AAkasha -> RE: Do you remember weird things from cartoons you watched as a child? (12/23/2015 5:29:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DocStrange The ultimate damsel in distress cartoon was Dudley Do-Right. Snidely Whiplas was constantly tying up Nell to the train tracks with Dudley always coming hap haphazardly to the rescue. Make you wonder if any kids fantasied about being tied up and being rescued. And this this carry over into their adult life? I don't know, it's an interesting premise. But then for a bit I thought - well, all cartoons had some suspense, good guys and bad guys, etc. Upon further reflection though -- no, there's care bears, and those kinds of things, I never watched that. I watched cartoons that had some level of intrigue, possible capture (of a male character), that kind of thing. There was absolutely NOTHING sexual going on. I just found it really compelling. I loved it. As I grew up, I still remember the things I wanted to watch, and they all featured captured spies, guys tied up, etc. Hell, I even remember the Brady Bunch episode where they got tied up, and later on, the Happy Days episode when Fonzie got tied up. It got into my wiring that guys tied up was exciting and fun to watch. This was when I still thought boys had cooties anyway. Even going down the road as I matured, as a young teen, now kind of interested in boys, I did not think of chasing them or kissing them, I thought about tying them up. Cops and robbers. No playing boring old "house" at my place. And there were no inappropriate things going on during this, it was all just kids playing. I never even played "doctor" with the boy next door. But I did tie him up. Again, not romantically or sexually, just games. I carried in into my older teen years, I did start to tie up guys in a more flirtacious way, but the farthest we'd get is kissing. I was not promiscuous and was raised conservatively. I was tying up guys and making out and moving into foreplay (after age 18) and stuff with some petting and doing TONS of non sexual bondage with guys my age years before I even experienced my first orgasm. I've observed this before and looked for similar stories in others; I feel like my interest in bondage (more specifically, men in bondage, heroes in bondage, men being overpowered, men being made unconscious, men being put into tanks of water) grew inside me parallel to my interest in sexual intimacy. And I can still keep both separate. Without problem. I also distinctly remember in my 20s when I had a pretty good grip on my sexuality, I was much more interested and desiring bondage boytoy type partners than sexual partners. I could give myself an orgasm after all, but I could not give myself hairpulling, that precious wince, the straining against bonds that I was addicted to. One guy one asked me if I was "trading bondage for sex" or something like that. I never provided sex to a man I was not consenting to have sex with in exchange for bondage, but there were certainly times that I had to make it VERY clear to guys as we were getting to know each other that bondage and roleplaying was my thing, and just because I wanted to tie them up and make them do various things to push my buttons, it did NOT mean I wanted to have sex or give them a blow job. To this day, I think my most rewarding BDSM encounters are devoid of sexual intercourse (PIV) because that kind of intimacy is just on a different wavelength. I have NO interest in reaching orgasm just because tying up a guy is getting me all wound up, but I get incredibly wet. On the other side of the spectrum, if a guy gets me very wet via traditional foreplay and making out, then I get wet and WANT an orgasm. They are different parts of my brain. I started to mix them more as I got older and that's ok too, but when I look back, I think I like focusing on one thing rather than the other, or doing them in sequential order, vs mixing it all together. Akasha
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