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When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"?(a... - 1/19/2004 3:29:13 AM

MistressPheadra

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I mean maybe I am out of the loop or something but I could swear when the word "NO" was spoken it meant just that.. perhaps there is some uncertainty to this??

here is the story

a male who shall remain nameless came into the chat very early this morning, PM's Me without permission and asks Me to collar him.

I replied with.. dont pm Me without asking and you do realize that this a real thing here not some stupid online rpg?

not taking the hint, he just goes yep.. so will you collar me..

to which I said no.. for I dont collar boys and even if I did.. I'd not collar one who is making themselves out to be as stupid as you are in My eyes now.

so he leaves.. comes back later, PM's Me AGAIN, askin the same.. so just for kicks and gigles, I check out this guys profile.. and it shows him as being a male, yes. but a DOMINANT one looking for a sub.. so two things come to mind. this is either a VERY confused individual.. or he's looking to lure some Domme into something not good.

so after this.. I answered his constant requests with the following"

I said NO. first off you are a DOMINANT male. Second, I have no interest for game players like you and third you are now being put on ignore. have a good day..

shakes head.. people like that really make Me wonder.. but anyway.. that is My rant of the day.. thanks for tuning in.. LOL

MP

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 7:26:09 AM

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MMmmm it doesn't sound like he's a Dominant, OR a submissive - but what is affectionately referred to, online, as a HNG (Horney Net Geek.)

With the help of the 'ignore' and 'block' buttons his waste of your time will be like water off a ducks back.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 8:02:37 AM

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indeed and I have already done so *winks* just had to vent.. *LOL*

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 8:13:31 AM

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greetings Ma'am

Isnt it funny how one can switch who they are for the quick satisifaction of getting laid or at least, having something to jerk off to. It befuddles me that people actually think this lifestyle is just a game of needy people trying to get their rocks off.

In chat the other day there was a topic about sex and whether it was needed to fulfill the desires and needs of bdsm. To me its not . Sex is something i save for the one who decides to collar me permanently. So why do all these people suddenly think we are easy fuck toys, for their pleasures?

So many times, i get an email, and you know darn well , they just look at your picture, get a hard on, dont read the profile and what it is you seek, and just make themselves available to you in any way shape or form that they might get some sexual gratification of some sort

bah,
im done ranting too

sincerely and respectfully
sinful

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 8:15:12 AM

MistressPheadra

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chuckles.. you are great sinny

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 7:47:07 PM

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Unfortunately, some people will play any imaginable game to get what they want.

They seem to think others are stupid.

So they feel that if they mold themselves to what they think you will desire, they can then get close to you and worm thier way into your confidence.

People are shitty and selfish at times, it happens.

But usually, anyone with any sense and suspicion will rapidly sift these sorts out ,as you did.

So in the end, it is usually the manipulative one who who is really stupid.

They are humstrung by thier own guile, and never make it off the starting block.

I have to wonder at times, what sort of inner fantasy worlds result in this kind of behavior.

Then I decide I don't WANT to know.

Takes all kinds.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/19/2004 9:27:52 PM

EStrict

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Hi MP. Quick question: was he in the room. If he was, I always find C&C'ing there IM's into the room a quick way to get them to go away. If he was not, then even though I do feel he sounds like a snert, I have another question.

You said: I replied with.. dont pm Me without asking

How do you ask someone if you can IM them if you aren't in the room without IM'ing them? I hear people say all the time *can I ask you a question?* Best response is *you already did, do you have another one?*

You read in profiles *Do not write without permission*. Where are you suppose to get the permission without writing?

Honest, the second part is not to disagree at all with what happened, it's just a thing I have always found curious.

Sandy

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/20/2004 2:25:10 AM

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I sorta wish there was a way to tag someone's profile with "Dumbass Stickers" everytime they did some shit like that. Posing as a Dom or a sub, flip flopping back and forth just to get online attention seems to be prevelant on here. If we could flag their profiles, maybe we would save someone the grief of getting involoved in a conversation with them, lol
Just My opinion. I could be wrong.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/20/2004 8:10:03 AM

MistressPheadra

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Sandy.. I just have gotten used to people asking in open room if they can send and IM.. whether that is right or wrong is all up to a person. however, I consider it respectuful.. and with Me that goes to even subbies that I talk to .. because the way I see it.. going into private windows is taking more personal time with Me.. or its Me taking personal time with you or a sub or whoever and I feel it is something that should be asked. that's all.. but the whole permission to ask a question or to write thing.. IM with you on that.. I think its silly.. *winks*

MP

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/20/2004 8:11:02 AM

MistressPheadra

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yeah that could be cool Doc. I can agree with that..

MP

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/21/2004 9:48:28 AM

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Just another onliner who is into the sexual games.
He isnt either one in real life. hes just online for the occasional fix to get off.

