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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/3/2015 11:58:35 AM

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There might be something helpful here:

http://tarrant.tx.networkofcare.org/ps/services/subcategory.aspx?tax=BH-8600

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/3/2015 12:16:16 PM

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That's quite a helpful link, though again without transportation in Texas you're about as good as without wheels in Cali, everything stretches so far...

Seriously, I just don't want her to be another casualty and we all know how easy that can happen

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/9/2015 12:49:12 PM

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I don't really buy into this who separation of fin-dom from any other aspect of domination. Not once have I met a sub, paying or non-paying, that was interested solely in fin-dom and no other aspect of domination. When I do get someone interested in fin-dom, they're usually interested in the full package of domination with fin-dom as a part of it. In the event I collect payments from a sub, it's because I'm in a full blown D/S relationship with him or her. I really think you can't just go from being interested in fin-dom to being a fin-dom Domme. If you want the benefits of fin-dom, pay your dues, dump a bunch of your own money in outfits and equipment, fail at doing a few sessions, deal with flakes, make a few bucks on sessions and do a few for free. Get experienced in domming and promoting yourself, after a few D/S experiences, the fin-dom money will start coming in. The subs interested in fin-dom, will come to you when they see that you're an experienced and talented domme.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 1:44:33 PM

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Honestly, I think it's pathetic of you guys to even be on this site! You have no interest in bdsm all you want is money. There are plenty of sites just for whores why don't you go there? All you do is take advantage of people. If you idiots had half a brain you'd find your true dominant side and pick a sub that would probably end up taking care of you. Good things come to those who give...

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 4:18:11 PM

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ahem, you guys?

I have plenty of interest in bdsm, I'm quite good at it too. Fin-dom isn't really a thing separate from regular domming. I think if you want the perks of fin-dom, you need to be a good general domme first.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 5:02:14 PM

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Like I said if you were really interested in more than just money you'd have a sub partner that takes care of you. Most real subs would gladly take care of a domme but not one that needs money for any form of attention, humiliation or whatever they are into. If you were a lifestyle domme your desires would be just as strong as ours and you would do anything to fulfill those desires. The only desire I see is money and it may work while you're still good looking and young but the older you get the less you will make. There will always be a younger better looking greedy little thing waiting to take the money you used to exploit. My best guess that's when you'll stumble back to this site looking for a relationship. Like I said pathetic. I have no respect for people like you.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 5:09:00 PM

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Most real subs

If you were a lifestyle domme

There are very few real male subs. Most are fetishists that claim to be submissive....which means that "lifestyle" Dommes aren't interested in fulfilling their laundry lists of things that they want done to them. The FinDucks fulfill the niche of guys that just want to wank over the thought and are willing to pay for it.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 5:14:34 PM

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I can only speak for myself, but I love being a Domme. But in order for me to be the best Domme, I do it full time and don't share my life with some vanilla job where I have to be fake. I'm not perfect at the job, yet, but I'm pretty damn good and I got that way because I do it all the time. When I'm not sessioning, I am practicing techniques. I'm not in it for the money, I'm in it for the expression of my dominant self. And because I'm in it at all, I occasionally end up on the benefiting side of Fin-dom. But there are people who end up pursuing the lifestyle because they think they're going to make a quick buck, I can understand not respecting that. But just because someone makes money as a Domme, doesn't mean they don't deserve respect.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/10/2015 6:36:04 PM

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Sounds like you're more of a pro than a fin... I see a difference between the two that is respectable. I don't get messages from pros I think they actually spend their time reading a profile. Fin's how ever flood my email asking for money. 90% of profiles are findommes. And the ones that piss me off the most are the ones I waste hours on talking to just to finally hear the word donation. Pros spend quite a deal of money on equipment etc but it seems findommes just sit behind a computer collecting money which I find just plain lazy. Also it wouldn't surprise me to find out that some are actually men. Like the one that refused to send a verification photo. She/he said they needed 100 bucks for a photo! That's ridiculous!

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/11/2015 2:38:23 AM

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I didn't know that. Not that I care a jot. lol

What rubs my scales the wrong way is the constant 'the world owes me a living' attitude that these types of people exude in abundance.
They seem to have absolutely no concept or appreciation of doing something for yourself or that you might have to answer consequences for what you do or say.
It's all 'Gimme, Gimme, Gimme... and gimme it NOW!'.
To me, that self-centred attitude stinks worse than an open untreated sewer.
And you'll often find those people have no respect for anyone or anything either.

What sad people have we brought into this mad world??

Honestly, I wouldn't have expected that comment from you. The girl goes out there and tries to make ends meet because she has NO social net, nobody pays for her health care, nobody gives her a council house or any kind of financial support, she is trying to make money as best as she can to foot the bills while she is actually looking for a job, she isn't taking from anybody, she isn't going "Gimme gimme" she is trying to sell a service and asks people to teach her how to do the job. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't balk about a perfectly normal 10 hour commute a week and you call that a self centered attitude?

Seriously, I don't grudge anybody their dole or their social housing, but let's be honest, that is paid for by others, because luckily we (still) live in a country where we do have a social system and don't let people who are unemployed starve or out in the cold. She doesn't have all that, she's not asking anybody for a freeby, she heard that findomming is something where you can earn money and she wanted to give it a try and you come down on her like a ton of bricks.

How is that treatment any different from people who call everybody on benefits scroungers, claim they're ripping the system off, are too lazy to work, expect to be given everything for free and all the other prejudices which you possibly have heard 100 times before. I would have thought that anybody who is in vulnerable position and has to worry what the Tories will take away next would have sympathy for somebody who's in an even more desperate situation, but without any help from the social system that provides for them.

