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ilovestarbucks -> My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 2:57:42 PM)

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly. So the day we were supposed to play she took a baby sitting job. She will make $100 that day.

So I haven't seen her in two weeks - mainly because she is doing odd jobs to make money.

What if I offered to pay her when we play? It would really help her out.
But would the play change once I start to pay her?
Would she think less of me once I start paying her?




Spiritedsub2 -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 3:06:03 PM)

You should definitely pay her. She'll think more of you the more you pay her.




AAkasha -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 3:12:46 PM)


No. Don't pay her. If she ASKS for money, she wants to enter into a FINANCIAL arrangement only, so act as a customer and adjust your expectations.

If she does NOT ask for money but you observe these challenges, act as you would in the early stages of friendship or courtship with a vanilla woman. If it feels appropriate, maybe offer to help pay for groceries or something, on a FRIENDLY theme, with no strings attached.

If she is busy taking care of her "drama" and life and you are feeling needy/lonely for kink and are just bummed it's been two weeks, check yourself. She is not there to provide you with an outlet. She is not your booty call. Adjust your attitude, because maybe she needs a friend right now, and if you guys go out for a coffee and then you start sulking about "when are we going to play again?" then you are one more person on her list of people who need/want things from her.

Be a good friend.

If she is a pro and this is a money thing, be a customer.

You will wreck a friendship by offering her cash because you are too impatient to wait. It will make her feel like a hooker if she is not a pro, and also make her feel like all you want from her is kinky booty.

Akasha




TNDommeK -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 3:13:05 PM)

lol.

OP, If you want to help your Mistress out, then do so. Im sure she would greatly appreciate it. I would advise not to
do it with wanting something in return. Just help her bc she needs it and bc you want to see her happy.
Or if its not that kind of thing, offer to pay her for sessions. Let her know that it may or may not be an every time thing, but that
you can help her out a few times. Everyone gets down in finances from time to time.




AAkasha -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 3:13:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

You should definitely pay her. She'll think more of you the more you pay her.



Is this a joke? Did I miss a /sarcasm?





thedeityspeaks -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 5:02:38 PM)

Its all a joke. One look at OP's posts would tell you that.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 5:19:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

You should definitely pay her. She'll think more of you the more you pay her.


That's the way I play it.

I have an account that I simply put cash in to each month (currently 20K a mos.) that I distribute out to about 40 Mistresses in need.

They think quite highly of me.

Occasionally, I arbitrarily offer more to a few than the remainders.

They (those few) think the most of me.




littleclip -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/24/2015 5:47:40 PM)

talk with her and see if she will allow you to help and how much you can afford to help. if you just try to send her money or pay some of the bills it may backfire. for me I will help my mistress anytime and anyway she needs help, and my former owner if she asks it of me.




CelticPrince -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 10:44:22 AM)

I hope your kidding!

CP




LadyConstanze -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 2:06:14 PM)

FR

You help somebody because you want to, with no strings attached, otherwise you are using their situation for your own gain.




indianriver -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 6:49:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

FR

You help somebody because you want to, with no strings attached, otherwise you are using their situation for your own gain.

The ones and the zeros are positively affecting your judgment . That's how I see it.
Btw . Where is our french ami, I really miss his posts, and I ......think I have a crush on him.
(Je suis pissing dans le vent) LOL.




FelineRanger -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 7:10:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly.


There's a reason I highlighted part of your post in that color. Drama plus a constant need for money is an enormous red flag and more than ample reason to burn rubber in the opposite direction.




AAkasha -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 7:33:05 PM)



Side note - if you want to hook up with some non pay femdoms, and you are apparently a WOW nerd, consider joining a kinky guild. I started a femdom guild 7 years ago or so and we were very active a couple of years. Had fun kinky games, the subs in the guild had to take care of us, lots of flirting on vent. I know of two hook ups that turned into RELATIONSHIPS thanks to the guild, and I believe one MARRIAGE!!

And, I met a man who is still my boytoy to this day, 7 years later and 3-4 visits in real life despite him being in Montreal and me In So Cal. Our relationship evolved of course, and now he's more interested in a relationship for longterm (which he should be) and as I am married that's fine -- but we played casually, talked daily, and are now very close friends. I still talk to him several times a week.

Right now I am trying to drag his ass into ESO for a new gaming experience since we both got bored with WOW.

There still may be a kinky guild on Exodar/Horde called Ouch that Hurts -- look it up.

Akasha




indianriver -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 7:38:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FelineRanger


quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly.