William

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/21/2004 2:04:13 PM

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The guy you mentioned who wanted to be 'collared' online just seems silly. However, I'd like to at least attempt a defense of a dominant who would be willing under certain circumstances to submit to someone. I am such a person. I'm a dominant male who is relatively successful. I'm active in the scene and belong to a number of alt groups in New England. I am seeking a stable, long term, loving relationship with an emotionally available female. Every once in a 'blue moon' I run across a woman who seems so outstanding, compassionate, intelligent and realistic that I would have no problem writing to her to see if there was a possible connection. Again, these women are very rare. Her domination would have to be on the milder more sensual side and she'd have to be relationship oriented rather than sensation driven. Quick sex would be the farthest thing from my mind. D/s is a powerful bonding element and if I found the woman of my dreams and she happened to be dominant in a sexy, nurturing, emotionally balanced way, I would definitely attempt to contact her. I do not consider myself a switch either.

I hope I was able to make sense of this for you . *smiles*

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/22/2004 4:14:44 AM

MistressPheadra

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that does make sense and I have heard of such things but the big tip off to this particular "Dominant" was that he was just running down a list of Mistresses in the room and asking them to collar him. so I see you saying that if circumstance throws you a woman who understands you perfectly and she just so happens to be Dominant, you are willing to change and I think that is awesome.. but this guy... well I think enough has been said about him LOL

MP

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 1/26/2004 3:12:29 PM

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Pheadra, there was actually a movement that was started around 1875 in New York, or maybe it was New Mexico. This movement was called " The No Means ? Movement". They didn't last very long for obvious reasons.
There are also numerous island tribes in the Pacific Ocean region where no does not mean no, but many different things such as " This coconut is too small" or " My goat is dead". I hope this answers your question.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 2/1/2004 9:31:53 AM

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Its possible there are some knowledge challenged people out there searching for the easy women.

There was a movie that had Jay and Silent bob who said they liked to hang out near abortion clinics so they could meet "easy women". This isn't really a joke. Years ago I chaired a meeting that met at midnight so there were only a few people there. It included some young boys who didn't say much. We finally found out they were coming because they heard you could meet "easy women" there.

On here you have no way of checking who the posters are. Its possible they could be looking for "easy women" who will submit without going through the time consuming process of dating.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 3/3/2004 7:27:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressPheadra

I mean maybe I am out of the loop or something but I could swear when the word "NO" was spoken it meant just that.. perhaps there is some uncertainty to this??

here is the story

a male who shall remain nameless came into the chat very early this morning, PM's Me without permission and asks Me to collar him.

I replied with.. dont pm Me without asking and you do realize that this a real thing here not some stupid online rpg?

not taking the hint, he just goes yep.. so will you collar me..

to which I said no.. for I dont collar boys and even if I did.. I'd not collar one who is making themselves out to be as stupid as you are in My eyes now.

so he leaves.. comes back later, PM's Me AGAIN, askin the same.. so just for kicks and gigles, I check out this guys profile.. and it shows him as being a male, yes. but a DOMINANT one looking for a sub.. so two things come to mind. this is either a VERY confused individual.. or he's looking to lure some Domme into something not good.

so after this.. I answered his constant requests with the following"

I said NO. first off you are a DOMINANT male. Second, I have no interest for game players like you and third you are now being put on ignore. have a good day..

shakes head.. people like that really make Me wonder.. but anyway.. that is My rant of the day.. thanks for tuning in.. LOL

MP

Maybe you are just so good looking to him he would change from Dominant to submissive just for you. Through out the years many alledged Doms have claimed to do the same for me. When I said no.
Seriously, Sorry you had such a rough time in the chat room. It seems chat rooms and idiots go hand in hand though. You can never chat and get out clean. Without tangling with one.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 4/8/2006 2:27:51 PM

cariad

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girl was also wondering when "NO" meant something more than NO, as she recently discovered if You will her back bone and that just cause she is a slave does not mean she has to be a doormat. girl has been so hurt in the past that she gets scared to say "NO," and knows that sometimes not saying it is pretty much the same as giving consent.

girl recently told a Dom "NO," and whilst she is sticking to her guns on this He just won't give up. girl has decided when he does this she will not only put him on ignore online but let all calls go to her answering service and after a time he will get bored with her and find another who will hopefully be strong enough to say "NO," from the onset of the first email.

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 4/8/2006 2:40:58 PM

MHOO314

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That is so one of My favorite emails---when a Dom <shhhh wink wink> REALLY wants to submit only to Me---

OR, if I had a "real"man, I'd come to My senses--

yeah right.

Welcome to the boards Mistress!

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 4/8/2006 2:44:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DocHolliday

I sorta wish there was a way to tag someone's profile with "Dumbass Stickers" everytime they did some shit like that. Posing as a Dom or a sub, flip flopping back and forth just to get online attention seems to be prevelant on here....

Just My opinion. I could be wrong.

If you figure out how to do that can I order a dozen cases to use on drivers, teachers, politicians and corporate executives?

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RE: When did "NO" cease to mean "NO"... - 4/8/2006 2:53:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Welcome to the boards Mistress!

That was a January, 2004 post.

Some things never change.

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