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freedomdwarf1 -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 11:33:33 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Kreychec

Difference of opinion I get, the disrespect thing I don't.

Yeah, I know.
Sometimes in here you need your tinfoil hat [8D]




HAK1M -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 11:59:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Kreychec

Are the forums always like this?

Most the time and can get worse. BP




UllrsIshtar -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 12:03:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Kreychec

Are the forums always like this?


No, it's a fairly recent addition with the new influx of trolls we've had lately.

People are annoyed at the constant hassle, and the posting styles are reflecting that.




dcnovice -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 3:30:50 PM)

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I was referring to the mellow-dramatic faggotry.

Oh my.

Given that the bulk of Collarchat posters are straight, I'm not sure what you mean by "faggotry." Or is that an all-purpose pejorative?

"Mellow-dramatic," meantime, conjures an amusing image of Olivier getting stoned before playing Hamlet. [:)]




OsideGirl -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 3:46:47 PM)


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"Mellow-dramatic," meantime, conjures an amusing image of Olivier getting stoned before playing Hamlet. [:)]


I was thinking more Snoop Dog...




Kreychec -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 3:49:00 PM)

Lmao




HAK1M -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 6:28:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Kreychec

Lmao

I got nothing to tell ya man except, "seeing is believing". There's a lot of bad
logic around these folks , and if you don't agree with their "floating points of
view" they will insult you. Some folks here for some weird raisons believe a
pendulum can swing in one direction, if you choose to stick to the reality and
say "no" a pendulum MUST be swing to and fro to be called a pendulum, ...they
will insult you.
And the first and foremost advice I'm gonna give you is, don't care too much about insults, but here is the thing. 1-If you have an amazon account deactivate it.
2- in case you wanna cancel your order, call them imidiately, use the phone.




HAK1M -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 7:15:43 PM)

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Again, you don't know me, so I will take this as a general statement pertaining to all women without virtue of exception.
Is English your second language? What does the phrase "almost invariably" mean to you? You appear to be having trouble following the conversation.


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alpha499 why are you replying to the post I addressed directly to JOK3ER? This kind of sock-puppetry will not stand!

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ORIGINAL: JOK3ER/alpha499/mysterio47/tinfoilhatbrigade12

DANG! sorry for not waiting on your advice.
It's a shame your efforts haven't borne any fruit. Your skill set clearly needs a lot of work.

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KO. people with just mederate social skills set the bar for eye contact to minimum.
What does that even mean? Is English your second language?

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what the keck is that ?? raise one eyebrow?
What is it? It's a facial expression.

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have you thought about finding a bush or a light pole, and you drop to your knees as such woman is watching, then you raise one leg and pee pee. doing this will also give you an extra bonus for creativity.
No dude, that would make you look even more socially inept than you are.

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I really gotta love this "quip" one. but thanx I pass on it.
I agree, it's too subtle for you.

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and you DO NOT appear to be the kind of guys who master direct approach techenics. "Fortune favours the bold", "Fortune favours the brave"
Approaching directly is fine if you're in a club looking to score. However I'm not desperate for pussy and consider approaching women to be neither bold nor brave. You might because you're still afraid of them.


you keep asking people if English is their second language, what is your point if you have one? .... and are you aware "ness" that
955 Millions in the world speak Mandarine.
405 Millions speak Spanish
310 Hindi
295 Arabic
etc...etc.... I can imagine you asking nearly 6 Milliards people " is English their second language?"

if English is your measure of intelligence, it is my fourth (4th) language , and I will be glad to point out your big time mistakes in your conversation with DreamLady.





MistressRage -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/4/2015 8:49:12 PM)

I would stop short of calling him dominant. He sounds more like an asshole.




crazyml -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 12:46:51 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: crazyml
No, it's actually not. If you extended your research beyond MRA websites you'd see how the views of a tiny minority of the feminist movement have been taken, dishonestly amplified, and equally dishonestly applied to the movement as a whole.
Oh do stop. You know you're lying. I realise feminism is 98% narrative and 2% fact, but you're becoming ridiculous.


