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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 10/22/2015 11:29:40 PM

Wanderling

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People go apeshit if you look at their profile but don't message. At best, they accuse you of window shopping, and at worst threaten to cut your boobs off with a rusty knife.

It doesn't bother me if people look and don't bite.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 10/25/2015 10:12:14 AM

LuminousFire

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I have spoken on this subject matter often everywhere. And be banned from sites, fet and forums frequently, for doing so.

I think its a great shame and why userbase does not grow or the sites just turn into another alt etc evolution and inaction and a matter of time.

You just have to look at collar v fet (another choice fresh choice 4.3 million members granted many millions of stolen pictures and lying cheats (honest cheats are fine)).

I am not writing my suggestions as I have done so many times and sought answers. I received none. I asked a couple of the regular’s times many years - they had no answers for me. I asked them to get together and ask. I am not even sure if the mods are here these days(?)

No-one cares someone mentioned it must still make money or it would be no more _ i imagine it borderline myself. But a few regulars aside no-one real stays the duration. I myself pop in from time to time. And i can assure you in aprrox ten years ive not remotely come close to meeting anyone genuine from here. It is not impossible just alot more difficult if you are man.

I don’t admire comments like OsideGirl in this instance. No matter the user if they search or mail someone then surely 90% of their mails/views (not 10%) should be going to someone who is close approximation of what they say do you not agree. And I disagree as people become adept at smoke and irrors and a typical joiner of any site is led to believe that all are who they say, or most. It is a fair assumption is it not.

Every time I come back here my first read is site announcements ominously quiet x many years.

But men are horn dawgs and they can support sites like Ashley Madison, fet- feed page.
I doth not think that fair myself. But there you go. This one can still support itself through ad revenue and it has gullible men and attached element to fall back on.

Who is to say I am me or op is them. I apologize for not being able to answer this one remotely. And I have no idea who to mail or ask. Each of my vistis since its conception it goes frther downhill – tere are good people here but they are easily outnumbered

Start your own site and good lucking keeping the swarm of at it people out of it – but it can be done. I thought about starting one you know but most of the time I do not have the will, and I wonder, still, what became of collarme, as that promised to address all that was wrong.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 10/30/2015 11:44:57 AM

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The amount of spam and scam on this site is off the chart...
But its not only on this site its almost any site out there, you name a dating site vanilla or BDSM and there is more spam and scam than actual ppl seriously looking for a real World connection.
Its truly sad

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 10/30/2015 1:13:52 PM

LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: S1CK

The amount of spam and scam on this site is off the chart...
But its not only on this site its almost any site out there, you name a dating site vanilla or BDSM and there is more spam and scam than actual ppl seriously looking for a real World connection.
Its truly sad

Simple solution, get away from the computer and go into the real world and make a connection there...

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/2/2015 7:44:36 AM

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How to tell you are speaking to a bare-chested, un-bathed Russian sitting in his basement drinking vodka while he tries to scam money or ID from you:

1) They can't get prepositions and adverbs right to save their life...if they "are seeking for a master" what they are seeking is your personal information or your money

2) They are a slave living out of country who hotlists you the first day they are a member; bonus points if the age difference exceeds 20 years

3) They have no limits other than death

4) You reverse image look-up their profile pic on tineye and get 30 hits going back 5 years, all on dating sites

5) You ask them to send a selfie with a clock or calendar in the background and they don't have a phone that will take pics

6) You tell them you have an std, a scar across your face, are an amputee and have erectile dysfunction and they say they don't care---you tell them you are broke and unemployed and you never hear from them again

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 4:19:16 AM

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new addition...if the female slave from Tennessee lists her weight somewhere in the range of 45-70 confusing kilograms for pounds

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 4:22:28 AM

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new addition...if the female slave from Tennessee lists her weight somewhere in the range of 45-70 confusing kilograms for pounds

That's an easy mistake to make, when I signed up I confused it and thought I listed pounds but it was in kilograms, how to get obese with a single mouse click... Though it didn't stop guys sending me pics I didn't care to see.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 6:18:29 AM

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In the last few months, I've noticed an extremely odd pattern with a certain type of sub, so much in fact that I suspect it's the same person, but I don't know what the hell that person is trying to achieve...

- She has a really detailed and well written profile
- She has just created the profile
- She is very attractive and has several photos on her profile
- When you email her, she immediately send you a short "generic" reply with her yahoo id, WITHOUT having looked at your profile
- When you talk to her on IM, she seem distracted (long time to reply, probably chatting many other ppl same time), and not really going indepth about herself (personality, interests, life, etc)
- A few days later she closes her CS profile and vanishes from yahoo

It's really strange.... I wouldn't have thought she was a fake the first time i saw that, but after seeing that pattern repeats like 6 times i don't think it's a coincidence.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 6:28:48 AM

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Not to be rude, but 6 times in a row?

