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primarily because I refuse to take the picture down.

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Funny thing, I just got a message not 5 minutes ago, and replied to it. Wanna take a stab at whet the message was? "Hi". Granted, Hi doesn't give one much to work with, but hey I muddled something out

Yeah, if I get a single message saying 'hi', like I do on Fet, where my inbox doesn't ever get flooded, I reply to it too.

I'd like to see you reply to 50 'Hi' messages an hour though...

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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primarily because I refuse to take the picture down.

The fact that you are hella hot likely has something to do with it as well.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Funny thing, I just got a message not 5 minutes ago, and replied to it. Wanna take a stab at whet the message was? "Hi". Granted, Hi doesn't give one much to work with, but hey I muddled something out

Yeah, if I get a single message saying 'hi', like I do on Fet, where my inbox doesn't ever get flooded, I reply to it too.

I'd like to see you reply to 50 'Hi' messages an hour though...

If I got 50 messages an hour saying Hi, you better believe I would reply to every one. But, that's the kind of person I am

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Funny thing, I just got a message not 5 minutes ago, and replied to it. Wanna take a stab at whet the message was? "Hi". Granted, Hi doesn't give one much to work with, but hey I muddled something out

Yeah, if I get a single message saying 'hi', like I do on Fet, where my inbox doesn't ever get flooded, I reply to it too.

I'd like to see you reply to 50 'Hi' messages an hour though...

If I got 50 messages an hour saying Hi, you better believe I would reply to every one. But, that's the kind of person I am

No you won't. You won't have time to do that. Not unless you start making your entire day be "reply to mails on CM".

If you'd get 50 right now, you might start off doing that because of the novelty, but after the first couple hundred, you'd start to trail off.

Especially when you consider that "Hi" -> "response" -> "reply from sender" -> "respond to sender" -> "reply from sender" -> "etc", when all the while you're still receiving new "Hi" messages.

Even if you assume that 50% of senders get eliminated every time you reply, you'll soon be having more conversations than you could physically answer in an hour, even if you only spend 15 seconds a message.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

No offense, but you don't know me, so don't presume to know how I'd act.

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I have tools at my own disposal, to sort out what I want to get or not. The bulk mail filter is surprisingly precise, you can sort by gender, location, age, even if they have a filled out profile. So I could, if I wanted, set that filter to bulk mail any messages from all males between the ages of 20 and 99, all dominant females of any age, all couples, etc. And that, would limit the messages I get, if I wanted to take the time to do so.

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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul

How is your method of ignoring irrelevant emails any better?

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

No offense, but you don't know me, so don't presume to know how I'd act.

No offense, but you're not listening.

It's not a matter of what you would or wouldn't do. It's a matter of what you could and couldn't do. You would be literally unable keep up with the messages if you respond positively to all "hi" messages and all the conversations that would follow from it. As in: unless you make your sole free time existence answering hours of CM messages every night, and do nothing else, you simple wouldn't have the time to engage in a conversation with all of them. By the second hour, you'd be having a conversation with 75 people. By the third hour you'd be having a conversation with 97 people, assuming half of the conversations would consist of only the original "Hi" and your reply.

The test profile I set up had +/-735 messages after 24 hours. Even if you assume that 60% of them were out of the girl's age range (as the first hour's stats indicated) and would have gone to bulk mail had I set that up, that leaves about 300 messages to deal with.
People simple don't have the time to engage in an email exchange with 300 people a day. There aren't enough hours available to spend on CM in an average person's day to email even attempt to write back 300 people. Unless you're only replying to "Hi" messages with "Hi" or "Bye" (and at that point, what's the point really) and even then it would take up several hours of your time. JUST to reply back with copy/paste nonsense.

Even IF you personally would attempt to write back all 300 of them, it wouldn't satisfy your desire for 'not cop-out' because you wouldn't have the time to have (and continue) a meaningful conversation with all of them (check their profile, say something back with more substance than "Hi"), even if the only thing you did that day was spent 16 hours on CM. Because, again, assuming that half of the ones who wrote you the first hour replied to your reply, the number of mails you'd have to send would be over 800.

Mathematically speaking, there is no way to keep up with that amount of mail without copping-out at some point, either by not replying to all of them, or by sending them nonsense and copy/paste stuff in return to what they sent you. And sending them nonsense back is an equal cop-out to ignoring them, because now you're not actually gaining anything (nor are they) AND you have diminished your time to talk to those who actually did sent you a decent message, which is already, incredibly limited.

That doesn't even take into account that the point of a dating site profile isn't to talk to everybody, it's to get to know a few people you would enjoy talking to.

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I have tools at my own disposal, to sort out what I want to get or not. The bulk mail filter is surprisingly precise, you can sort by gender, location, age, even if they have a filled out profile. So I could, if I wanted, set that filter to bulk mail any messages from all males between the ages of 20 and 99, all dominant females of any age, all couples, etc. And that, would limit the messages I get, if I wanted to take the time to do so.


