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How can a couple find a real time Mistress without pay... - 11/18/2015 12:23:59 AM   
PupandKitten


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We are a married couple of subs, we are looking for a RT Mistress. Men are a hard limit for both of us as is anything with Body fluid besides spit and cum. If you look at our profile you can see all our likes and dislikes and stuff.

Pup is a sub a pet and a kind of a little.
I am a pet a babygirl/middle a slave a sub a pet and a bit of a brat.
also looking for play partners. I am 9 weeks pregnant and high risk right now so we're just looking to get to know people become friends build a real relationship. Just because we can't move in doesn't mean we can't serve. What can we do to find someone real and experienced to control and love us?
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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 12:27:21 AM   
stef


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Status: offline 		Stepping away from the computer and getting involved with your local events is probably the best way. LA has tons of groups and events you can get involved with.

Good Luck.

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 12:38:50 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		You live in the LA area. Search for munches in your area. It's far easier to meet people RL than online.

Also... I get that you want no men. But quit saying what you don't want so many times and focus on what you do want. Your first paragraph says FOUR TIMES that you want no men. Your next paragraph says it more gently, once. You say it a few times more in the rest of your profile.

Your first journal entry: "Things we have no interest in anything with a dick or used to have one. People more then 50 miles away. People under 25. Pup likes to play from time to time I don't I want something real. I need this. It's not a game. "

Try rewriting it to make it positive: "We're looking for a woman (born women only, sorry) that is between 25 and 50 years old, and within 50 miles of us." Note that I'm suggesting dropping all the words about how much you need this.

Also, from your pic, I very much doubt that you weight 250 lbs.

Good luck!



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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 11:52:09 AM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		I have given my real weight and you think I'm bigger? Then you've never met big woman.

As for saying over and over and over again about no men it still doesn't stop them from contacting us or having their wife or girl friend do it. But yes your right I'll redo it.

Thanks for your input.

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 11:55:08 AM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your reply.
And we have been out there looking but these things cost money. Now we've just found out in pregnant and it's high risk so I'll just be getting to know people over the phone or online I can even meet but no play at all. But that won't stop pup.

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 12:05:04 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PupandKitten

And we have been out there looking but these things cost money.


Attending a social costs gas money and what ever you decide to eat or drink at the event.

There are tons of free events in the LA area. For a lot of the paid events, you can volunteer to be staff for the event and get in for free.




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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 1:19:33 PM   
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Thanks everyone and I've updated our profile and changed all our journal entries. As for the parties I'm on bed rest right now but pup can go. We'll see how it goes 😘✌

< Message edited by PupandKitten -- 11/18/2015 1:20:09 PM >

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 3:10:21 PM   
littleclip


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Status: offline 		yes I always check the local area for events when im in a new town never know whats going on meet some wonderful folks and see difrent toys ect

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 6:41:04 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: PupandKitten

I have given my real weight and you think I'm bigger? Then you've never met big woman.



You look far less than 250 to me in your only pic. Occasionally, someone's weight gets messed up by a factor of 2.2 due to the lbs-kg conversion of they input the weight wrong. I had thought that's what you had done.

My apologies.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/18/2015 6:42:33 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: PupandKitten


Thanks everyone and I've updated our profile and changed all our journal entries.


I like it a LOT better now.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 4:21:15 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		I read your profile, and to be honest, you both sound like a lot of work, it's a lot about what you guys want and very little what you think you have to offer.

Add to it that you are looking for somebody in 7 months earliest, for the moment maybe you should just concentrate on looking for friends with an eye to whatever may develop, trying to find somebody and then expect them to wait a couple of months is a bit unrealistic.

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 12:24:53 PM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your reply Miss...

And yes I agree we are both a lot of work even before the pregnancy. A Master wouldn't mind the work they usually take it as a challenge, a Mistress is a different story. I'm starting to give up. I've been looking for 6 months and we haven't even made a friend. I guess he'll find a play partner and parties and I'll just live an unhappy vanilla life :'(

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 12:31:02 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		What makes you think that a Master is any different from a Mistress in the way they assess how much work they need to put into any s-type to make things work???

If it looks like you are going to be hard work, most dominants (of either gender) don't see it as a challenge but as hard work they'd rather not be doing.


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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 12:59:53 PM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		Because I've had masters and still today many are interested in taking me on.

A mistress has never ever showed interested in me.

I meant no disrespect to anyone in anyway.

It just seems it is easier to find a male then it is a female in the lifestyle.

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 1:21:07 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		That's probably because the males outnumber the females by 100:1 or more.
Nothing to do with how they assess what work is involved in taking someone on.

And generally speaking, the D/s dynamic usually (but not always) involves members of the opposite gender.
So the odds of finding a Domme wanting a female sub that might look to be hard work will certainly reduce your fishing pool to something very very small.
Maybe that's why your perception and PoV is somewhat skewed.


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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 1:54:02 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

So the odds of finding a Domme wanting a female sub that might look to be hard work will certainly reduce your fishing pool to something very very small.




Also add that the female sub is pregnant and facing 6+ months of bed rest...followed by the couple having a newborn baby to care for.


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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 1:57:36 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		Yep.

The odds are stacked well high and the slippery slope is virtually vertical!!

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 2:26:35 PM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		I've already given up, but thanks for the uplifting words. Lmao

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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 5:29:08 PM   
Baroana


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Status: offline 		Why are you concentrating on finding a kinky sex partner when you have a baby coming?

Shouldn't the baby's needs be more important?

Don't you think that it's going to be difficult enough to have a sex life between just the two of you?

Don't you think that a strange person coming into your home poses a risk to your child?


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RE: How can a couple find a real time Mistress without... - 11/19/2015 9:24:44 PM   
PupandKitten


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Status: offline 		First I already gave up. Second this isn't my first first child I have 3 others and no one comes near them. Third I'm not looking for kinky sex I could care less if sex had anything to do with a relationship between me and a Dom. And not that it's anyone's business but my husband and I are not really sexual to being with. I know what I'm looking for and it's not online or at parties she'll find me one day until then I'm done here. Thanks everyone.

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