Hmm. You are wrong in your realisation, either wilfully, perhaps through fear of losing the entitlement you rely upon, or perhaps because you're just not bright enough to analyse the issues. I don't really care to be honest.

But no, feminism is about addressing the historical inequality in the treatment of men vs women. That's certainly a fact. Feminism has achieved a lot, notably in the domains of equal pay for equal work (although there is still a lot of progress to be made there), it has also gone a long way to changing people's attitudes to rape. You're, no doubt, aware that marital rape was legally condoned right up until very recently? Feminism brought about the necessary changes in the law that removed the "free pass" that husbands had to rape their wives. I'm assuming that you think that this is a good thing?

Perhaps not?

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Again, I'm afraid you need to broaden your research. While I have to agree with you that there is indeed an element of hysteria surrounding Rape culture, it is not a "myth". Rape culture is a real topic, not a mythical one. It is an important topic that is filled with active and passionate debate. Are "myths" introduced into discussions about rape culture? Sure. But rape culture itself is less a "thing" to be deemed mythical or not, but an important area of debate and thought.
Really? Explain to me the cultural aspects of our society which say it's okay for women to be raped. Shouldn't take you long, what with rape culture being real and all.

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Again though, "all sex is rape" is not one of the underlying assumptions behind rape culture, so you're wrong again. The underlying assumption that drives the debate around rape culture is the question of whether our culture has resulted in a level of gender inequality that affects the way people feel about rape.
Honestly, this comprehension problem is becoming *fucking* irritating. Do you ever pay attention to anything anyone says or do you just make it all up in your head?

I never said the problem was "all sex is rape". I very clearly stated that there's a significant component of the feminist movement which believes any attempt by a man to SEDUCE a woman is tantamount to coercion and should therefore be considered rape.



Yes, and I corrected you on this false statement. Firstly by explaining to you that the inflation of the "all sex is rape" myth, is something that misogynists have been attempting to do for years, and what while there is certainly a very small, and fringe, component of the feminist movement that has expressed those views, the promotion of that fringe movement to a "significant component" is simple lying.

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That the only standard for acceptable sexual intercourse is a constant stream of begging for permission (by the man of course) to which the woman must respond with ENTHUSIASTIC consent all throughout the act of sex, otherwise it's coercion and he is guilty of rape.

This is not a fringe idea. It is the underlying mechanic behind all of the "consent education" courses which men at college campuses are now being forced to endure. Because, y'know, only men rape and it's like 20% of us because 1 in 5 women get raped. Yeah. A set of "facts" which have no evidence-base whatsoever, but let us remember: With feminism, dogma is more important than facts. ALL HAIL THE NARRATIVE!


If you understood more about feminism you'd know that many feminists working in the domain of rape prevention make a special point of highlighting the incidence of male on male rape (albeit occurring at a far far lower rate than male on woman rape), and yes they also seek to address the issues of woman on male rape (albeit occurring at even lower rates than male on male rape).

When the facts are so utterly unambiguous, any claim that there is "no evidence-base whatsoever" ends up being laughable. If only it weren't so sad that people should cling to such a fantasy.

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Ouchies! Does the cap fit?

It's ok to be angry and upset when you're forced to confront these things, and I don't mind at all if you want to "act out" a little bit, it might be helpful to you.
You're like a little yapping dog that tries to bite at me and then runs away and hides behind mommy moderator when I slap you down. Irritating with your constant yapping, but not something to be taken seriously.

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Since you've obviously been upset by the comment, perhaps you might ask yourself "What does a strong man have to fear from gender equality?" followed by "Would a strong man cling to patriarchy, or is that something that only weak and pitiful men do?"
I believe that part of the problem here is that your own manhood is so compromised, you can't even begin to understand your opponents.


Opponents? I think you're babbling now. Do you consider other men your opponents? Do you seriously believe that I would regard a weak minded, terrified little MRA advocate as an actual "opponent", goodness. Thanks for the chuckle.

