanted to ask you what kinds of effects you have experienced when receiving long term orgasm tease and denial.
I feel a strong need to be kept in such a state but thought it prudent to do homework first. Male and females are encouraged to respond.


From the fact that you want to do your homework first (I don't understand the snide remarks, that's the most sensible thing I've read here in a while) I gather that you don't have relevant experience in the field. Like other people said, different people react differently, but then again I always maintain that we humans are not so extremely different in the end.

My advice is: Proceed with caution. It can have a strong effect on your general sense of well-being as well as your psyche. I remember the days when I was not a slave, when I was all nervous and tense it often dawned on me that I hadn't had it in a while.

Nowadays, after going through several stages of training, my master can control every aspect of it and that's how I want it. I have an orgasm exactly when I am instructed to have one, which also means that he can keep me on the edge without me having any chance to go over it without approval - don't underestimate that, it can really drive you crazy! - and he can also determine how much fun I get out of it.

But in order for me to be a healthy, happy human being I need to have at least a lousy one every once in a while.

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RE: effects of long term tantalism and denial - 9/28/2015 2:10:33 PM   
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That's true, masturbation is more fun with a man involve.


I would go one step further and say it's completely different. The one thing that you can't simulate when you do it to yourself is the inability to predict what comes next. If someone else watches you and gives you instructions that predicament goes away. My master has never touched my thing (except with a feather) and yet I feel very close to him whenever I'm allowed to touch it.

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