Apart from that, what you are looking for is generally referred to as "unicorn", I'm sure you can figure out why, there's the possibility of her having gotten a better offer, or somebody is playing around... Could also be that she simply blocked you, she might still be here and on yahoo, but you can't see her anymore

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 6:42:08 AM

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Not in a row... in the last few months...

Yes of course she could have found someone else or ran away from CS in horror and I didn't think anything of it the first few times I saw that, however it after seeing it several times it does start to look very suspicious.

I definitely think it's someone playing around, because the whole pattern is very unusual, especially the fact that

- Although she seems intelligent and serious, she doesn't bother looking at your profile before replying
- She sends her yahoo right of the bat
- She "vanishes" after being on CS after just a few days after having created her profile

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 6:47:51 AM

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Who has time to read a long list of fakes and scammers? THAT would be a time waster.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/6/2015 3:49:11 PM

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In reality the D/s community is more fantasy than reality. D/s is really nothing more than a smallish part of the sex industry and most of the women on sites like collar me are in fact Pro Domme's looking for clients. Yes there are a few genuine lifestyle Domme's on here, but the majority are in fact Pro's. That however isn't a bad thing, Pro's have their place in D/s as much as they do in any other part of the industry. The problem with sites like collar me is that they tend to attract Pro's looking for free advertising and sub men looking for something that really only exists in fantasy.
Women whether they claim to be lifestyle or Pro don't date wimpy men who describe themselves as worthless, worms, maggots or in any other derogatory way.

In reality the chances of a sub man meeting a genuine Dominant woman are about the same as winning the lottery.

In reality there are very few real dominant women which is why men become desperate and the Domme's can be so picky, . On the other hand sub women are at a premium and in reality they hold the upper hand because it's the Dom's who are desperate.

It's simple supply, demand, reality, fantasy, and of course money.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 11/13/2015 5:34:37 PM

WinsomeDefiance

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SubinSouthend wrote:

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...In reality the chances of a sub man meeting a genuine Dominant woman are about the same as winning the lottery.

In reality there are very few real dominant women which is why men become desperate and the Domme's can be so picky, . On the other hand sub women are at a premium and in reality they hold the upper hand because it's the Dom's who are desperate.

It's simple supply, demand, reality, fantasy, and of course money.

Personally, I've come to the conclusion that there aren't as many submissive men as it would appear. Rather, there are a great many male fetishist. There is no insult intended or implied in that statement. Truthfully, I think it is a shame that men seem to be pigeon holed into being labeled 'male submissive' because the option to list fetishist is not available. It is even more regretful that many do not recognize the difference and genuinely think of themselves as submissive all the while focusing on their fetish - and becoming frustrated at being unable to find a dominant female willing to oblige them.

If you take into consideration the number of fetishist and remove them from the equation, there seems to be a very small number of actual male submissive indiiduals looking to serve in a submissive capacity. Dominant individuals, regardless of gender - tend to want to be in charge and make the rules.

Regarding dominant men being desperate... the dominant men I know personally are in high demand, and a far cry from desperate. That is not to say desperate men of a dominant bent don't exist, LOL.

Just my personal observations. YMMV

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 12/8/2015 3:10:15 PM

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While I do think some of the fin dommes are real there are undoubtably scammers some of which are probably some dude trying to make a buck. For example a findome who refuses to prove her pictures are really her or "only has one pic"... I searched a 250 mile radius from Houston tx and I only came up with 11 profiles that matched my interests now granted no one is ever going to be on the same level of kink as I am so I also found about 50 or so that came pretty close. Now I weeded out all the findoms and fake pics and was left with 13 profiles out of which only 3 are actively on line. I wasted countless hours reading profiles and emails from women that have no interest in me they just want cash. I do respect that there are some guys out there that enjoy such a thing but I think findommes are just lazy creatures. I would be willing to give everything for the right Mistress but I would never pay a required tribute to any of these prostitutes. That's why I think there should be a findome check box with the dom/sub/switch boxes so people like me can block the whores and talk to people actually interested in the lifestyle. It would of saved me a lot of time knowing that there is no one out there a bit faster and I can move on and expand my search. Hell I probably could of found someone 400 miles from here but I wasted my time on profiles I didn't want to see or people that did not disclose they were after my money till email #38.

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 12/8/2015 3:47:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Truthfully, I think it is a shame that men seem to be pigeon holed into being labeled 'male submissive' because the option to list fetishist is not available. It is even more regretful that many do not recognize the difference and genuinely think of themselves as submissive all the while focusing on their fetish - and becoming frustrated at being unable to find a dominant female willing to oblige them.

I usually refer to them as "Do Me Bottoms". I think they wouldn't use the title "fetishist" for the very reason you stated (and I bolded).

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RE: Fake women and men scammers. - 12/8/2015 7:11:02 PM

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= fast reply =

Well, I can honestly say, most of the guys from the otherside that contact me are mostly real.

Do the majority look like they just got released from San Quentin? Yes. Yes they do.

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