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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 9:03:22 AM

Danemora

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And your point would be?

I think you have the wrong idea about submissive women in general. Submissive women are still women too. We aren't the last bastion of hope for guys who's issues prevent them from making the cut with other women. We don't just automatically have to put up with whatever bullshit, mental issues, or crap some guy couldn't get any other woman to put up with.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 10:30:57 AM

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Many are saying,
"The majority of the D/s BDSM community is made up of people that can't sustain a relationship longer than 6 months"
And yet others are saying that a lot of people succeed.

You do realize that the woman who told you that has been married to her Dominant for over a decade, while you can't find people willing to meet you for coffee?

Let's cut to the chase here. I am way, way, wayyyyyy more successful at meeting folks of off this site than you are. That's even with being married, middle-aged, and have been known to be a jerk once in a while. I am taking the time out of my day to tell you why I'm good at it and you're not. I do not have the problem that you do, so yeah, I'm doing something right where you're not.

And, before you go there, it's not because I'm female. I could happily direct you to a number of male Dominants from the forums that don't have a problem meeting people, either. Have you asked yourself why they can do it and you can't? You don't see them writing threads, whining about the fact that they can't meet people.

If you want to keep going with your definition of insanity on this (doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results) that's totally cool. You'll continue to have folks like me, laughing about it, because meeting folks from here is one of the easiest things in the world to do. In fact, I've done it in your neighborhood. But, you go on with your bad self.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:01:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

have been known to be a jerk once in a while.

*Blink*

*blink*

Hmmm... bizzaro world is real. Who knew?

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:04:35 AM

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"You're going the fast way to a smart bottom."

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:23:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

"You're going the fast way to a smart bottom."

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:42:05 AM

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How do you do that???

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:49:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

How do you do that???

Well, it's pretty easy, really. You threaten my life, tears well up and my bottom lips starts to quiver.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:52:30 AM

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Promises, promises...

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:53:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Danemora

And your point would be?

I think you have the wrong idea about submissive women in general. Submissive women are still women too. We aren't the last bastion of hope for guys who's issues prevent them from making the cut with other women. We don't just automatically have to put up with whatever bullshit, mental issues, or crap some guy couldn't get any other woman to put up with.

This seems to me to be the heart of it. Not just with muscles, but with a majority of men on the other side. There is a common belief that if a man is socially inept, charmless, an oaf, and is unable to attract women just by being himself, he slaps the label "dominant" on, opens a profile, and thinks that submissive women are required to give him what he can't get on his own merits.

Other men just come on here and act as themselves, and women are drawn to them.

Never the twain shall meet, and never shall they get a clue, as attested by the endless whiny men like muscles.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:55:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

quote:

ORIGINAL: Danemora

And your point would be?

I think you have the wrong idea about submissive women in general. Submissive women are still women too. We aren't the last bastion of hope for guys who's issues prevent them from making the cut with other women. We don't just automatically have to put up with whatever bullshit, mental issues, or crap some guy couldn't get any other woman to put up with.

This seems to me to be the heart of it. Not just with muscles, but with a majority of men on the other side. There is a common belief that if a man is socially inept, charmless, an oaf, and is unable to attract women just by being himself, he slaps the label "dominant" on, opens a profile, and thinks that submissive women are required to give him what he can't get on his own merits.

Other men just come on here and act as themselves, and women are drawn to them.

Never the twain shall meet, and never shall they get a clue, as attested by the endless whiny men like muscles.

Well fuck... Now I have no idea how to approach this shit. Thanks, bitch!

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 11:56:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Promises, promises...

im getting gushy just thinking about it:)

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 12:10:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Promises, promises...

im getting gushy just thinking about it:)

Nah, it's not like that.

I mean, if it was, I'd probably rip the sh^t out of him...

If he were submissive...

Or, if he were a bottom.

And, the HAIR.

It's kind of like having a brother that all of your gal pals find super sexy, but you don't because you don't relate to him that way.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/6/2016 4:27:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom
Next time you accuse people of being trolls you should look in the mirror.[/size][/color]

I don't think that you are a troll. I believe that you are an actual human being who really does mean what you say when you come on here.

quote:

A troll doesn't ask questions that he/she wants to know the answers to.

But I disagree that you want to know the answers, unless they are answers that align with the screwed up thinking that creates the need to ask the question in the first place.

Some of the answers that you have gotten in the threads you have started were sincere responses, that you always seem to ignore or discount entirely because they suggest that part of the problem lies with you. And you refuse to consider that.

Usually, if you are responding to the answers you get, you are defending your behavior and/or pointing out where the responses are wrong.