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There's several problems with your viewpoint.

First off, feminism isn't about gender equality. Feminism is about whatever changes its proponents effect in society. The tendency to cling to a dictionary definition while ignoring the real effect of feminism is just rank, intellectual dishonesty.



First off.... feminism is all about gender equality. That is the whole point of feminism. Do a little research. You've claimed to be a utilitarian in your philosophy if I'm not mistaken? If so... why don't you actually read some Bentham? You know.. get to know the "thing" you purport to ascribe to.

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Second, gender equality is a chimera. It doesn't exist. Men are never going to possess the advantages which women, by virtue of their gender, possess. Men and women are complements (well, except the for the androgynous, but nobody can save those poor fuckers.


Really??? Really ??? Do you feel that downtrodden?

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Feminism proceeds from faulty assumptions (patriarchy theory) and then proceeds to ignore all counter-evidence which contradicts the narrative. There is no evidence which justifies the view that men and women are exactly the same except for genitalia. Likewise, the view that gender is socially constructed also has significant evidence to the contrary.


Gosh, no.... I don't think there's much evidence at all. In fact, it would seem that there is a lot of evidence to the contrary. Are you attempting to pitch the lie that gender equality is about claiming that men and women are the same? Oh my... that's a little bit silly of you.

Let me explain... Gender equality is not about claiming that men and women are equal, it is about claiming that they should have an equal right to opportunities, self government and ownership of their bodies.

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Your problem is that you feed yourself a bunch of stories about people with whom you disagree. It never occurs to you that their belief system could be more complex or nuanced than the simplistic role inside your head that you try and insist they play. You - and indeed pretty much all social justice warriors - insist that women who don't believe in feminism are suffering from internalised misogyny, while men who don't are patriarchal chauvinists clinging to a world of privilege.


In the face of the facts about women's rights, and the way in which women are routinely objectified I think that there is, indeed, a basis for both of those viewpoints.

That said, I've met plenty of women who disavow feminism, and a smaller number of men who challenge the concept of patriarchy. Although, they don't do it in the whining, butt-hurt way that others do. I'm very happy to repeat my experience that the vast majority of the whiners I encounter, and yes - you're certainly in the "whiner pot" are definitely acting out your fear at having your privilege taken away.

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It is an astonishingly arrogant, insular and - most of all - ignorant view. Some people just don't believe feminism's axioms. Some people are just more educated about the differences between men and women than you are. Some people understand that each gender has advantages and disadvantages and that - not only is there nothing wrong with that - but that sexual dimorphism is an advantage.

Some people regard evidence as more important than a narrative.

Since you don't actually comprehend what feminism's axioms are - this is just childish babble.

Since your definition of evidence is, to say the least, "unconventional" given your willingness to deny undisputed fact and cling to lies and misrepresentations that have been put to bed a thousand times any comment that you might make on evidence vs narrative is wholly pointless.




Awareness -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 3:42:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: crazyml
Hmm. You are wrong in your realisation, either wilfully, perhaps through fear of losing the entitlement you rely upon, or perhaps because you're just not bright enough to analyse the issues. I don't really care to be honest.
It's not that you don't care, it's just that you - like all feminists, especially those pathetic male feminists - are intellectually dishonest.

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But no, feminism is about addressing the historical inequality in the treatment of men vs women. That's certainly a fact.
No. That is what is known as a lie. A bald-faced lie.

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Feminism has achieved a lot, notably in the domains of equal pay for equal work (although there is still a lot of progress to be made there),
No, feminism insists that less capable, less well-trained individuals be given special preference because they possess a vagina. I have no problem with an appropriately qualified woman earning the same as a man. I do have a problem with an under-qualified and/or less capable woman not being evaluated against the same standards men are.

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it has also gone a long way to changing people's attitudes to rape. You're, no doubt, aware that marital rape was legally condoned right up until very recently?
No, it was legally undefined. IE: Considered impossible for a husband to rape his wife. Legally condoned implies approval which is just another typical example of feminist's tendency to engage in willful misrepresentation of fact.

