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Proper profile - 7/18/2006 7:44:14 AM   
DrawntotheFlame


Posts: 6
Joined: 7/18/2006
Status: offline 		I am new to this wonderful site, and I hope to find a wonderful dominate to serve. I know that profiles are important to that end. I could use help from any interested in sparing a few minutes to look it over. Iam not sure if collarme will allow the picture as of yet. Thank you A/all. Be well.
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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 8:10:15 AM   
Cloudz


Posts: 836
Joined: 9/13/2005
Status: offline 		Hi there,

I am sure you will get several excellent comments on how to improve your profile. Yes, it needs some work. I would suggest you read a few...or many and take note of what stands out to you. Your profile is a bit of a ramble...and needs a redo.
Good luck to you!

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"Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain."


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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 8:20:04 AM   
DrawntotheFlame


Posts: 6
Joined: 7/18/2006
Status: offline 		thank you Cloudz for your response. I guess I was looking for specific comments. I assumed it needed work thus the post. Could you give me any suggestions other than reading other post. I have done that . You say I ramble on. I had one before and I was told it did not contain any useful information...this just makes me more confused as to what a Mistress wishes to see on a profile. I appreciate each is different and I will be patient, but would appreciate your honest appraisal and specific advice. Be well.

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 9:20:26 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


Posts: 1898
Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		Some suggestions I have:

- Hard facts like your marital/dating status, if you have kids or not, how long you have been interested in the lifestyle, and roughly what kind of relationship you are looking for (long term, casual, committed, etc)
- As you are newish to the lifestyle, some information about what you have been doing to educate yourself - reading books?  going to local munches?  Put it in there.
- Evaluate what you have to offer better.   Can you clean?  Cook?  Massage?  Fix a car?  Balance a checkbook?  Fix a computer?  Surely you have SOME skills that a Domme might find useful.

Frankly I found your profile rambled on and the impression I came away with was "disorganized and probably not ready to serve as he sees he doesn't have much to offer and will expose himself as weak".



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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 11:20:41 AM   
Owned1


Posts: 847
Joined: 7/6/2005
From: Toronto, Ontario
Status: offline 		What a great way to get everyone to take a peek at your profile <winks>  My suggestion is to be yourself in your profile, be honest and not what you think everyone wants to read.  If you know yourself then you are able to give yourself to another.

owned

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 11:31:38 AM   
ShiftedJewel


Posts: 2492
Joined: 12/2/2004
Status: offline 		I don't know... the only thing I see that is really wrong with it is that it doesn't say "willing to relocate" or "open to poly"....
 
lmao
 
Welcome to the forum boards... hope you have a wonderful stay with us.
 
Jewel

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 12:25:29 PM   
mp072004


Posts: 381
Joined: 12/22/2005
Status: offline 		<teacher>

This is what I learned from your profile:

1) You like the idea of giving up control
2) You like the idea of providing service
3) You want a monogamous relationship, or, at least, you want only one partner for yourself.
4) You want a relationship with a woman.

The rest of the words don't actually communicate anything, and the first two points above are, as you can see, pretty vague. I learned that you were monogamous only because I read carefully and you referred at one point to "the one" who attracts you.

You can improve your profile by making it more specific, and writing sentences that express meaning clearly. "I am looking for a monogamous love relationship with a dominant woman. I would like to cede control of many areas of my life; I would like her to decide how my money is spent, and I would like her to determine what we do in our sex life. I am made happy by increasing the happiness of others, so it would be important for me to provide a variety of services in this relationship. I would want to be responsible for household chores to allow my lady additional leisure time." Now, this is not a complete profile, and it's not intended to reflect what YOU actually want. However, I imagine you will be more successful with concise and lucid sentences like those above. They have easily recognizable meanings, and they use examples to define fuzzy words like "control" and "service".

</teacher>

Monica

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 12:58:00 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


Posts: 5585
Joined: 6/25/2004
Status: offline 		I like the profile except it doesn't say whether you are married/have children, seek local/can relocate, and one too many kneelings for my liking, but that is just me. 
...And what do you mean by
quote:

I will not be what you desire and I accept that
 ...You don't want a mutually affectionate relationship, or is it a reference to being open to cuckoldry? 
Welcome to the boards,  M

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 1:13:30 PM   
CrappyDom


Posts: 1883
Joined: 4/11/2006
From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		First off, it is spelled dominant, dominate is a verb.

