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ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/27/2016 7:56:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact You have obviously never lived with any woman who has an account on CM to see what actually comes through her mail. It's really not uncommon and that's why you have practically every woman on both threads telling you the same thing. Good point... My partner gets a steady stream of monosyllabic messages here... they don't rate any kind of answer. Although I don't think the OP was talking about that kind of message. Mine also. She also laughs at the foolishness of some guy expecting her to up and leave me and follow him wherever he claims to be and claims to be going. I've read them also and I too laugh at most of them and click delete on some. it seems to be easy for her to click delete also. I'm not sure what the problem is with some here when they get these messages and cannot handle them as we do. Perhaps it is because they are alone and we must consider that may have an impact. Being alone with these cmails perhaps can be too much for anyone legitimately.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/27/2016 8:00:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterJaguar01 quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic A list of his fetishes and what I could do for him.... Im in the middle of something more fun and im not interested and busy so I delete unread(yes of course I used the hover button.) Get this in response, notice it obviously peeved his little mind so much he left to start a new name... [image]http://www.lucylasticslair.com/colllar/twatterpated.jpg[/image] No it doesnt bother me, I consider it a idiot finding too. And at least it was polite.... Sorry for the sidetrack... But... Why can't these younger generations learn the difference between "loser", and "looser"? It is epidemic! Back to the topic Yeah, this is obviously a good example of a rude follow-up message and not anything like I have been describing. My other half gets these but not a lot now. The delete button gets uses on this one in my house also or she just moves on. She is submissive but at the same time strong and confident.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/27/2016 8:14:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar I can totally see that this is exactly where the disconnect lays: decent guys, who approach women on here as if it's a social club, are completely turned off (and somewhat offended, justifiably so) when the women in turn treat them as if it's a meatmarket. It's a fair point from the guys who don't deserve it. I think this happens quite a lot. Are we saying that most of the female responses are from those on the meat market side of this and so this is why a decent guys making a second pass (or even on the first) are treated as if they are crossing some line, a line that does not normally exist between men and women searching for a partner on equal terms, at the "bar" and on CS?

LadyPact -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 3:26:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath I have a beautiful submissive woman who has an account here and have seen her cmail many times. She was sent cmails all day. She never concerned herself with those that represented actual harassment. Why should she? She is safe and too focused on happiness to pretend she should be upset over foolish cmails from guys who demand she pay them attention. I myself have replied to some of them. Much of the time they are ignored. She does reply to those who are polite and she replies even on a second or third message even if it was obvious from the first that she is not interested in anything but friendship and there perhaps is the difference between she and others like her, she is happy and enjoys friendly contacts and it is why she gets them I suppose. You reap what you sow. If you sow unpleasantness then you reap it. If she (or you) chose to waste her time, I don't have much to say about that. I notice that the gal isn't mentioned in that one line, newly created profile. quote: Finally, since you were convinced I knew nothing about what a woman on CS goes through even though it turns out I know exactly what a woman goes through from experience with my submissive girl's cmail (you should know that when they become one both share cmail accounts)... Ummm... No, I don't know that. I've had this account here for nine years. Been married for fourteen. MP doesn't answer my mail. I don't answer his. No former /s type of mine has ever had my authority to go into my account. Even when I had passwords for formers, I didn't respond to theirs. quote: then it is "obvious" LP that you do not understand what a submissive woman does indeed experience here on CS and I do and it is you who should face the fact that what seems "obvious" to you is in fact distorted by your own sense of fear and hostility rather than something perpetrated on you by anyone here, male of female and I would want you to put away such things and tear down the wall you have raised around your heart and mind and live again. I'm not thinking you do. Our communities are not what you are trying to perpetrate here. Y'all aren't in the real time community, are you? ETA. Wait a sec. Wasn't it you that went on about how this was a dating site? Oh. The plot thickens.

LilJuly76 -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 5:30:06 AM)
oh I get plenty of people sending me the first email compliments about me, they have lived in the US, Australia, UK, India, usually I'll say thank you or ask how they are with it, then they will ask me some dumb question like "do you want to fuck?" "or do you want to be my sex slave." than I either tell them no or don't reply at all. I have had exactly 3 messages from where I am, good messages but one took off after she found the one she wanted to be with, the second one I figured out way before hand that he wanted to use submissives for sex, and well the third is a happy story.

DesFIP -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 8:23:12 AM)
We're going on 13 years together and he's read my emails maybe once. So he's breaking a rule by not wasting his time on the rubbish that comes to my account. Pity I can't convince him of this. Then I wouldn't still be getting ten offers a month from a company I purchased things from once, over a year ago. He could delete it when he read it.

