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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 3:22:06 PM   
MClandestine


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Status: offline 		Yes help her.Shes your mistress.

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 6:29:41 PM   
dreamlady


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Status: offline 		That RHCP pic came off of an LP cover? Two dudes on the left need some serious manscaping. . .
. . . and to think I used to listen to them a really long time ago!

OP, this lady isn't your Domme. She's your play partner Top, and it costs gas money for her to come visit you, or what have you.

She's still your friend, so do as friends do. You see a friend in trouble, you offer to help out in whatever way you can. I would risk the chance of offending her by asking her if she needs a small loan (assuming this would not cause you hardship), rather than risk offending her by not offering. Your heart is in the right place, but she may not know that you haven't just been using her all this time.

Get creative. Suggest setting up a friendship fund like a petty cash box to cover gas expenses, refreshments, ordering pizza delivery or Chinese food after a play session as part of aftercare, buying new toys or replacing old ones, toward a new outfit she might want of her choosing that doesn't have to be fetish gear. Contributions are made by whoever has some money to spare at the time, and reassure her that you consider her your friend.

Words to live by. Whether it's friendship or the stock market. Never put more money into it than you're willing to kiss goodbye and can spare. The same with lending money. Consider such things as gifts, and if you get repaid, then that's a unexpected bonus.

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 6:38:26 PM   
MissKatya


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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly. So the day we were supposed to play she took a baby sitting job. She will make $100 that day.

So I haven't seen her in two weeks - mainly because she is doing odd jobs to make money.

What if I offered to pay her when we play? It would really help her out.
But would the play change once I start to pay her?
Would she think less of me once I start paying her?



Have you tried buying her Starbucks? Bitches love Starbucks.

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 8:23:42 PM   
indianriver


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: indianriver

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

FR

You help somebody because you want to, with no strings attached, otherwise you are using their situation for your own gain.

The ones and the zeros are positively affecting your judgment . That's how I see it.
Btw . Where is our french ami, I really miss his posts, and I ......think I have a crush on him.
(Je suis pissing dans le vent) LOL.


Remind me when I should give a flying f*** when a sock says something.

If you'd be as well equipped as the RHCP you'd find a place for that sock and not feel lost.

Are you referring to me as a sock?. I'm not sure as your reply is full of ambiguity.

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 8:27:34 PM   
indianriver


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Status: offline 		Welcome back DL, and happy thanksgiving, hope everything is good.

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 9:19:58 PM   
ilovestarbucks


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the replies. It's interesting to read all the different advice.

I called her today to wish her a "Happy Thanksgiving!"
She apologized for not being able to see me. Finances are so bad right now she has to work whenever she can.
I talked to her about financially helping out in some way, since we are friends.
She thought I was a sweetheart and she suggested that I financially help her out each time she comes over to play.

I asked her if this will change how she views me. Will she think less of me?
She said the financial assistance won't affect our play.
She said $80 each play session would be wonderful.
So I'm going to see her this Saturday! Wow, money does talk

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RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? - 11/26/2015 10:38:02 PM   
Lucylastic


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Wow, money does talk


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