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satanscharmer -> RE: Monogamy? (3/11/2016 5:47:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: satanscharmer
Thank you, yes I did miss that.
I read an article, and of course I can't find it now, where a psychologist listed off three most common reasons he was given from men as to why they don't cheat. Answers given were variances to the three. Interestingly enough, none of the reasons cited moral integrity or religious reasons. If I remember correctly they were 1) Too busy, 2) Too shy, 3) Were content.
That would be interesting if you can find it.
I've always been poly, and I actually have a fetish for my partner sleeping with other women. I'm a bit of a female cuckold/cuckquean. I derive sexual gratification from my husband sleeping with other women. Especially when he does it without me present, and later uses it to humiliate me with by pointing out that he fucked other women instead of fucking me.
One of the biggest frustrations in my marriage has been that my husband has not been sleeping with other women, until recently. He's been 100% faithful to me almost the entire time, with the exception of me dragging him of and (with me basically forcing him) fucking a hooker in Amsterdam a few years back.
Interestingly enough, the reasons he cites for not having more of an interest in fucking other women are exactly the ones you bring up: He's too busy to find another woman, he's too shy to hit on women in hook-up bars or swingers clubs, and he's sexually content with me so has no drive to find other women to fuck.
He's complained on multiple occasions that I put too much pressure on him to fuck other women, and that the logistics around it make it too hard.
Luckily our new girl friend is moving in at the end of the month, so he'll finally start catering to my fetish more, and fuck another woman regularly (current sleeping arrangements actually means that he'll be spending more time in her bed, than in mine, because I prefer sleeping alone).
First, congratulations to you both! I hope it works out beautifully for all of you. I did have a giggle when you mentioned practically forcing him to sleep with other women. I've been trying to force mine to get a hobby of some sorts so that I can enjoy some alone time. I don't think he would go for that suggestion, though [:D]
If I have more time, I'll see if I can find that article again. I don't place too much stock in it, though. One thing I found odd about the article was that the author stated that most of those who cheat cannot place the underlying reasoning. Yet, how many times have we heard excuses as to why one cheats. What makes those excuses any different than those given by those who don't cheat. While they may say that they're content and too busy, maybe their morals are so ingrained that it's not the first thing they think of. But for some, I would definitely assume that those answers are really the only reasons.
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