There's a reason I highlighted part of your post in that color. *** LOGIC VIOLATION***Drama plus a constant need for money is an enormous red flag and more than ample reason to burn rubber in the opposite direction.

It is selfself explanatory that when you highlight a text , it means you put the emphasis on the highlighted sentence.
There's a reason why we now have win zip and win rar available for grabs.
Despite all that, I have seen you calling others, "socks". Thats Weird .
That's why the Indians aren't by the water anymore, thay are on a stake out at the summit of the hill above the river. Being on the look out for the lieutenant colonel and his army . Ready to pound the enemy with highlighted feathers when they appear , and therfore provide a pleasant stay for the welcomed guests at the reservation.




crumpets -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/25/2015 11:28:04 PM)

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indianriver -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/26/2015 7:55:10 AM)

Of course I don't feed the trolls, nor do I encourage sockpuppeterie,




FelineRanger -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/26/2015 9:09:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: indianriver

quote:

ORIGINAL: FelineRanger


quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly.


There's a reason I highlighted part of your post in that color. *** LOGIC VIOLATION***Drama plus a constant need for money is an enormous red flag and more than ample reason to burn rubber in the opposite direction.

It is selfself explanatory that when you highlight a text , it means you put the emphasis on the highlighted sentence.
There's a reason why we now have win zip and win rar available for grabs.
Despite all that, I have seen you calling others, "socks". Thats Weird .
That's why the Indians aren't by the water anymore, thay are on a stake out at the summit of the hill above the river. Being on the look out for the lieutenant colonel and his army . Ready to pound the enemy with highlighted feathers when they appear , and therfore provide a pleasant stay for the welcomed guests at the reservation.



It may well be self-explanatory but it is not a logic violation to over-emphasize the point. Excessive, maybe, but hardly a contradiction.

Beyond that, what the fuck are you babbling about? If I've called anybody a sock it's infrequently and irrelevant to the topic. The rest of what you wrote doesn't even make any sense and is equally irrelevant.




Lucylastic -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/26/2015 9:55:37 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly. So the day we were supposed to play she took a baby sitting job. She will make $100 that day.

So I haven't seen her in two weeks - mainly because she is doing odd jobs to make money.

What if I offered to pay her when we play? It would really help her out.
But would the play change once I start to pay her?
Would she think less of me once I start paying her?


so you were ripped off by three dommes who didnt show, this one showed, and now she needs money?hmmmmmm

Dont give unless you can afford to lose it. "It" may be her thinking less of you, "IT" maybe her being insulted. IT may result in you losing your shirt, your self respect, your financial status, and a few other things.
ASK her what she thinks, if you want to help.




AAkasha -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/26/2015 12:36:09 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucylastic


quote:

ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I met a dominant woman at a munch and we played several times - very nice. But her life is so full of drama and she needs money badly. So the day we were supposed to play she took a baby sitting job. She will make $100 that day.

So I haven't seen her in two weeks - mainly because she is doing odd jobs to make money.

What if I offered to pay her when we play? It would really help her out.
But would the play change once I start to pay her?
Would she think less of me once I start paying her?


so you were ripped off by three dommes who didnt show, this one showed, and now she needs money?hmmmmmm

Dont give unless you can afford to lose it. "It" may be her thinking less of you, "IT" maybe her being insulted. IT may result in you losing your shirt, your self respect, your financial status, and a few other things.
ASK her what she thinks, if you want to help.



On top of this, for lurkers in similar situations, I offer this advice:

*) Ask yourself at any time when getting to know a dominant woman: Would I do this with a totally vanilla woman I was dating / pursuing?
*) The above does NOT apply if you have developed an actual agreement of mutual romantic affection - dating her
*) If you have no vanilla dating courtship experience to compare it to, get some!
*) If a femdom is discussing gifts, donations, etc. then you can make an educated choice about what you get in return with the rights of a customer - is the exchange worth it? During the discussion about donation or "tribute" you can be respectful but look out for yourself. That does not mean once the agreement is in place that you will not relinquish control.

Akasha




LadyConstanze -> RE: My Mistress Needs Financial Help - Should I Help Her? (11/26/2015 2:42:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: indianriver

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

FR

You help somebody because you want to, with no strings attached, otherwise you are using their situation for your own gain.

The ones and the zeros are positively affecting your judgment . That's how I see it.
Btw . Where is our french ami, I really miss his posts, and I ......think I have a crush on him.
(Je suis pissing dans le vent) LOL.


Remind me when I should give a flying f*** when a sock says something.

If you'd be as well equipped as the RHCP you'd find a place for that sock and not feel lost

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