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 1:41:01 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


Posts: 5585
Joined: 6/25/2004
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
First off, it is spelled dominant, dominate is a verb.
Second of all, you should reply to the OP because when people read you they might think I'm the one who doesn't know the difference...
With so many things I don't know, I don't need additional ones attributed to me.    M

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 1:54:19 PM   
MistressJan


Posts: 42
Joined: 6/3/2005
Status: offline 		I have to butt in here with the renarks made to Crappy,  Crappy Dom and the others are 100% correct by advising you of the spelling.  This is the most basic word we use in the life.  It took me forever to get it, but one day I did.  Dom is nown.  Dominate is verb.  To Dominate.  If you don't want to worry with it, use Dom.

Respectfully,

Mistress_Jan

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 1:58:41 PM   
Cloudz


Posts: 836
Joined: 9/13/2005
Status: offline 		Okay Sweetie,

Let me try again. I suggest you simply list what you seek in a Dom, what you can offer, what you would like to try but are not sure if you would like, where your curiosities lie, where your vanilla and or D/s interests lie, what you hope to find (ltr, no strings relationship, play only, poly, monogamous, etc). Some things like that . I thought your description of your journey was lovely - but if I was a profile prowler..and I am not, I would pass it over as lovely but not enough specifics for my taste. Does this help?

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~Cloudz

"Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain."


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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 4:23:35 PM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		From a Master's point of view, what Cloudz wrote is spot on accurate, and i do prowl profiles to kill time when the forums are dead and I'm still awake.. But what else would I expect from such a delightful and delectable Lady whose wisdom and whit is as renouned as it is enjoyed..... 

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 4:57:53 PM   
Cloudz


Posts: 836
Joined: 9/13/2005
Status: offline 		My Beloved Bear,

Your comments flatter and honor me. As you know I am not in the habit of bending my will to anyone's...but I would humbly kneel before your wisdom and call it privilege.

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~Cloudz

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 11:18:49 PM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrawntotheFlame

I am new to this wonderful site, and I hope to find a wonderful dominate to serve. I know that profiles are important to that end. I could use help from any interested in sparing a few minutes to look it over. Iam not sure if collarme will allow the picture as of yet. Thank you A/all. Be well.

First darling, learn the difference between the word usage of DOMINATE and DOMINANT.

How about you go and look them both up and share for the class what they mean and which one should be used when talking about a commanding goddess?

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Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

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RE: Proper profile - 7/18/2006 11:25:59 PM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrawntotheFlame

I am new to this wonderful site, and I hope to find a wonderful dominate to serve. I know that profiles are important to that end. I could use help from any interested in sparing a few minutes to look it over. Iam not sure if collarme will allow the picture as of yet. Thank you A/all. Be well.

The ethereal writing is good, but in the end, you still need some substance. I found myself wanting to stop reading because it was telling me nothing practical that I wanted to see up front.  Some of those things would be: marital/dating/child/family status, ability to relocate, and practical experience.  That last one is a clincher for me.  I'm reading things in your profile that give me mixed feelings -- like you want to project that you have experience, however, my inner gut tells me that this is yet a fantasy for you and not something you've realized in RT. 

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Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

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RE: Proper profile - 7/19/2006 10:09:51 AM   
MasterFireMaam


Posts: 5587
Joined: 3/1/2006
From: Charleston, WV
Status: offline 		Go back and truly think about what you have to offer. Telling us that you have devotion and service to offer is nice, but not specific. When you say this, do you think of it as being tied up in bed or does it mean mowing the grass? We can't read your mind.

Interesting handle, BTW. ;-)

Master Fire


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RE: Proper profile - 7/19/2006 6:22:50 PM   
malepainslut2003


Posts: 13
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		Thank you MasterFireMaam,
I appreciate your suggestions as well as all the others. But I appecially appreciate you ending it on a positive note, I was ready to dismiss the entire profile.
sincerly yours

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RE: Proper profile - 7/19/2006 7:47:15 PM   
littlesarbonn


Posts: 1710
Joined: 12/3/2005
From: Stockton, California
Status: offline 		I often include in my profiles a list of the numerous restraining orders that have been taken out on me. I often include a map I generate through MapQuest that indicates the locations that I am allowed to travel in the city, indicating that there is a two block radius where I can freely travel (minus the overlap from the flower shop on 5th Avenue because of that crazy woman that thinks that me following her home every night constitutes "stalking") but with that free space, it helps me set up places where I can meet a potential partner, at least until her future restraining order is added to the map. I find this approach to be quite helpful.

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RE: Proper profile - 8/2/2006 1:37:08 AM   
FelinePersuasion


Posts: 4792
Joined: 11/20/2004
Status: offline 		That is dominant not dominate, there is a difference.

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