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bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 2:59:44 PM

pudicitiam

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Recently found myself discussing the merits or lack there of (depending on your view) of removing body hair, just wondering, sort of like an informal poll. Do Dominant women prefer hairless, or unshaven (from the neck down or just pubic hair) if so, why? I have a theory myself.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 3:12:28 PM

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personally I dislike the constant bitching when a hair (pube or body) gets caught in a restraint or a clamp, or a ring, shaving is easier than plucking..but i dont care if your a hair backed gorilla or a smooth n shiny. If it catches, its gone. Or not.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 3:14:13 PM

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Ever smell burnt hair during open flame play? Not pleasant.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 3:15:04 PM

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more specifically the rational for shaving vs. not shaving. Is it symbolic? if so what does it symbolize etc.? I traditionally thought it was all but absolutely necessary for a slave to have at least hairless genitals, but have been made aware recently of contrasting views on the subject. Any opinions on the subject are welcome.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 3:19:25 PM

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indeed, i looked at it from a practical standpoint as well, but I think there is an implied humiliation. But I could be wrong, it may just have been how i was introduced to it.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/13/2016 3:21:17 PM

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True, good point.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/14/2016 1:34:44 PM

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I like shaved genitals because it looks clean and neat. But, that's me. Other women might prefer something else regards body hair.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/14/2016 9:44:01 PM

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i keep my shaft and sack smooth i use a epilator as it lasts longer. this is for personal prefrence myself. like said above burnt hair during fire play sucks and having hair in the wax makes removal difficult.
as a service slave i enjoy doing shaving and such for my owner where ever desired.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 1:16:16 AM

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You now, during my tenure here there's a really clear divide between women who like hair and women who don't. I would shave it though, just to be sure. If Mistress would like her slave's hair to grow, then she will inform you. It's better to not look slovenly and err on the side of caution.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 4:57:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pudicitiam
Do Dominant women prefer hairless, or unshaven (from the neck down or just pubic hair) if so, why? I have a theory myself.

This is not my own personal preference, but a lot of Dominant women prefer hairless pubes around genitals and anal area.
Let me rephrase. No pubic hair creeps me out. I'm not looking to fuck Peter Pan. I tend to go for the more natural look, with a guy who is not very hairy on his body, but who has a nice, full head of hair.
Hmm, ass hair is optional in terms of regular maintenance because of expectation level. I don't do anal play daily, and if my sub is fixated on his ass more than he is on my ass, then we have a problem, Houston.

I see it like this. Metrosexual dude who spends more time with his grooming than a woman customarily does, is not the kind of man I want.
Mutual grooming is an intimate activity I would only allow with a steady, fluid-bonded partner.

You are not far off in your pet theory about humiliation for SOME Dominants and for SOME submissives. Depends on where the hair grows. Depends on the sub.
My own pet theory is that most male subs WANT to appear boyish and less masculine, and they enjoy being "humiliated" like this. It's a CNC game.

Then there are practical considerations for hairlessness, but I can't stand stubble unless it's beard stubble. Shaven hairs end up growing back thick & coarse -- I much prefer they get waxed or plucked.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic
personally I dislike the constant bitching when a hair (pube or body) gets caught in a restraint or a clamp, or a ring, shaving is easier than plucking.

But that's part of the fun, to rub or kiss and make better.

(Maybe I am a tad bit sadistic after all. . . . )

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 11:44:40 AM

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i personally would love to go hairless from the neck down, but i fear the implications (peter pan). given the option i would have a Domme decide for me as you suggest, after all, it does grow back. but generally i just shave or nair, the genital area. as You can see by my profile pic i'm a moderately hairy, and it would take at least one other person to do a good job with waxing, although there isn't much I can't reach, it is still given the nature of trying to be aesthetically pleasing hard to make the commitment, not knowing what might be appreciated.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 5:10:36 PM

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If you don't mind my saying, after clicking onto your profile, going hairless is the least of your worries at the moment.