Do enough of that, and yes, your posts take on the troll-ish characteristic of serving no purpose other than to cause dissent and/or insult others.

You rarely, if ever, actually bother to engage in discussion. Granted, if I were in your shoes, there are posts that I would ignore as well. But there are still plenty of others that merit response and encourage discussion, but you choose to ignore them or insult them as well.

So yeah, I don't believe that you are a troll. But your manner of posting/responding legitimately encourages the suspicion.

Just something to think about.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/7/2016 9:08:00 AM

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I've known two big narcissists in my life -- and by coincidence or no -- their lives have been strewn with personal (broken marriages, alienated children, few friends, bad family dynamics) and professional (job losses, foreclosures, excessive borrowing from friends and family, long bouts of unemployment) failure and little personal change throughout those experiences. Part of this comes from not listening to and seeing others. Another trait is how others always have to adapt to them. They lack self awareness and don't see/act upon mistakes until it's too late.

To be in a relationship with such a person is emotionally masochistic and a far cry from Kink and emotional bonding.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/7/2016 9:14:25 AM

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Exactly, sub women are easy marks, good cooks, lovely maids, and adept cock-suckers. Whenever I need a quick fix, I just go DOM for easy, wild times. I get to talk about myself and be the center of attention too as I command the rocket ship.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/7/2016 2:11:45 PM

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There are types of Narcissists some more pleasant than others. Some are charismatic so charismatic people fawn over them. There are those however who are just blatant pricks. I suggest therapy to deal with your issues.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/8/2016 6:05:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom
Many are saying,
"The majority of the D/s BDSM community is made up of people that can't sustain a relationship longer than 6 months"
And yet others are saying that a lot of people succeed.

You do realize that the woman who told you that has been married to her Dominant for over a decade, while you can't find people willing to meet you for coffee?

Let's cut to the chase here. I am way, way, wayyyyyy more successful at meeting folks of off this site than you are. That's even with being married, middle-aged, and have been known to be a jerk once in a while. I am taking the time out of my day to tell you why I'm good at it and you're not. I do not have the problem that you do, so yeah, I'm doing something right where you're not.

And, before you go there, it's not because I'm female. I could happily direct you to a number of male Dominants from the forums that don't have a problem meeting people, either. Have you asked yourself why they can do it and you can't? You don't see them writing threads, whining about the fact that they can't meet people.

If you want to keep going with your definition of insanity on this (doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results) that's totally cool. You'll continue to have folks like me, laughing about it, because meeting folks from here is one of the easiest things in the world to do. In fact, I've done it in your neighborhood. But, you go on with your bad self.

Does anyone else think this woman is a know it all, big mouth?
I don't think anyone is impressed by how mannnnny people you have met here.
And bragging about it?
Guess how many people I have met here? ZERO.
I think you yourself are a narcissist.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? - 3/8/2016 9:17:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Cinnamongirl67
Does anyone else think this woman is a know it all, big mouth?
I don't think anyone is impressed by how mannnnny people you have met here.
And bragging about it?
Guess how many people I have met here? ZERO.
I think you yourself are a narcissist.

Oh, I'm absolutely sure that some people do. However, if people can't tell the difference between a person who talks about their strengths, of which, this one does happen to be one of mine, and somebody who is so fascinated with themselves that it's becoming a hindrance to one of their goals, I'd probably tell them that the problem with not being able to make the distinction is on them.

The person with the healthy ego doesn't downplay their strengths. They recognize the things they are good at, as well as the things they are not so good at. I happen to do both.

Anybody with a parallel situation as the OP could be meeting people from this site as long as they don't create their own obstacles OR refused to work on the obstacles that have presented themselves through no fault of the individual. The only thing standing in the OP's way, is the OP. The guy lives in LA. That alone gives him advantages that should be helping him to meet people that a lot of people don't have. Heck, the same day he created this thread, I went and looked in his area for kink events. There were over 200 on the list. That's not exactly a sign that people in his area are reluctant to get together.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? Quite a lot ac... - 3/11/2016 5:44:24 AM

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Scary how so many fake and abusive profiles run rampant.

Tech support have been good at taking down socks lately.
And seeing as yours is also a fake and abusive profile, yours should be next on the list.

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RE: What's wrong with Narcissism anyway? Quite a lot ac... - 3/14/2016 12:59:54 PM

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I would be the "dom", but I'm actually the opposite of a narcissist... I would rather let her do the talking and even mostly talk about herself. So I don't think think that narcissism has anything to do with either dom or sub. I'm sure that there are some subs that are narcissistic. So what I would suggest, is to have someone who is comfortable with your narcissism, which I would have to admit, the availability is probably pretty narrow.

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