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being married - 7/17/2006 9:15:38 PM

butterflytatts

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Are there many subs out there who are married to a vanilla and are owned by a Dominant? If so, two questions.....one, do you think about falling in love with you Master, and two, does your spouse know of your "other" committment?

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RE: being married - 7/17/2006 10:39:06 PM

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quote:

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If so, two questions.....one, do you think about falling in love with you Master,

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and two, does your spouse know of your "other" committment?

I've never seen it work out long term in an affair. Either the truth comes out and/or one or all relationships end.

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RE: being married - 7/18/2006 3:48:35 AM

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What she said

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RE: being married - 7/18/2006 2:16:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: butterflytatts

Are there many subs out there who are married to a vanilla and are owned by a Dominant? If so, two questions.....one, do you think about falling in love with you Master, and two, does your spouse know of your "other" committment?

I was in this situation several years ago. I didn't fall in love with my dom but he fell in love with me and it caused a lot of problems when i ended it. It went on for 6 months before Hubby found out about it and He is now my Dom. My only regret was not discussing it with Hubby to begin with. If you haven't done this i strongly suggest you do, you may be surprised by his reaction, he may not be as vanilla as you think. Good luck with it.

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RE: being married - 7/18/2006 9:44:43 PM

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LA, I don't understand what you meant by this (and I don't understand what bandit is seconding, either):

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and two, does your spouse know of your "other" committment?

I've never seen it work out long term in an affair. Either the truth comes out and/or one or all relationships end.

When you say "in an affair" do you mean a relationship that is kept secret from the relevant spouse(s)? Please clarify?

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RE: being married - 7/18/2006 10:02:36 PM

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When you say "in an affair" do you mean a relationship that is kept secret from the relevant spouse(s)? Please clarify?

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Yes.

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RE: being married - 7/18/2006 11:00:53 PM

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Thank you for the clarification. Then I agree with you, entirely. I have seen long term polyamorous relationships work just fine. But when there is concealment, cheating, I think that there is not a good likelihood of the relationship lasting. Although I'm sure there are 20 year affairs that work just fine, so long as no one is bothered by the deception issues.

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