You have a main profile pic which belongs inside your photo gallery. Trust me on this one.

Lots of guys on this site make the same gaff. You go on a kinky site assuming this is a free-for-all adult fuckfinder sex site, and you want to let it all hang out to kinky Ladies.
(Or, in your case, go skyglad in a cockcage)

What you will attract instead are dudes. Guys. Other men. Pre-op Trans, in some cases. Pros. Men pretending to be Pro-Dommes and FinDommes, with a sprinkling of actual BDSM providers.

Do a search on Collarchat threads about profile pics, dickpics, etc., even shirtless photos for crying out loud (some women here don't like those either, although shirtless doesn't bother me), and read the comments to get a better idea what kinds of photos women prefer.

(Hint, everyday casual, nice smile, non-exhibitionistic, no selfie bathroom shots)
(Second Hint, women generally don't want to get flashed on with a strange man's private parts - and this would include bare nekkid butts - whether it's on line or being accosted by a trenchcoat-wearing perv out in a public park.)
(Third Hint, Dominant women do not have lower standards or less class than other women do.)

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 7:15:26 PM

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With all due respect, at least my picture is of me. I send proper picture to anyone who requests them. I have been out of the scene, as it were, for a number of years, and yes I have heard others demonstrate a similar sentiment, and believe me I understand it, but I like You likely have a reason for not posting facial pictures. I choose not to attempt to express myself by demonstrating my attitudes towards things, or myself through the appropriation of internet images, and projects that might have evolved through some sort of experiment in artistic personal growth.

What is kind of funny, is that I was actually thinking earlier, after suggesting looking at my profile, that I would post a thread attempting to crowd source, or brainstorm an appropriate profile. I know you can't please everybody all of the time, but I thought it might help me understand what the expectations are with respect to people on here. Back when I was in the real world scene, you just had to be you; on here it is as though folks demand you be something else. I'm just not used to that. thanks though for the critique, I will see what I can come up with that both represents me in a fashion I am comfortable with, and caters to the chattering classes of this virtual BDSM community.

I have never once, not once, criticized someone for how they want to present themselves. In real life or online; but I am not so naive as to believe others are of the do onto others type. I appreciate your forthrightness, and I hope you appreciate my defense of how I wish to present myself. You need not take responsibility for my successes or failures on this site.

Thank you for making my thread entertaining.

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RE: bodyhair removal Y/N and why - 2/16/2016 8:18:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: pudicitiam
With all due respect, at least my picture is of me. I send proper picture to anyone who requests them.

Someone else who might be more knowledgeable about which kinds of pics violate TOS and which don't is welcome to clarify, since I don't really bother with going around reporting profile pics. I prefer to let people express themselves for the most part, and I'd rather be turned off immediately by an incompatible fetish screen name or unsuitable (for me, subjectively) choice of main profile pic (which may or may not be graphic in nature, it could simply be distasteful or sophomoric), and/or lazy mass-mailed form message. Just makes my weeding-out "job" so much easier.

Yes, I know, there are gaping arses and women exposing their girlie bits. The site is so short-staffed that they depend upon the reports of other users, and really can't keep up with those either.

You see, I'm a possessive Owner. If a body is going to potentially be mine, all those pink parts are reserved exclusively for MY viewing pleasure, and to do with as I please (by mutual consent, of course). I prefer a man who exhibits modesty, not one whose genitalia (and butt, which thankfully you did not pose) have been seen by every other Domme on this or any other site.

Just my 2 cents on the matter.

Btw, my pic comes from the forum Avatar gallery. I have little choice on vanilla dating sites but to upload my facial photos, but here I do have the choice to refrain and to let my words have greater effect. It helps to screen out guys who do nothing else but go by appearances, and I don't like being objectified/fetishized by others. Kind of a pet peeve of mine.

I know you won't take my advice (which is your prerogative), but I appreciate your being a good sport about my going off topic with you.

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