And exactly how is that any different from not answering messages from people that don't fit your criteria? Just because it went to a different section of your email doesn't change the fact that someone who wrote you is on the other end, expecting a reply. Some of those emails may be incredibly thoughtful messages, that are not going to get a reply.

Either way someone is getting ignored, for good or bad. Either way people are getting their feelings hurt because you don't even bother to say 'TBNT'.

Anyone you didn't respond to has as much justification to come on here and complain as those who women might ignore.

How is your method of ignoring irrelevant emails any better?

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Yeah, right. You got me, you know what I would do, wouldn't do. am capable of in this situation that I do myself. What the hell have I been thinking

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As for this, see my primary statement. Can't believe I actually thought it was a good idea to use the tools provided by this website, for the purpose they are here for... You are right as well, fuck anyone who I don't want to answer, it's their problem. Ya'll got me

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Yeah, right. You got me, you know what I would do, wouldn't do. am capable of in this situation that I do myself. What the hell have I been thinking

Again, it isn't a matter of what you would and wouldn't do. It's a matter of what a person CAN do.

You cannot reply to 800 emails a day in any meaningful way. It's not a matter of "wouldn't" it's a matter of "couldn't".

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

As for this, see my primary statement. Can't believe I actually thought it was a good idea to use the tools provided by this website, for the purpose they are here for... You are right as well, fuck anyone who I don't want to answer, it's their problem. Ya'll got me

Dude, you're the one who claimed earlier in the thread that a woman is copping-out if she doesn't reply to emails that don't fit her search parameters.
Whether you set mails that don't fit your search parameter to go to your inbox or your bulk mail doesn't really matter, now does it? An unreplied mail is an unreplied mail.

For all you know you're going to bulk every time a woman isn't replying to your mails, and yet, you're still complaining that they're not replying.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Darkfeather, at a certain point, the mathematics don't work out to allow *anybody* to respond to that many e-mails. As Ishtar said, I don't see any distinction between ignoring someone through bulk mail settings or just by not reading or responding to their mail in the first place if they don't fit your parameters. Anyone who just says "hi" is automatically just as incompatible with me as someone in another country or who is the wrong gender or whatever the parameters you list are. Since you only get 3 e-mails a year, you have no idea what you'd do if your inbox was flooded that badly!

I agree with LP that your photos are more engaging than your avatar. Your profile is ok, but doesn't really give any prospective people much to talk about. Since you specifically say that you're copping out by only saying hi, and not putting any thought or effort into your messages, because you don't feel it's worth it, accusing women of copping out by not responding is rather hypocritical of you.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather

Ok, you are basically arguing that when I say I would email people, I am mistaken.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather
I have tools at my own disposal, to sort out what I want to get or not. The bulk mail filter is surprisingly precise, you can sort by gender, location, age, even if they have a filled out profile. So I could, if I wanted, set that filter to bulk mail any messages from all males between the ages of 20 and 99, all dominant females of any age, all couples, etc. And that, would limit the messages I get, if I wanted to take the time to do so. But I don't, mainly because I get maybe 3 messages a year. But ya know what, the tools are there if I wanted. So if I didn't want to have 50 messages an hour in my inbox, to answer, I wouldn't in the first place

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather
I call cop-out because of the reasons. Once again, I am in no way saying cop-ing out is bad, and I already admitted, god knows how long ago, that I also cop out.

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Ok, you are basically arguing that when I say I would email people, I am mistaken.

Nope, I'm saying that, mathematically speaking, you can't keep up with the amount of mail we're talking about, because you don't magically have more hours in the day than the rest of us do.

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ORIGINAL: Darkfeather
I have tools at my own disposal, to sort out what I want to get or not. The bulk mail filter is surprisingly precise, you can sort by gender, location, age, even if they have a filled out profile. So I could, if I wanted, set that filter to bulk mail any messages from all males between the ages of 20 and 99, all dominant females of any age, all couples, etc. And that, would limit the messages I get, if I wanted to take the time to do so. But I don't, mainly because I get maybe 3 messages a year. But ya know what, the tools are there if I wanted. So if I didn't want to have 50 messages an hour in my inbox, to answer, I wouldn't in the first place

Sorry for the trim but I wanted to just leave the part that was relevant.

Do you know the problem with this? It means that I can't actually talk to the people I want to exchange emails with unless I spend time searching the other folder. Setting those bulk parameters for distance mean that I can't talk to peon about the most recent episode of The Walking Dead. It would mean that Lady C would go to my bulk mail when we're having a conversation. The age would discount certain people from the forums who set their number at 99. Filtering male Dominants or couples would remove friends that I speak to every now and again. There's really no category that doesn't fit somebody that I speak to on a friendly basis.

Kind of just makes hitting "deleted unread" the faster option.