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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 7:24:09 AM   
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You're free to post whatever you want on your profile. If your goal is to attract women, it might be handy to listen to what they say. The same applies to women who are having a hard time attracting men.

This. I never understand why people don't get this.

Basic strategies of advertising just aren't this complicated.


They are for the majority of inept men LP!
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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 8:02:20 AM   
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Personally I don't put any photos of me on my profile, I have a vanilla life and can't afford those pics getting out into cyberspace especially not on a site as insecure as this one. Will I send a pic after a lengthy conversation? Yes. Will it be of me in a compromising position? No. I've been told my profile pic is off putting which I really don't care about. If you're not interested in it then its probably useless we talk anyway unless it's strictly platonic. I could of taken a pic of my cock in a cage but chose to grab a pic from the web without a "rooster" in it. Yes men are visual creatures while women prefer a dialogue. I don't think it's too difficult to meet somewhere in between. You expect us to talk to you till sometimes our ears bleed and our jaw cramps so you should be prepared to send some visual stimuli our way at some point. We want to see the goods without that bulky sweater on...

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 11:55:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: ReMakeYou
You're free to post whatever you want on your profile. If your goal is to attract women, it might be handy to listen to what they say. The same applies to women who are having a hard time attracting men.

This. I never understand why people don't get this.

Basic strategies of advertising just aren't this complicated.





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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 2:07:05 PM   
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Not sure if this works, but just said something to LP that should maybe go on here

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 2:08:22 PM   
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I tend to chat a lot with kinksters and sometimes dominant men, nothing wrong, again if they behave like you'd expect a grown man with manners to behave anywhere, it's absolutely fine, I'm not looking for anybody and make that quite clear, they are aware of it and it's fine, made a lot of good friends this way.

The immature ones with cock shots just get blocked, same as the ones who think women are fetish delivery systems who owe it to them to get them off.

I just don't have time for guys who don't have the basic social graces or think the internet allows them to behave in a way that makes you wonder if they've been raised in a cave, yet oddly enough those seem to be the ones who always complain the most about women and why oh why can't they find anybody to fulfil their kink


High fives!!!!!

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 2:15:01 PM   
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I tend to chat a lot with kinksters and sometimes dominant men, nothing wrong, again if they behave like you'd expect a grown man with manners to behave anywhere, it's absolutely fine, I'm not looking for anybody and make that quite clear, they are aware of it and it's fine, made a lot of good friends this way.

The immature ones with cock shots just get blocked, same as the ones who think women are fetish delivery systems who owe it to them to get them off.

I just don't have time for guys who don't have the basic social graces or think the internet allows them to behave in a way that makes you wonder if they've been raised in a cave, yet oddly enough those seem to be the ones who always complain the most about women and why oh why can't they find anybody to fulfil their kink


High fives!!!!!



Thanks, makes you wonder though, why on earth don't they get it? On the other hand a ton of guys that are bi and camouflage as women, hopefully they do enjoy the cock shots, so maybe all that dick waving is a social service? The guys with the dick pics should be proud about the amount of sperm that was cleaned off of various screens, in their "honour"

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 4:43:12 PM   
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Since this turned into a men's rights thing:

https://youtu.be/6y8XgGhXkTQ?list=PLJA_jUddXvY62dhVThbeegLPpvQlR4CjF

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 4:47:49 PM   
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Dudes posing as women are easy to spot. They are way to easy....

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 5:13:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cuckingcurious
I don't think it's too difficult to meet somewhere in between. You expect us to talk to you till sometimes our ears bleed and our jaw cramps so you should be prepared to send some visual stimuli our way at some point. We want to see the goods without that bulky sweater on...

So women are obligated to send you private pics of themselves, just because you talked to them for a while? Sorry, but it is the rare man that is that good of a talker.

Oh, and sorry about your penis.

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 5:15:01 PM   
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One is about an experience. The other is generic hatred for an entire gender.


You missed my point but anyway....

So I guess it's all okay for a male to make any negative generalisation on women and he will be all in the clear of being a misogynist? Cool


LadyConstanze


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The immature ones with cock shots just get blocked, same as the ones who think women are fetish delivery systems who owe it to them to get them off.


So basically, a man is "immature" simply because he is running his sexuality not how a woman would run hers? What if men said women are immature if women are not more like how men want them to be?

Why is it only men who treat the opposite gender as a "fetish delivery system" when men simply have kinky desires but this doesn't apply to women who have kinky desires? Why is it that when a male offers something kinky/sexual, he's likely deemed to be controlling and self serving but when a woman offers something kinky/sexual, she's offering a gift to men?

