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how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 12:49:07 PM   
maysubgirl


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Status: offline 		hello fellow subs  my mistress asked me she will strap on tommorow  on me ......... i am lil feared ...  i have heard  that its extremely painful ? how true  it is ? how  do u feel during strap on ... should i  request mam to not do it or  let it go

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 12:52:47 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		It depend on the size of the dildo being used and if enough lube is used and so on, it shoul not be more painful than normal sex.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 12:54:57 PM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		Is it vaginal or anal penetration?

Either way, take it slow, use lots of lube & you should be fine. If there is pain, it is being done wrong. Other than a slight burning sensation as flesh stretches (also depends on the size of the phallas used) there shouldn't really be any pain.



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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:09:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I say "Go for it" - it should be fun.  Like others said, slow and lube.  Being "turned on"/foreplay of course will help immensely.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:13:39 PM   
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If it's not fun, why bother?
 
Seriously, my advice would be:  the use of a strap-on ANYWHERE... should be pleasureable.  A tiny little smear of blood as a result is one thing... but actual pain or real bleeding is something else.  Always use lots of lube and go S L O W L Y if you're new at such sexual penetration!!! (or pleasure... heh heh heh)
 
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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:19:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		You are in for a treat!!!  Use lots of lube and relax, take it slow and easy and enjoy the ride!!  I always do and haven't found a dildo my sissy hole didn't like!!!


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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:27:42 PM   
maysubgirl


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Status: offline 		thanks everyone
i will go for  it
and will let you all  know it it  was reward or punishment 

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:28:51 PM   
maysubgirl


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Status: offline 		however  she is  gonna use largest size of dildo available  as she is bit angry from me .

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:32:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear maysubgirl
Using a strap on shouldn't be "extremely" painful; if it is, it's your body warning you that something is not right in messing with a very sensitive area, and if that happens you have a responsibility to inform your domina so that she will stop.  Have plenty of foreplay, relax your body as you submit to your dom/me, and please beg for plenty of good and lasting lubrication.
Have fun,   M

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 1:36:23 PM   
maysubgirl


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Status: offline 		what  are alternatives available  if  she  donot  stop even after  i beg to stop it . As she is going to do it  to punish me for  my  sin . not for  pleasure ... so  should i let her to decide  when to stop after  letteing her  know how much it is hurting

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 2:22:04 PM   
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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 2:54:57 PM   
BillsGalSusan


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Status: offline 		I don't know anything about your relationship, and what limits you and your domme may have established, but "punishment" that involves inserting things into either the anus or the vagina with the goal of punishing with pain can be really, really dangerous. You are not a rubber blow up doll, and you have tissues and internal organs that can be damaged. Your domme can flail the hide right off your bum, and barring infection, chances are that in a few days time, you'll be fine. Forcing hard objects into your body in anger is something else entirely.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 2:58:33 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Is this why you are asking such odd questions?  Talk to your mistress...not to those on the boards.  We cannot advise you on this.  If you are truly afraid, talk to her...now.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 3:00:19 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BillsGalSusan

Forcing hard objects into your body in anger is something else entirely.



Quite true.  I hope this Mistress is sane.  It sounds like maybe she is doing it because the OP fears it - therefore the punishment.  I don't get the part about the "biggest" strap on possible, if this is the first time.  (Maybe it's a mind game?) 

(Opps - sorry Mistress if I let the "cat out of the bag".

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 3:02:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Whether or not the OP has a Mistress depends on which post she had posted in which thread, in another thread it reads like the OP serves a Dominant male.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 3:03:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		The OP has also asked about legal ramifications of nonconsensual play.."the things in bdsm that are illegal."  I'm not sure if she is afraid of her mistress or if it's something else.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 3:08:52 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		Strap ons get rather BIG what do she mean by the biggest one avilable, if whatever opening you got is not used to it, to use somthing to big is not only painful, it is dangerous. One can punish and cause pain whit sex but in moderation if it get to extremly painful, it is time to back of, there are delicate tissues that can be damaged. You need to talk whit you Mistress and find out what she actualy is planning to do and if it is safe, and if it is in your relationship to obey blindly, you better hope real hard she is a sane, sensible woman, or you can win yourself a trip to the emergency room.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 6:41:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: maysubgirl
what  are alternatives available  if  she  donot  stop even after  i beg to stop it . As she is going to do it  to punish me for  my  sin . not for  pleasure ... so  should i let her to decide  when to stop after  letteing her  know how much it is hurting
If you are in a relationship with someone you trust not to hurt you, than let her use the strap on unless you had previously discussed this as a hard limit.

While I feel very much responsible for my submissive/slave when I am with one, I very much expect him to use his brain and tell me when something feels completely wrong, because even though I take measures to be safe, he's the one feeling the pain of whatever I'm doing, and I'd rather he told me before permanent or ER visiting damage occurred.
You're not excused from using your brain just because you're a sub, so it is up to you to determine what type of relationship you are in, with whom, and whether you trust her with your safety.    M

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 6:47:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		sorry, can't help you...never had it done to me...doubtful i ever will either.

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RE: how much pain during strap on - 7/19/2006 8:00:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: maysubgirl

hello fellow subs  my mistress asked me she will strap on tommorow  on me ......... i am lil feared ...  i have heard  that its extremely painful ? how true  it is ? how  do u feel during strap on ... should i  request mam to not do it or  let it go



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