What do you want her to do? She can barely afford the cheap hotel, sleep under a bridge? She's willing to be a cam girl, she came here because somebody told her that there is a demand for findommes, she's young and a bit naive, obviously didn't get much of an education (not her fault) she figured out that it's not how it works and she asked to learn and then she gets nothing but abuse, just because she was honest... Great stuff

Do you know her in real life?

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/11/2015 2:41:42 AM

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Yes, and I don't agree with it.

The whole thing is she doesn't have the support system you and your family have, and you're lucky that you really seem to live quite well from it, there are single moms out there who can't make ends meet and they sell their bodies to give their kids what they don't get from the social. I don't think they are any less for that.

Our views on prostitution might differ dramatically, I think I would respect a woman who does that honestly (it's her body, her choice) as above somebody in the pecking order who gives up a job to be a full time sub, doesn't want to work and expects the system to care for her, which for me is a blatant abuse of the system, but I don't really sweat the small stuff.

The thing is, the girl is desperate, she is down on her luck and grasping at straws, she doesn't need another kick in the teeth.

Sorry, but I have somewhat socialist principles, I get into almost daily arguments with people who claim that everybody on benefits is a lazy scrounger who should get on his or her bike and not sponge off us, I refuse to use a tax shelter because I consider it morally wrong to not do you bit for society. I would have expected you to have EMPATHY for her situation, because I imagine that living off benefits really isn't easy, can you picture yourself in a place where you don't have the benefits to start with? No education, you're trying to get by with whatever you have, in her case it was her body, I believe a woman's body is hers, she wasn't curb crawling, she had an add in the paper and I have exchanged PMs with her, there was a reason for her to do it.

She isn't a sock or a troll, she is a human being trying to survive and actually willing to do ANY job, like real work

You are right, she says she is already on probation so she doesn't need any more shit. So anyone encouraging her to do something that could violate her parole and land her ass in jail really isn't doing her any favors, are they?

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/11/2015 6:47:08 AM

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And yeah, it's just because you care so much....

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/11/2015 2:56:09 PM

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And yeah, it's just because you care so much....

You have no clue what I do or don't care about so don't try to pretend you do. And you didn't answer the question, you post like you know her in real life. Do you or are you just assuming you do much like you just assumed I didn't care.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/11/2015 3:00:30 PM

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Hey, if you found your heart, I'd be glad you did, because so far I wondered how you managed to live without one.

As for all the "prostitution" talk, weren't you serving a pro domme and aren't the laws in the US a bit of a grey zone?

This was about being mean about somebody who's down, I didn't see you offer any constructive help, it's usually what people who care do... But again, if you found a heart and a conscience, I'm happy for you, not before time....

Edited to add, I exchanged a few messages with her, her story seems to add up. Of course if you could be bothered to exchange messages with her and you found something else, please do share, by all means...

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/12/2015 4:21:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Hey, if you found your heart, I'd be glad you did, because so far I wondered how you managed to live without one.

Bless your heart

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As for all the "prostitution" talk, weren't you serving a pro domme and aren't the laws in the US a bit of a grey zone?

Yes I was and one of my biggest concerns was her getting busted and having a record follow her the rest of her life. What's your point?

quote:

This was about being mean about somebody who's down, I didn't see you offer any constructive help, it's usually what people who care do... But again, if you found a heart and a conscience, I'm happy for you, not before time....

You really shouldn't mention this right after your little "you don't have a heart" crack...it just makes you look like a fucking hypocrite.

quote:

Edited to add, I exchanged a few messages with her, her story seems to add up. Of course if you could be bothered to exchange messages with her and you found something else, please do share, by all means...

Well the explains a few things, perhaps you should have said that in the first place instead of being such a bitch.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/12/2015 4:36:24 AM

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LC actually mentioned that in post 17.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/13/2015 3:51:43 AM

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LC actually mentioned that in post 17.

She said she sent her an email in post 17, she didn't say if she had ever met or talked to the girl which was my question.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/13/2015 4:12:07 AM

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if you actually read the whole fucking thread instead of just being yourself, you might have realised that it was obvious she wasnt pulling the information out of her arse.
DId you miss page two?

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/14/2015 2:28:44 AM

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if you actually read the whole fucking thread instead of just being yourself, you might have realised that it was obvious she wasnt pulling the information out of her arse.
DId you miss page two?

no its simply asking
Apparently you make a job of misreading posts.

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RE: advice for a new findomm - 12/14/2015 6:21:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Hey, if you found your heart, I'd be glad you did, because so far I wondered how you managed to live without one.

Bless your heart

quote:

As for all the "prostitution" talk, weren't you serving a pro domme and aren't the laws in the US a bit of a grey zone?

Yes I was and one of my biggest concerns was her getting busted and having a record follow her the rest of her life. What's your point?

quote:

This was about being mean about somebody who's down, I didn't see you offer any constructive help, it's usually what people who care do... But again, if you found a heart and a conscience, I'm happy for you, not before time....

You really shouldn't mention this right after your little "you don't have a heart" crack...it just makes you look like a fucking hypocrite.

quote:

Edited to add, I exchanged a few messages with her, her story seems to add up. Of course if you could be bothered to exchange messages with her and you found something else, please do share, by all means...

Well the explains a few things, perhaps you should have said that in the first place instead of being such a bitch.

Maybe if you wouldn't have been the heartless bitch you always are, I would buy into you having "concerns" for anybody else, as it is, nope, don't buy it, you just wanted to lash out at somebody you perceive as below you in the pecking order, morally you might have a hard time finding that. If you had any "concerns" you might have just offered her help, but I guess you just don't have it in you.

The information was all there for you to see, I didn't know that you're so "special" that you need it spelled out just for you.

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