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Feminism brought about the necessary changes in the law that removed the "free pass" that husbands had to rape their wives. I'm assuming that you think that this is a good thing?
Simple misrepresentation. It wasn't feminists, it was a variety of groups and the primary objection was that the law's view was unconstitutional. What else would you like to take credit for today?


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Yes, and I corrected you on this false statement. Firstly by explaining to you that the inflation of the "all sex is rape" myth, is something that misogynists have been attempting to do for years, and what while there is certainly a very small, and fringe, component of the feminist movement that has expressed those views, the promotion of that fringe movement to a "significant component" is simple lying.
The "all penetrative sex is rape" guacamola came from Andrea Dworkin - a known nutbag and NOT the subject of what we're talking about. You didn't correct me on a damn thing, you simply attempted to erect a strawman and I have no intention of letting you. This whole lying and misrepresentation thing really does come naturally to feminists. Amazing. Any shred of credibility you might have had has been well and truly blown away.





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If you understood more about feminism you'd know that many feminists working in the domain of rape prevention make a special point of highlighting the incidence of male on male rape (albeit occurring at a far far lower rate than male on woman rape), and yes they also seek to address the issues of woman on male rape (albeit occurring at even lower rates than male on male rape).
*chortle* Oh bullshit, you are such a liar. Feminism not only attempts to erase male victims, it actively opposes any moves which might broaden the definition of rape to include them and opposes any and all evidence that shows the prevalence of rape is not gender-based and indeed - women rape just as often as men do. Once again, the narrative overrides logic, reason and evidence.


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When the facts are so utterly unambiguous, any claim that there is "no evidence-base whatsoever" ends up being laughable. If only it weren't so sad that people should cling to such a fantasy.
There is no evidence-base for rape culture and when challenged to produce some, you've produced nothing besides more rhetoric, so I can only presume you concede the point.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
I believe that part of the problem here is that your own manhood is so compromised, you can't even begin to understand your opponents.

Opponents? I think you're babbling now. Do you consider other men your opponents?
Are you sitting comfortably with your warm milk and cookies? Lad, the person arguing against your proposition in a debate is your opponent.

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First off.... feminism is all about gender equality. That is the whole point of feminism. Do a little research.
Wrong! Nice try.

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You've claimed to be a utilitarian in your philosophy if I'm not mistaken? If so... why don't you actually read some Bentham? You know.. get to know the "thing" you purport to ascribe to.
I've said "I'm somewhat utilitarian" while making a joke. It's amusing to know you scour my posts looking for things to try and be snarky about. Funny little man.

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Really??? Really ??? Do you feel that downtrodden?
Straw man. Now you're denying sexual dimorphism, evolutionary psychology AND the biological underpinnings of gender? Wow, you really have a desperate need to cling to this world-view of yours.

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Gosh, no.... I don't think there's much evidence at all. In fact, it would seem that there is a lot of evidence to the contrary. Are you attempting to pitch the lie that gender equality is about claiming that men and women are the same? Oh my... that's a little bit silly of you.
A) Feminism is not about gender equality.
B) Feminists are the ones pitching the lies, lad. The viewpoint that there's no difference between men and women except genitalia and the belief that women are special is one promulgated all over the place by feminism so why on earth would you accuse me of advocating one of the central planks of your whackjob ideology.

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Let me explain... Gender equality is not about claiming that men and women are equal, it is about claiming that they should have an equal right to opportunities, self government and ownership of their bodies.
Really? Then why do feminists oppose reproductive rights for men and make the claim that a man owes 18 years of his blood, sweat and tears because he fucked some tart? That sure seems like feminists think women are entitled to rule over men's bodies.

As I said, feminism is not about gender equality. It's a movement by those women lacking sexual power who are attempting to gain political power. Nothing more.


