Lucylastic
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In my experience of online tasking, and it being seen as topping from the bottom...no matter who said what... Yes, it seems that way to me too, BUT Not living together and not being in a close, face to face relationship, you find yourself not knowing the minutiae of their life, you dont know their personal habits, or if there are limitations because of family(Not neccesarily of spouse) work, hobbies, medical info, transportation times, meal times, social habits, down to not being able to do anything when they are ill. When you live with someone you automatically make those part of your day, immersion in the other person is normal. Leading separate lives and trying to be together online is very different. THe small talk, is more difficult, you're interacting with type, maybe voice maybe video, keeping the ideas flowing can be strained, misunderstandings cropping up, moods sulks, for anything that you might have said, or someone else caused the sulk leaving you with a grumpy person on the other end of the email, video or voice. I know this rambling sounds to be a perfect reason NOT to get into an online (mainly ) relationship. And I would agree with it in many ways. It very much depends on the people involved. I know I couldnt do it again, not without being local, face to face and frequent:) But I did it for a long time, I dont regret it, Im still looking to learn, and come up with new tip or evil little idea that i hadnt thought of. (for whatever reason) This is just from my own thoughts on my part of my online experiences.
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