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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/19/2006 11:17:31 PM

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Will you be my submissive?

LOL I dunno about THAT...but I'm certainly open to bottoming.

Heh...as long as you'll bring me a brownie.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/19/2006 11:50:42 PM

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Last time I had a partner, it was cooking, giving back rubs, and tuning into their moods (do they want to talk? Do they need their "space"? etc.). And sending little cards and caring notes (we did not live together). And of course, doing what they want as far as bdsm activity.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:16:51 AM

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Heh...as long as you'll bring me a brownie.

::thinking:: So much for the good old days when she used to be happy just to get an apple.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:43:19 AM

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Heh...as long as you'll bring me a brownie.

::thinking:: So much for the good old days when she used to be happy just to get an apple.

Celeste

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 1:48:43 AM

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by doing anything and everything that i can to make Him happy and complete. personally, i enjoy doing the little things, like making His packed luch for work, and making sure i have His favourite sandwich filling, and putting a little note in there, to tell Him i luv Him, and thank Him for choosing me

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 6:42:20 AM

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It’s about serving even when i’m not acknowledged or praised. It's about fulfilling His journey as much as mine.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 7:10:00 AM

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I have tattoos, piercings, collar, I serve Him in every aspect - what other ways do you demonstrate your submission?

By doing what he instructs when it's hard , when it's horrid, when I don't want to, when I don't feel like it, when I think he's mean, when I hate him and wish he'd drop off the planet.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 7:13:00 AM

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In feeling him.

Submission is seen by him and felt by me always.

Life gets busy, but in remembering all the small things, keeping him first in my heart and mind.....my submission is seen by him and that is all that is important.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 7:15:10 AM

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im more the passive partner, so i do as Mistress asks, i have my collar, eventually ill be marked with a tattoo, but no piercings, as Mistress does not like them, lol

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 8:23:07 AM

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It's been important to us to arrange for things that have meaning for us, as a D/s couple, that don't stand seem peculiar, or odd, in front of our kids or to co-workers, neighbours, etc. I'll give an example. Bill wants a fairly detailed understanding of what I will be doing during the day, and often has specific things he wants me to do. Thus began the tradition of sharing our plans for the day over breakfast. It was, as far as the kids could tell, just what we did every morning, and if they thought it was odd that Bill would revise my plans, and I accepted his revision, they never mentioned it.

As we incorporated technology into our everyday lives, Bill introduced an on-line calendar into the mix. We add things into my calendar as needed, and he reviews my plans for the day, and makes changes before he leaves for work in the morning. Because interrupting his work day to discuss fairly insignificant changes doesn't work for him, I make those sort of changes in my calendar as I go through the day. Yesterday I was supposed to go to the bank mid-morning. We forgot that there was a parade downtown, and on the way to the bank, I heard about it on the radio. I returned home, updated my calendar, and rescheduled the errand for later in the day. We generally talk at lunch time, so in terms of just the communication aspect of this, the whole calendar thing is overkill, but for us, it is an almost constant reminder of the nature of the commitment we have to each other.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 8:33:40 AM

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extreme if thats what you really want here is answer ....

get naked in public and hold a banner in your hand with your master name like " i am slave of Master ...."
it will be extreme but not sure it may attract leagal action against you ...

I'm pretty sure you'd be in some legal trouble....(lol). I'd rather be in a room alone with Mine and tell him to His face, then let Him delight in me (rather than on-lookers) in public....

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 8:39:24 AM

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I have tattoos, piercings, collar, I serve Him in every aspect - what other ways do you demonstrate your submission?

by being completely honest, respectful, and totally giving in a humble and loving way at all times

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:04:52 PM

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that was beautiful! : )

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:12:26 PM

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hmmm, these are ALL wonderful displays of submission and servitude, but not quite where I was going with my question - I'm not making myself clear, and unfortunately I don't know how to explain it. I serve my Master as most of you have described, listening to him, attentive to his needs, massaging him, showering him, drying him, feeding him, submitting to him in the everyday chores, serves, etc etc etc.... that's all the everyday norm, which is great and i never take for granted! Neither does he! however, I am refering to the out of the norm type stuff - the more extreme - maybe a branding, maybe you kneel in public, maybe you wear a training collar in public to show submission, etc....

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:19:54 PM

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What defines something as extreme is completely subjective.

Have an abortion for them? Become pregnant by another person? CHange your religion? Kill your firstborn? Become an addict? Cast off your family?

Submission isn't about fabulous displays of "Oh look how subbie I am because of ALL I do for you."