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Your problem is that you feed yourself a bunch of stories about people with whom you disagree. It never occurs to you that their belief system could be more complex or nuanced than the simplistic role inside your head that you try and insist they play. You - and indeed pretty much all social justice warriors - insist that women who don't believe in feminism are suffering from internalised misogyny, while men who don't are patriarchal chauvinists clinging to a world of privilege.

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In the face of the facts about women's rights, and the way in which women are routinely objectified I think that there is, indeed, a basis for both of those viewpoints.
Objectified? You naive, ignorant puppy. Men are objectified every damn day, because men are disposable. I sure as shit would rather be objectified as a sex object than as a disposable work unit whose purpose is to work and die to protect the opposite gender. What's even more ironic is the number of women who feel entitled to objectify men in such a way.

Like I said, I view feminists as either uneducated, intellectually dishonest or stupid - and you've done nothing to demonstrate otherwise.

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That said, I've met plenty of women who disavow feminism,
Yes, there are plenty of women out there who don't like feminism misrepresenting them as victims.

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and a smaller number of men who challenge the concept of patriarchy.
No. "Patriarchy theory" lad, "patriarchy theory". There's no denying the patriarchal structure of our societies. Feminism's wilful attempt to conflate "patriarchy theory" with "patriarchy" is just another intellectually dishonest piece of legerdemain designed to manipulate the frame under which any discussion takes place.

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Although, they don't do it in the whining, butt-hurt way that others do.
Like all feminists, any problem that men have is reduced to "whining". Supposedly feminism is all about "gender equality" but apparently only women have problems. When men have problems, that's "whining".

Honestly, I don't know why you even bother. The behaviour of feminists so clearly contradicts their narrative. Feminists are so terrified of even discussing male problems they attempt to shut down any discussion at EVERY opportunity. Feminists use violence, intimidation and calls for censorship in their attempt to deny the validity of any issues experienced by men. And the beautiful thing is, that's exactly what YOU are doing. You're clearly a card-carrying feminist - your self-loathing for your own gender proves it.

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I'm very happy to repeat my experience that the vast majority of the whiners I encounter, and yes - you're certainly in the "whiner pot" are definitely acting out your fear at having your privilege taken away.
Let me guess - all the whiners are men, while all the fragile downtrodden flowers are women, right? Believe me dude, you're a classic cardboard cut-out feminist.

Trust me dude, no man cares what you think. Weak-minded, white knights doing their best to protect the wimmins are viewed with scorn and pity.

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Since you don't actually comprehend what feminism's axioms are - this is just childish babble.
Ah, nailed to the wall I see? No evidence I see? Yes, not surprised at all.

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Since your definition of evidence is, to say the least, "unconventional" given your willingness to deny undisputed fact and cling to lies and misrepresentations that have been put to bed a thousand times any comment that you might make on evidence vs narrative is wholly pointless.
Feminism has a narrative which it clings to in the face of all evidence, logic and reason. It's a philosophy of victim-hood which paints women as helpless victims and men as vile perpetrators. I can see why it appeals to the simple-minded and emotionally stunted.




Awareness -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 3:48:56 AM)

For fuck's sake Hak1m, I'm not interested in your linguistic butt-hurt. Grow up.




LadyConstanze -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 4:02:08 AM)

Crazy, I assume you have read that article? Had to find it again but it really goes into detail about a few of the points you made

http://mic.com/articles/88277/23-ways-feminism-has-made-the-world-a-better-place-for-men




HAK1M -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 9:35:05 AM)

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For fuck's sake Hak1m, I'm not interested in your linguistic butt-hurt. Grow up.

Are you high?.. am I the one who need to grow up?...
I have never commented on your posts or even wanted to take part in your infernal favourite subject " fiNminism" simply because I don't give a rats ass about what you think it is. Until you started your silly sarcasm with me, so I was letting you know it is not gonna work, at least not with me.




HAK1M -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 11:17:12 AM)

LOL. This seems to be an uphill battle for you. GL with your need for credibility.
Meanwhile, and in the light of these events I find my self asking " who is really behind feminism"? Since both men and women are equally screwed in the course of the deal. So wtf are you talking about?....and to the fucking hell with your feminism.