Danemora -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 4:57:10 PM)
~FRing it~ Frankly I think it's high time that folks who think like you learn and accept the meaning of the words "no" and "not interested," OP.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 9:52:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath I have a beautiful submissive woman who has an account here and have seen her cmail many times. She was sent cmails all day. She never concerned herself with those that represented actual harassment. Why should she? She is safe and too focused on happiness to pretend she should be upset over foolish cmails from guys who demand she pay them attention. I myself have replied to some of them. Much of the time they are ignored. She does reply to those who are polite and she replies even on a second or third message even if it was obvious from the first that she is not interested in anything but friendship and there perhaps is the difference between she and others like her, she is happy and enjoys friendly contacts and it is why she gets them I suppose. You reap what you sow. If you sow unpleasantness then you reap it. If she (or you) chose to waste her time, I don't have much to say about that. I notice that the gal isn't mentioned in that one line, newly created profile. quote: Finally, since you were convinced I knew nothing about what a woman on CS goes through even though it turns out I know exactly what a woman goes through from experience with my submissive girl's cmail (you should know that when they become one both share cmail accounts)... Ummm... No, I don't know that. I've had this account here for nine years. Been married for fourteen. MP doesn't answer my mail. I don't answer his. No former /s type of mine has ever had my authority to go into my account. Even when I had passwords for formers, I didn't respond to theirs. quote: then it is "obvious" LP that you do not understand what a submissive woman does indeed experience here on CS and I do and it is you who should face the fact that what seems "obvious" to you is in fact distorted by your own sense of fear and hostility rather than something perpetrated on you by anyone here, male of female and I would want you to put away such things and tear down the wall you have raised around your heart and mind and live again. I'm not thinking you do. Our communities are not what you are trying to perpetrate here. Y'all aren't in the real time community, are you? ETA. Wait a sec. Wasn't it you that went on about how this was a dating site? Oh. The plot thickens. Since when were you allowed to decide how we spend some of our time? Only if I give "consent", eh? You noticed she is not on my profile and it is recently created? It must be damn frustrating for two of you to search my meager profile and not see who she is, that is what all that means and nothing more. Why don't you trust someone you say you are so close to? When did it become "your" community? I think it is mine. "Us'all" are. I don't share her in case you were to ask. Yes, it is me who described the other side as a BDSM dating site. It was designed to be. "The plot thickens", I like that. Original, right?

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 9:59:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 oh I get plenty of people sending me the first email compliments about me, they have lived in the US, Australia, UK, India, usually I'll say thank you or ask how they are with it, then they will ask me some dumb question like "do you want to fuck?" "or do you want to be my sex slave." than I either tell them no or don't reply at all. I have had exactly 3 messages from where I am, good messages but one took off after she found the one she wanted to be with, the second one I figured out way before hand that he wanted to use submissives for sex, and well the third is a happy story. Too bad I did not live "where you are". Fortunately I was where, within a 120 miles, my other half lived. I was amazed at how many great women on CS/CM lived within a reasonable distance. I personally sent messages and more than one to all the women who dated me. For one, I sensed on the first reply that she could be engaged with fantasy, kink of the kind I could provide long distance on the second writing with two chapters of a personally authored work of kink fiction. I was right. Thanks for sharing.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 10:02:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Danemora ~FRing it~ Frankly I think it's high time that folks who think like you learn and accept the meaning of the words "no" and "not interested," OP. No fair dong a free reply and then address a specific person. I suspect I don't need to anymore since I was successful. I wonder if that occurred to you.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 10:03:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar I can totally see that this is exactly where the disconnect lays: decent guys, who approach women on here as if it's a social club, are completely turned off (and somewhat offended, justifiably so) when the women in turn treat them as if it's a meatmarket. It's a fair point from the guys who don't deserve it. I think this happens quite a lot. Are we saying that most of the female responses are from those on the meat market side of this and so this is why a decent guys making a second pass (or even on the first) are treated as if they are crossing some line, a line that does not normally exist between men and women searching for a partner on equal terms, at the "bar" and on CS? Bump.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 10:17:33 PM)
quote: quote: then it is "obvious" LP that you do not understand what a submissive woman does indeed experience here on CS and I do and it is you who should face the fact that what seems "obvious" to you is in fact distorted by your own sense of fear and hostility rather than something perpetrated on you by anyone here, male of female and I would want you to put away such things and tear down the wall you have raised around your heart and mind and live again. I'm not thinking you do. Of course you don't think I have knowledge born of knowing and dating all those women from CM because that would mean that perhaps I am NOT thoughtless and selfish and criminal and actually know what the hell I was doing. Perish the thought.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/28/2016 10:21:11 PM)
quote: The fact that I am focusing on this has nothing to do with my attitude towards bdsm. It is solely because it directly involves what is being discussed. I am not going to be talking about the things that I love about kink, the things that I have learned that I can't live without, if the discussion is about responding to email messages. It appears that the subject of cmail from males is universally a negative subject for some. It is not for others. Do you know that?