It's about being true to yourself. I'd take a boring relationship of 50 years where 90% of the time we do absolutely nothing different than any vanilla couple and are in absolute fulfillment of eachother over a relationship where the other party EVER felt they had to do something to prove themselves to me.

Not to mention, it stirs the competition game between submissives, that somehow they are MORE committed than another because they give "so much."

It's impossible to suggest extremes. To some people, not wearing panties and walking around the house nude is a big major deal, and to some it's nothing at all.

I think life forces us over time to make the extreme choice of either being true to ourselves or not- it is in those times that we see our values and our devotions as they truly are. These might be times where no one but you know that it is even occurring. Not simply in the time of doing something generally considered outrageous.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 12:52:03 PM

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Sir and I toyed with the idea of branding just last weekend. He has an interesting design to his initials, and we talked about how it would be interesting to brand me with his initials. Now, he knows that would hurt me and (literally) scar me forever, so we just toyed with it, but I can't say that I wouldn't seriously consider it if things continue down the path we have chosen. There is something erotically pleasing about the idea of having Sir's initials permanently affixed to my being...

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 2:40:32 PM

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What defines something as extreme is completely subjective.
This is why I ask, to obtain others subjective opinion on what they would do to show their top/dom/master their submission towards them.

Have an abortion for them? Become pregnant by another person? CHange your religion? Kill your firstborn? Become an addict? Cast off your family?
yes, these are extreme - those are great examples!

Submission isn't about fabulous displays of "Oh look how subbie I am because of ALL I do for you."
I would say that is subject to the individual as well. A slave kneeling before her master is displaying her submission - a slave that marks her body for her master is displaying her submission - how else does a person show their submission if not with acts of submission? Doesn't have to be "fabulous" displays, can be something as simple as kissing a master's feet - in this case, I ask for the more extreme, or extraordinary.

It's about being true to yourself. I'd take a boring relationship of 50 years where 90% of the time we do absolutely nothing different than any vanilla couple and are in absolute fulfillment of eachother over a relationship where the other party EVER felt they had to do something to prove themselves to me.
That's your opinion my dear, I rather have a partner/master/spouse that displays his affection for me, his ownership over me, vs. someone that feels they do not need to show their love, dedication, loyalty, etc...

Not to mention, it stirs the competition game between submissives, that somehow they are MORE committed than another because they give "so much."
Is this within "sisters" in a poly relationship? I just don't get this part.... sorry.

It's impossible to suggest extremes. To some people, not wearing panties and walking around the house nude is a big major deal, and to some it's nothing at all.
It's quite possible - your version of extreme might be my version of very tame, but I want to hear your version which is why I ask the question.

I think life forces us over time to make the extreme choice of either being true to ourselves or not- it is in those times that we see our values and our devotions as they truly are. These might be times where no one but you know that it is even occurring. Not simply in the time of doing something generally considered outrageous. You lost me there. I just don't understand what you were trying to say here....extreme displays of submission = not being true to ones self??? ((scratching my head)) don't get you hun, sorry.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 3:06:58 PM

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Submission isn't about fabulous displays of "Oh look how subbie I am because of ALL I do for you."
I would say that is subject to the individual as well. A slave kneeling before her master is displaying her submission - a slave that marks her body for her master is displaying her submission - how else does a person show their submission if not with acts of submission? Doesn't have to be "fabulous" displays, can be something as simple as kissing a master's feet - in this case, I ask for the more extreme, or extraordinary.

Emphasis added to the above quotes are Mine. I bolded these statements because they and this thread speaks to a conversation that I had just yesterday regarding when submission is about submitting to the will of another and when it's about self satisfaction. In the bolded red sentences, if the D or M didn't ask the sub to do those things, the acts themselves have nothing to do with submitting to the will of his/her D or M. They aren't about submission, they are about self gratification. Just as is the bolded black sentence, thank you LA for a perfect example.

Knowing what pleases your D or M and doing those things without being asked are all wonderful displays of appreciation, affection and love they are things that every person who loves another does for them. They have nothing at all to do with submission.

The way that My girl shows her submission the best is how she sweetly smiles and says "yes, MissTress" when I ask her to do something, even when that something is one I know she would never do had I not asked her to. And then, she does the very best that she can possibly do in all things, to honor Me.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 3:40:19 PM

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I would hope that everything i do and say to my Sir shows my submission. If not im failing.

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RE: Ways of showing submission - 7/20/2006 3:51:44 PM

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What defines something as extreme is completely subjective.

Have an abortion for them? Become pregnant by another person? CHange your religion? Kill your firstborn? Become an addict? Cast off your family?

Submission isn't about fabulous displays of "Oh look how subbie I am because of ALL I do for you."

LA - You always ask the easy questions...

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