LadyPact -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 12:49:01 PM)

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Not as far as the law is concerned. And that's the critical issue. There's a marked gender disparity in arrests, convictions and sentencing. Female perpetrators are far less likely to be arrested, far less likely to be convicted and they're given far more lenient sentences when they are.

There's an inbuilt urge in the majority of men to protect women - for various reasons. For a lot of the male feminists and social justice warriors, this urge to protect is borne out of the belief that doing so helps their chances of getting laid.

(Of course, they're not honest with themselves about this belief. It's buried deep inside their psyche where they'll never have to confront it directly. And they hate the men who might force them to try and look at themselves with honesty.)

For others, it's a belief in - ironically - gender roles. That men's role is to protect women. And the irony of that, is that feminists have no problem exploiting that when it suits their agenda.

In contrast, women tend to suffer from a phenomenon called "own group preference". That is, all else being equal, a woman is more likely to support a fellow woman, just because of her shared gender. Consequently, women - and the feminists are the worst at exhibiting this trait - also tend to try and protect women, especially in any conflict involving a man.

Men don't exhibit that outside of tribal/brotherhood alliances such as sports teams.

What this adds up to is an implicit bias in law enforcement, prosecution and sentencing. And that's not going away any time soon.

I'm going to try to give this a go.

Issues like this and just about everything similar, when it comes to how it's viewed by the public, I view pretty much the same as a bell curve. When I'm analyzing things for myself, I tend to lop off the extremists on both ends. Especially anybody who is crossing into militant territory. You know the type. The crusaders that you'd swear they were carrying the proverbial cross on their back and if was in the literal, rather than the figurative sense, they'd probably beat the shit out of you with it until you've agreed with their position.

We're not exactly doing a bang up job in the area of treating people equally under the law. Actually, I think we suck at it. We have sucked at it when it's come to people of color, gender, sexual orientation, and a few others. For anybody who doesn't believe that, take a look at our legal system just a few decades ago. We've been really good at treating various categories of people like shit. Something we kind of have to stop.

You skipped something above that I consider to be important Hetero males have a tendency not to report when the perpetrator is a female. We already know there's a myriad of reasons why women don't report, so it's only logical to realize that the same applies to men. Then, there's the stuff that's gender specific. The big ones are how did you let a woman overpower you and physical response. (The latter is the same mental hell that women put themselves through if they get wet or God Forbid, their body responds in any kind of way.)

I do hear what you're saying about lighter sentencing and personally, I think that's a crap deal, too. Some folks are lucky that I'll never sit on the bench as a profession because the genitalia that a person happens to possess wouldn't be a determining factor for how long they sit behind bars.

I'm the first to admit that I'm guilty of own group preference, though it usually means I tend to align with other D-types. Hell, I think I even agreed with Arturas once. (Yes, yes, I know.) As far as s-types go, I've got a submit or split attitude and I know that doesn't exactly make me win popularity contests. I don't care what people get up to in their own home as long as it's some version of what the participants involved actually want.

Most people would think I'm willing to hang with other female tops when they've criminally (and that's the word for it) assaulted a male victim. Truth be told, I tend to be harder on them. They get away with more f^cked up stuff because they are female and I find it deplorable.





dreamlady -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 10:03:59 PM)


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Djeezus, you realize the concept of poly, and people's ability to be interested in a variety of partners, for a variety of reasons, is well accepted in the kink community right?

"Till death do us part no matter what" or "One True love for everybody" aren't myths that everybody here ascribes to.

Hell, if it wasn't for immigration purposes, I wouldn't be married myself, as the concept of "everlasting love no matter what" is as idiotic as anything else the Catholic church ever invented.


The newly married poster I was addressing is not talking about polyamory or whether a man can have more than one special woman in his life.
Even if he doesn't regard his other sexual partners as being special to him, his primary partner should be, just as he should be to her. Call me old-fashioned, but any man going around bemoaning how (radical) feminists have ruined the world, needs to lead by example, that the ONE SPECIAL WOMAN he chose to marry is better off with him than she would be without him because he appreciates her in the fullness of her womanliness.