Lucylastic -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 12:13:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath It must be damn frustrating for two of you to search my meager profile and not see who she is, that is what all that means and nothing more. I looked at your profile not to see if you had a woman... not because I wanna hump your bones and see what the competition might be. Btw, you do know that you can see anyones profile, without them knowing about it? I dont care if you saw me looking, there is a difference. I looked because having read your posts, both here and in the dungeon, I believe you to be a complete fantasist. YMMV

Greta75 -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 12:33:24 AM)
FR ImperialPath, I want to share with you something. Your suggestion could lead to this, here is a classic example of why it is a bad idea. And this is a real conversation between my girlfriend and some idiot man she met at an event. This conversation starts after first attempt and girl completely ignores him. Guy: Hmm, Re-Hi! Guy: Wish you well and I think you are busy with your things Guy: Hope to see you real soon, XXX is organizing another event next week Girl: Oh, is it gonna be for beginners? Guy: Yes my friend, anyway, may I have your number? Guy: If you do mind, then it's okay Guy: Take care ya! Guy: Why no respond? Girl: I don't feel comfortable in giving out my number sorry Guy: I see, sorry for that, since you are not comfortable, then it's okay Guy: Take care and have a good night Guy: Morning, hope you have a nice day ahead Guy: Oh no, you are ignoring me again! Guy: Sorry if there is any misunderstanding! Guy: Hey, is there a problem? Can you reply? Girl: You are really fucking irritating you know! Guy: Huh? What's wrong with you? Why are you offended? Guy: Nevermind, since you think you are so high up, then there is nothing we need to talk about, how rude! (This has followed up with alot more harrassment)

LilJuly76 -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 3:14:19 AM)
perfect example. I have a similar story at a BDSM event accept the submissive involved was with me a so called Dominant trying to give me orders, I told him to leave me alone, he wouldn't, than I slapped him, pre orders from the Dominant I was involved with, than he tried to get me into trouble with Dominant, Dominant told him that he told me to do that if another Dominant did anything unjust.

Wayward5oul -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 6:53:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar I can totally see that this is exactly where the disconnect lays: decent guys, who approach women on here as if it's a social club, are completely turned off (and somewhat offended, justifiably so) when the women in turn treat them as if it's a meatmarket. It's a fair point from the guys who don't deserve it. I think this happens quite a lot. Are we saying that most of the female responses are from those on the meat market side of this and so this is why a decent guys making a second pass (or even on the first) are treated as if they are crossing some line, a line that does not normally exist between men and women searching for a partner on equal terms, at the "bar" and on CS? Bump. Not exactly. But as I said in my last post to you, I am no longer interested in pursuing this topic with you. You don't care to listen to anything that you don't already agree with, and you distort what response you get to try and make messages that you don't agree with seem absurd and irrational. So, thank you, but not interested.

LadyPact -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 7:21:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath Since when were you allowed to decide how we spend some of our time? Only if I give "consent", eh? You noticed she is not on my profile and it is recently created? It must be damn frustrating for two of you to search my meager profile and not see who she is, that is what all that means and nothing more. Why don't you trust someone you say you are so close to? When did it become "your" community? I think it is mine. "Us'all" are. I don't share her in case you were to ask. Yes, it is me who described the other side as a BDSM dating site. It was designed to be. "The plot thickens", I like that. Original, right? Nah. Not frustrating. Sometime, a person's profile gives more information to understand where the other person is coming from. Since you are talking about having success with your methods, I was looking for that success. I didn't say I didn't trust my husband, so you're just reaching there. I'm just better at handling my own email. (I also happen to be the better one of us when it comes to social engagements and the like. When people want to meet us, they contact me, because they'll get a better result. I'm the one who tends to pay more attention.) I guess you missed the fact that I said "our" communities. That's also you trying to manipulate what was said. If your methods work for you, that's great. Even if you have this small, but overwhelming amount of women saying that your tactics wouldn't work in their cases. That means, the folks who are still trying to meet people may not do well by using the same measures. Always listen to your target audience. It's true of advertising, marketing, and so many other areas of life.

ImperialPath -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 8:22:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath It must be damn frustrating for two of you to search my meager profile and not see who she is, that is what all that means and nothing more. I looked at your profile not to see if you had a woman... not because I wanna hump your bones and see what the competition might be. Btw, you do know that you can see anyones profile, without them knowing about it? I dont care if you saw me looking, there is a difference. I looked because having read your posts, both here and in the dungeon, I believe you to be a complete fantasist. YMMV Do I get a tee shirt? Do you have anything further to say about the original post in the context of that post or will this continue to be about your fascination with me because it will never do you any good, I have only one set of tools and I only use them on my other half exclusively.

Lucylastic -> RE: Link for submissive women to follow if they would like to respond to this question. (3/29/2016 8:27:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImperialPath Do I get a tee shirt? Do you have anything further to say about the original post in the context of that post or will this continue to be about your fascination with me because it will never do you any good, I have only one set of tools and I only use them on my other half exclusively. LMAO im actually fascinated with a lot of ugly and strange things, but dont take it so personally, its part of being a sadist..And its kept me from a lot of morons.

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