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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Recently I opened up my profile on the other side, and on fet.
Gakk. I may be a snob.
Ok, I am definitely a snob when it comes to compatibility. I expect men in my life to be relatively intelligent. I am not hung up on looks as much as I am personality. I will have to admit I am not that attracted to skinny men, but if there are other attributes I quickly get beyond that.
But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a aday, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder.
I am older now myself. My days of attracting a 35 yr old came and went last year. I AM older and I feel it. But I still can't get over the prejudice of not wanting an older man.
What can I do to get over this aversion?

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL

I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody.

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

It's not snobby to have sexual attraction preferences. We all have them. I laugh when I get messages from older guys 10-20 years my senior thinking I should be interested in hooking up with them. I always wonder if they are interested in hooking up with women 10-20 years THEIR senior. Are they messaging women in their 80s and 90s? Somehow I doubt it. Men always think they should be attractive to younger women without the reverse being true.

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr


I can sort of relate.

but I know if anything happens to change that, I'll be alone for the rest of my life.

There's no changing to whom you're attracted. There's just adjusting to that fact as part of your life experience.



Michael

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL

I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

When my mother was in her early seventies and found hersef on a dating site for seniors, she lied about her age and listed herself as being in her sixties because she didn't want anyone "too old." LOL

I believe that when it comes to choosing a partner, that is the one time we can all call privelege on being snobbish. You don't have to give anyone a chance that you don't want to. You can discount somebody because you don't like their car, or because you don't like the way they chew their food, or because of their age. And - you don't need to explain it to anyone or get over it, because there's nothing to get over. If you were telling me that you have trouble being respectful of older men as a general group, I might have something different to say. But dating is a different thing. Your reasons for not wanting do date someone don't require the approval or understanding of anybody.

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Is it all older guys that make you shudder or a certain type of older guy:
But I find myself repelled by older guys. When a man tells me he is 70+ and his next statement is he needs to cum 6 times a day, or that he can spend all day at the Y it makes me shudder.

Cary Grant was plenty sexy in his 60s.

Is it all older men, or just the ones who resemble randy teenagers?