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RE: tired of games here. - 2/24/2016 5:48:56 AM

angelikaJ

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Online submission can seem so real.

But my experience has been that until you meet someone, you do not know if the other person is someone who is worthy to submit to.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/25/2016 9:49:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection

Basically, nothing that happens online matters. Things only begin to get real when you are face to face.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/26/2016 12:02:37 AM

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she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat,

A girl who offers submission and was "manipulated" and "emotionally raped" and just "plain hurt" before even meeting the Dom is a foolish girl. Would any Dom consider meeting with such a girl? No. Such a girl makes herself a "Doormat".

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/26/2016 12:11:14 AM

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I'm going to get hate mail.

If you don't want to be involved in the game, don't sign up to play. Unless this guy was an actual criminal, meeting the criteria of something you could go to the cops about (*disclaimer, I am not a member of the 'go to the cops or it doesn't count brigade) at what point did you not enter whatever this was, willingly? This is one of the potential outcomes of the game or did you expect a guaranteed win?

Don't sign up for the same game again. Kick this particular player to the curb the way you would a pathological liar. Meet somebody worth your time and affections.

I would say you deserve applause, not hate mail, for thinking so.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/26/2016 1:20:16 AM

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I would say you deserve applause, not hate mail, for thinking so.

I usually get the "aw, you're so mean" response. Which isn't the way I intend for it to be at all. It's not that I don't have empathy for the person being hurt. It's that I see it as a hurt that doesn't have to be repeated.

The online thing? There's just no way to know if the person on the other side of the screen is genuine or they are just playing with the other person's emotions. Is it the real them or not? If it didn't happen so often, the term catfishing wouldn't exist.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/26/2016 10:25:42 PM

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I think we all tired of the games in here and the players

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/27/2016 7:56:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lovestocum4u2

Ds is not a game and with submission she gives everything she has emotionally. she is tired of trying to submit and the D does not hold up to his part of the relationship. she is tired of trying to start a Ds role only for the D to disappear when it is time to finally meet. she will no longer offer submission until she has met the D and finds a connection. she is not a door mat, she is a wonderful human being with a sense of humor, and the need to submit. she does not know how she will get through today but she will and tomorrow will be just that another tomorrow.Another chance to find what she needs.

To the one today you know who you are..the feelings that are going through me today are betrayal, violated, used, manipulated, emotionally raped and just plain hurt.

You sound like a nutcase.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/27/2016 8:45:06 AM

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I think we all tired of the games in here and the players

I'm waiting for my first game and player. Been here since 2004 and haven't met a player doing games yet. Guess I'm more careful than some others. The people I have met from this site are nice people. Many have become life long friends.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/27/2016 8:55:17 AM

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Have patience. Choose wisely. Great things can happen. If you want it all in the next three months, more of the same will occur.

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RE: tired of games here. - 2/27/2016 9:49:05 AM

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You can't do submission online, who knows who you are even talking to, it might be a 12 year old boy on the other side of the keyboard.

as for meeting someone for real, take your time, get to know the Dominant as a person before you decide to submit to him.

Honestly until I started nosing around online I had no clue that people did BDSM online it's like what the heck? I don't understand how anyone can do that.

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