If you want to talk about bigotry against a gender's sexuality, instead of talking about "slut shaming" let's talk about how massively fucking discriminated men are just for having a fucking penis.

First, this video goes even further and shows how men are even treated as potential pedophiles just for having a penis. That's it, a penis!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fL9RmVtMP0


Also, just because men have a fucking penis, this type of androphobia follows on with any male can easily just be deemed as a "do me sub", or in the vanilla world, someone who generally just wants to use women simply because he is seeking something sexual. Having a penis, the default position is that he is guilty.

There is this word called "prejudice"...I am sure most or all of you know what that word means. Not to mention, it's androphobia.

Let me try to explain this more clear. These days we all see the words "islamophobia" or "xenophobe" being thrown around. So why do people use these words?

It's when a person holds a default position that a muslim is potentially guilty of being someone evil until proven otherwise or have a generalisation that most muslims are evil. This is all based on them being muslim, nothing more.

Is this correct? Is this what you would consider as "islamophobia"?

So it would make perfect sense to classify it as "phobic" when a woman holds a default position that a man is potentially guilty of being someone evil until proven otherwise or have a generalisation that most men are evil. This is all based on them being male, nothing more.... Androphobia?

So how are we to know that most men are "do me" just because women said so? Why is a bigots word taken over the word of the actual men who are being accused of this? Sounds very unfair to me.

LadyPact

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Well, at least you know we're laughing.

It is laughable that men think we're going to be attracted to the random cock shot


Do women find certain ways of expressing sexuality to be attractive that men really don't? Men are different, yes? Why are men always shamed and laughed at for being different compared to women when it comes to sexuality, but if its the other way around, it's misogyny and oppression against women?

My point here is that men are always expected to change and appease for women. But when its men expecting women to change and appease for men, it's considered as patriarchy enforcing and chauvinism.

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Do you really think do me bottoms don't exist? I can assure you that they do. Nobody said it was limited to one gender, either.


They certainly do exist, no denial there. My whole point is that many to most times men are labelled this, it's likely not to be true. It's likely to be judgement clouded by bigotry instead of reality.

It all stems from a man being in the default position of being guilty until proven innocent just for having a penis. This also follows on outside of this website as I showed in that video. It's a very common mindset to have on men anywhere in society. A very unfair one too as you can see that it can cause more misconceptions than things being true. Similar to how muslims are treated when being under the suspicion of being terrorists.



Dude, sorry about your penis.

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 5:26:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: Cuckingcurious
I don't think it's too difficult to meet somewhere in between. You expect us to talk to you till sometimes our ears bleed and our jaw cramps so you should be prepared to send some visual stimuli our way at some point. We want to see the goods without that bulky sweater on...

So women are obligated to send you private pics of themselves, just because you talked to them for a while? Sorry, but it is the rare man that is that good of a talker.

Oh, and sorry about your penis.


Must be swamped with women wanting to cuck him, we should feel honoured that he takes the time to talk to us...

Let me recap, somebody who wants something that's not easy to get thinks it will work much much better by making demands.

General ratio, about 10 sub guys for every woman, a lot of women are not into a specific kink, the rare one who is will react so well to the demand of visual stimuli

Oh well, I am sure there will be a lot of visual stimuli from gay guys who are able to download pics in exchange for certain pics and steamy talk, but obviously they are easy to spot...

Oh damned, should not snort out OJ

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 6:15:30 PM   
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No I wasn't talking about me specifically I was talking about how men think in general. I could care less about a nude myself. I've seen titts and ass since I can remember. Public nudity isn't a big deal in Germany.

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/17/2015 10:12:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cuckingcurious
I don't think it's too difficult to meet somewhere in between. You expect us to talk to you till sometimes our ears bleed and our jaw cramps so you should be prepared to send some visual stimuli our way at some point. We want to see the goods without that bulky sweater on...

Man, I just think I felt 70 years old. This is how people date now? Instead of building a relationship, spending time together, and all of that old fashioned stuff, it's about exchanging topless pics on the internet. Thank goodness somebody told me!

OK, the kidding aside, can I ask you a question? Yes, I'm basing part of this on your screen name but since you are curious about being a cuckhold, how much do you really know about it? Granted, like just about everything else, people have their own way of going about it. Still, it's very much a relationship thing where SHE is in charge of her sexuality. You're not really the one making the decisions. You don't get much of a voice in who she dates, who she sleeps with, whether or not you get to attend, fluff, or clean up. The reason these dynamics work for some people is because the male is relationship oriented with the gal and she expresses that sexuality in the way that she wants. Depending on how she wants to dictate that, it's up to her how much or how little you get.

Have you talked with many of the females who have experience with this?


