FieryOpal
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You just have to look harder, and best to take up the darks arts too, sorcery and witchraft so you can cast a spell. But it’s little harder than abracadabra.
No and no. I hope you were kidding about resorting to nefarious consent violations. Only a person of weak personal power would turn to the dark side.
BTW, it isn't a matter of looking harder--it's looking outside of the box to a certain extent, in finding the embodiment of what I need on all levels. I don't think I shall ever find myself attracted to women, but I have been giving serious thought to becoming poly-optional. In theory, not in practice, and I have no interest in running a poly household. I have been monogamous all of my life, and I don't even date more than one man at a time.
I would have to get over my aversion to setting double standards, because my mate or dating partner must unequivocally be strictly monogamous and totally devoted to me, the way that my pets are. I can work with this idea, that I am their sole Owner as Mistress.
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Well, you seem to have the gist of the demographics of all sites. Incidentally you can expect at least 4/10 to be married, living with their partners on mainstream single sites and that does not include those dating, infamous fake ghost scam profiles. And those as good as you get odds anywhere. When you join fetish sites expect the figure to be higher, a lot higher. But still that leaves what 20% of men, roughly. (And 20% of women). So 1 in 5, or lets say 1:10 mails you send should find their way to a Man.
I see many of the same faces across multiple dating sites, myself included! This is not the norm, but there are men with 3-5 profiles on the same site, most using an identical photo (height and location are often variables). A few switch it up with a different one where their features are still recognizable as being the same person. I don't believe they forgot their password on multiple occasions and had to create yet another profile.
Any time I see a man claim to have an open marriage, I figure he's full of it. (Not to mention I am not a poacher, don't want leftovers, and refuse to share ownership rights.) I have one friend who actually is in an open marriage where both he and his sub wife have their own separate Dominant LTRs--they do not swing as a couple. I believe he is the exception to the rule.
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Ah I see you have sampled the long distance thingy only to find out when you were not about he was collecting the titties. They don’t all do that you know.
I don't understand what you are saying here whatsoever. I had no choice in the long-distance matches that eHarmony makes, that's just how they roll. Utterly useless to me, as far I am concerned.
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How far will you travel:
1 mile, 2 miles….10miles……..101miles…….6000miles…to the other side of the world. Where do you draw the line if at 500 miles, is 501 too far.
Uh, more like no farther than 15 miles. My travel time, to meet up with a date. I have done the 45-minute to one hour highway driving stint for an intro meeting date to a halfway point or to a fetish party the first year or so of re-entering the dating market, but it wasn't worth going out of my way and rationing myself to just one strong drink, considering that I am only a social drinker as it is. If he lives an hour away, then he needs to haul ass over to my neck of the woods. His logistical choice in seeking me out.
I had one guy a state over who offered to fly his plane every weekend to come see me. (That's how I knew he was not a man of his word. A sincere man would not have sworn up and down adamantly that he could manage to do this more than once a month, and he already knew that a once-a-month sub wasn't sufficient enough for me.) I called him out on his impulsively unrealistic scheme. Let's see, the cost of jet fuel, then I would have to pick him up at the local airport and drive him around, unless he planned on taking a taxi or getting a rental car, his incurring the expense of overnight lodgings--because there was no way in hell he was going to become my regular weekend houseguest. As if my life would suddenly start revolving around him? No likelihood of that.
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