Nobody brought up the subject of everlasting love. My focus was more about how a woman's sexuality should be encouraged, and that there's nothing wrong with a woman having a sense of pride in her feminine allure, instead of having some man come along and beat her down because he can't handle her level of attraction or sex appeal out of his own ego insecurities.

If you're including polyfuckery (polysexuality vs. polyamory, where there are inclusively committed relationships among all partners concerned however that may consensually unfold), then whatever open-marriage arrangement a couple has is their business. For some couples who don't swing as a couple, then these arrangements may be one-sided, which is also their business if such arrangements are consensually entered into.

But, for a man who obviously considers himself to be something special, it strikes me as supremely narcissistic of him to call everyone else a hypocrite when all he does is hide behind his own male version of hypocrisy in the name of D/s, as if all other women have consented to be reduced to the level of sex objects who have no right to delineate where they draw their boundaries with men like him who make male supremacist caricatures of themselves every. single. time they start carrying on with their paranoid whinging about the big bad feminists of the world.

DreamLady




UllrsIshtar -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 10:15:44 PM)

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that the ONE SPECIAL WOMAN he chose to marry is better off with him than she would be without him because he appreciates her in the fullness of her womanliness.


How do you know she's his "one special woman"?

Maybe she's just another cunt to him, and she likes it that way.

Maybe he just considers her his slave, has no emotional attachment to her whatsoever, and marriage was just something he did so he could move here and control her better.

Maybe he considered her a financial slave and this was a way to legally put her into debt to him. (You realize that an American citizen has to sign themselves to be responsible for a foreign spouse's debts for years, right? Even if the marriage ends)

Maybe he just married her to get a visa, and what they have is closer to an NSA where they don't consider each other 'special' at all.

Maybe they have a completely open relationship and consider none of their partners more or less 'special' than the other ones.

I didn't marry my husband because he's 'special' I married him because a banking error put my student visa status in jeopardy and I would have been kicked out of the country if I didn't marry him at the time.

Hell... I didn't even love him when I married him. Let alone consider him 'special'.







Greta75 -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 10:35:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
I didn't marry my husband because he's 'special' I married him because a banking error put my student visa status in jeopardy and I would have been kicked out of the country if I didn't marry him at the time.

Hell... I didn't even love him when I married him. Let alone consider him 'special'.

Wow, always thought this was a love match. Then why was he willing to get married base on these grounds?




UllrsIshtar -> RE: People Are Entitled? (11/5/2015 10:52:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Greta75


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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
I didn't marry my husband because he's 'special' I married him because a banking error put my student visa status in jeopardy and I would have been kicked out of the country if I didn't marry him at the time.

Hell... I didn't even love him when I married him. Let alone consider him 'special'.

Wow, always thought this was a love match. Then why was he willing to get married base on these grounds?


I love him now. If I didn't I wouldn't still be with him, considering that my legal need to stay married to him to keep my visa ended years ago. I have a permanent residency card now, and am eligible to become a US citizen, even if I would divorce him.

I asked him just now why he married me, his answer: Because I was smitten with you, and that made me make a stupid mistake that fortunately for me ended up working out well in the end.

I specified with him that I didn't love him before we married (I crossed my fingers behind my back during my vows) and asked him if he was sure he was willing to stay married to me for the two years needed, even if we ended up not working out relationship wise.
He assured me he would stand by that commitment, and that was good enough for me.

If he hadn't suggested getting married, I would have been deported, and he did have a crush on me at the time, so I guess he's right about it being a dumb mistake that fortunately worked out well for him, because I ended up falling in love with him afterwards.

Considering that is financially responsible for all my debt for years past the marriage (10 if I recall correctly) he really is lucky it worked out... I could have fucked him over soooooooooooo badly if I didn't have the ethics I do. [:D]






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