ETA - I'd probably laugh myself silly the first time some guy on the internet told me I had to send him a pic of myself in any state of semi-nude and actually expected that I'd listen to commands.



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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 3:39:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Cuckingcurious

No I wasn't talking about me specifically I was talking about how men think in general. I could care less about a nude myself. I've seen titts and ass since I can remember. Public nudity isn't a big deal in Germany.



Really? That's why you can get arrested for it... There are clothing optional areas, a lot of them in parks, but you walk through town without clothes, you find yourself in the back of a police car, the legal term is indecent exposure. You go to any lake or beach, there will be spaces where you can let it all hang out, Germany is less uptight about the human body than other countries, but you don't see people walking around without clothes in shopping areas, wasn't there a very public case in the late 90's, guy standing naked at his window and being done for it since children on their way to school saw him, it's accepted in saunas and designated areas...



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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 6:39:45 AM   
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Lol,
Yes I know what it all entails and I've had a few conversations with women that have experience. Too bad they live too far away however.


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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 6:42:33 AM   
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OK, the kidding aside, can I ask you a question? Yes, I'm basing part of this on your screen name but since you are curious about being a cuckhold, how much do you really know about it? Granted, like just about everything else, people have their own way of going about it. Still, it's very much a relationship thing where SHE is in charge of her sexuality. You're not really the one making the decisions. You don't get much of a voice in who she dates, who she sleeps with, whether or not you get to attend, fluff, or clean up. The reason these dynamics work for some people is because the male is relationship oriented with the gal and she expresses that sexuality in the way that she wants. Depending on how she wants to dictate that, it's up to her how much or how little you get.

Have you talked with many of the females who have experience with this?


This is very true. As a cuckoldress and someone who writes about and teaches cuckoldry, LP has hit the nail on the head.

I own my sexuality. I choose who to share with, whether it is my cuckold or another. I choose how much to share and when. I choose whether I'm in the mood to share at all, or if I just want my cuckold for a few months.

The point of being a cuckold is KNOWING this, and knowing that if/when she wants, your cuckoldress will fulfill her sexual needs as she chooses. You MAY get to watch or participate or not. You may get told about it or not. You may get photos or audio recordings or not.

But, however you make the relationship work for you, she will be in charge of her sexuality, or she is not a cuckoldress, but your submissive that you are pimping out.


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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 7:15:41 AM   
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Yes I'm fully aware of that,
I'm not a very sex driven person so to deny my partner pleasure would inevitably lead to her doing it behind my back anyways which in turn leads to her leaving eventually. Finding a woman that is honest enough to be upfront with me is the problem or one that is even remotely interested in such a relationship.

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 12:55:58 PM   
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To stop publishing their profile in white text with a white background? I cannot read a thing they've written.

Wait just 1 minute. A Domme actually reading a male subs profile. I just do not believe it!

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 1:22:34 PM   
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How many of the guys who send out all the random dick pics have actually gotten a blatant picture of a woman' genitalia in an email from an absolute stranger?
Anyone?

Now, we know the numbers on cs are about 70% male to 30% female. We also know that conservatively at least 30% of the female profiles are actually written by men, and probably it's closer to 50%. That means that there are only 15 to 20 women to every man. As such, how many women feel they have to write strange men because they aren't getting enough mail from men? Close to zero.

So I am raising an eyebrow at the claims of those who we know can't get a woman to talk to them, but yet wish to pretend that scads of strange women are writing them and sending naked pics.

As far as the AB fluff one, no women get off on changing a strange man's diapers. Most of us have had offspring and done enough diapers. A lot of us have had four legged pets and had to clean up after them. Throwing a tantrum because you turned your whole house into a shrine to your kink and no stranger wants to indulge it isn't helpful.

Now if you weren't so nasty about it, we might feel some sympathy for you. Since you weren't, probably a lot of us are thinking that you're getting just what you deserve. Nothing at all.

Your kink is not my kink and it never will be.

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RE: Can someone please tell the male subs - 12/18/2015 2:59:56 PM   
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Now, we know the numbers on cs are about 70% male to 30% female. We also know that conservatively at least 30% of the female profiles are actually written by men, and probably it's closer to 50%. That means that there are only 15 to 20 women to every man. As such, how many women feel they have to write strange men because they aren't getting enough mail from men? Close to zero.


Actually, the numbers are about even as far as actual bodies.

The issue is the number of accounts on site like this. If CS is like any other site I know (I've been working in social sites, building them and managing them since 1996), men make many multiples of accounts, and women make one or two. So, the people running the accounts are about even, but the number of accounts is totally skewed.

Sad, but true.


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