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RE: Sub/Dom Contracts - 9/23/2015 6:55:58 PM

IsDom

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We have a contract, we found it very helpful as a way to ease the communication. It does not however have protocols or a list of rules in it, that is another matter and they change and evolve.
Our contract is about how we want to base our relationship, finances, housing, the exchange of authority and power between us and stuff of that nature.
It worked well for us to "negotiate" and talk freely when we were making the contract.

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RE: Sub/Dom Contracts - 9/24/2015 4:19:32 AM

Greta75

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul
But I am familiar with romantic couples who do have contracts that among other things, establish protocols and such. I am not talking about 'just in the bedroom' types like me. I am talking about people who actively engage in their M/s dynamic at all times. Including protocols that they have established that helps to discreetly maintain the dynamic in public and around vanillas.

You know the bdsm world is complicated. End of the day, the dynamic has to work between two people. For me, if I require a contract from someone, I am definitely not romantically involve with him and I find it a very cold thing.

And anyway, I will never be the contract type, because, to me, that is a huge lack of trust, big time. Let's have a piece of paper to refer to, and point out the stuffs that you trespass, incase you trespass any of these written things! And then if it has been trespass, so what? What are the consequences? You break up? I mean, with or without contract, same thing right?

Like seriously, most unromantic thing ever. But everyone has their own different kinks and if a contract rocks their world, sure. Nothing wrong with that. Do it if it rocks your world. If not, like for me, it fizzles my world, so I won't do it.

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