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LadyHugs -> RE: A Tolerant comunity ???? (7/20/2006 4:00:11 PM)
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Dear Ladies and Gentlemen;
Tolerance is a selective behavior. There are certain things we grow up with, to which molds our behavior. Model from parents, then school chums on the playground, neighborhood cliques and such, just starts the life long personal perception of what is acceptable and what is not.
With information, personal experiences and inter-actions with individuals we as individuals, have an ability to change our tolerances when our mind is able to embrace the justification for it. However, there are those who will never be tolerant. Regardless of the fence riding, I've witnessed a few individuals that make great sport of fanning the flames of intolerance and take great joy in their ability to stir the pot. How they are allowed to do such, is through the "fear" of not being seen as fair or intolerant of those who behave badly and beyond the context of scene and or lifestyle safety. Perhaps it is the normal now, ever since "Political Correctness" has been required as freedoms to really say what one thinks is automaticly considered racial, prejudicial and or bias. This does add to the "speaking with forked tongue and or speaking out of both sides out of your mouth."
In my mind's eye, looking back on the past few years of the scene in my area, on-line and on other forums, I see selective tolerance. More tolerance is given to who is popular and in power, with local groups and or clubs. No different than that of National politics and or society and or civilization tolerances and or lack there of. War is the obvious statement to a class of tolerances and lack thereof. But, this is what I see as a truth-- Those who create and make wars are usually not the ones who fight them. Perhaps the 'call to arms' should be put into question a bit more before we have leaders attack others. This can start within the community-at-large. Perhaps it will then be seen that the community-at-large is not the problem but, a few individuals that have a big personal problem and or bias/prejudices; rather than a safety and other issues within the community, when it comes to practicing a salad bar full of "styles" in practicing a D/s, M/s, S&M and or BDSM.
True, you can never make everybody happy. However, the first priority is seeking individual happiness and the ability to look into the mirror, knowing that you have been the best person you are able to be and regardless of other's appreciation or lack there of, you have no shame in your mind's eye of what you believe is just and kind.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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