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Advice Please - 4/8/2016 8:20:33 AM   
Blondebimbo87


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Status: offline 		So today i asked Sir if he gave a shit about me and his response was 'as a person yes but as a sub no', how would you take this?
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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 8:50:13 AM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		His..Reality view point and honest. He is able to separate out the sub core and distinguish the individual humanity. In other words he sounds like a man clear and sure of himself so that no matter what paces he puts you through..the hand will be there to help the human up after the animals have rested. I appreciate knowing my whole self is seen and the value is placed more on my humanity while sub thing.. Well.. It's okay with me to be the "thing" as the after thought as long as the human inside is always the priority. He sees your human needs and they are of value. Maybe that works for you..maybe not. Not automatically bad. Talk to him about it.



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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 10:36:04 AM   
ThatDizzyChick


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Status: offline 		Personally I would take it as a sign to find a new partner.

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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 1:11:22 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		either find a new partner or be the slave he wants you to be

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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 2:31:54 PM   
Eayore


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Status: offline 		I think it's nice that he can make the distinction between you as a person (who he cares for) and you as a sub. I'm not sure how I'd take it myself. Perhaps he thinks a sub should not expect appreciation from the 'dom'... but in reality he thinks you are great?

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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 11:03:55 PM   
dreamofdaddy


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Status: offline 		I would be devastated. How could anyone not?

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RE: Advice Please - 4/8/2016 11:11:40 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		It's over. Has been for a while. But he's still getting laid. So he just hasn't mentioned it.

If you think it's an over reaction, let's review how direct the question was.

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RE: Advice Please - 4/10/2016 7:52:52 AM   
evilsadistic69


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RE: Advice Please - 4/10/2016 8:47:19 AM   
Cinnamongirl67


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blondebimbo87

So today i asked Sir if he gave a shit about me and his response was 'as a person yes but as a sub no', how would you take this?


We can only speculate how to take it, even then it's just a guess.
Explain your sub/ Dom dynamic and others may be able to make a more educated guess.

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RE: Advice Please - 4/10/2016 8:57:20 AM   
WickedsDesire


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If it twere I.
I,
A handsome loon,
loon would have put you on mufffinbay for doughnuts

So he said you were a person and he lacks the capacity to care for shiny buckle material as his wifey will not allow him slave number malarkey

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RE: Advice Please - 4/10/2016 4:02:18 PM   
domasourous1


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Status: offline 		wow sounds like he doesn't care about what you need in your submissive world , which in most cases can be more than 50 % of whom you are . loving a good submissive is primary to having a good and long lasting relationship.
I wont sugar coat this , its time for you to set him free and allow yourself to find a true dom , who will love and cherish ALL OF YOU not just some of you some of the time .....

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RE: Advice Please - 4/11/2016 7:11:43 PM   
mousekabob


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Status: offline 		why not ask him?? He's the only one who knows the real answer.


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RE: Advice Please - 4/12/2016 7:17:20 AM   
Greta75


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ORIGINAL: Blondebimbo87
So today i asked Sir if he gave a shit about me and his response was 'as a person yes but as a sub no', how would you take this?

Is that answer bad?
That's a good answer to me.
It's quite similar to how it was like between me and my x-dom. He doesn't give a shit about me as a sub. But he loves me to death as his girlfriend and his fiancee.

It depends on the dynamic of the D/S.

In our dynamic, when we are dominant and sub, his an asshole. If I need love, I get it from him when his my vanilla boyfriend.

I'm kinda surprise some women here say they will be devastated by that.

But again, how the D/S dynamic is like is very important.

My x-dom was not a caring dominant. When his domming, his a total asshole who couldn't care less about my feelings. That's what safe words are for. If things get too hurtful and crazy, close the game, and get your loving boyfriend back.

I guess it depends on how people process it. Some process it as the guy is still the dominant, but is performing after care. But for me, I like this way better. Because I need to know his just playing a role when his being an asshole. Whereas when he snaps back to the regular guy, his a caring and loving man and not really an asshole.

But I guess my x-dom always made it clear that, when his in dom mode, he wouldn't care about how I feel, what I want, my existence is just to please him, I would be completely treated as just an sexual object for his pleasure and dehumanised. So frankly, although it's 24/7 d/s but my safe word is a time out from that personality of his. To get some reassurance that the man who loves and care for me is still there. So in a way, there is no after care, unless I safe word to require it. We would have continue day to day with this tyrannical personality of his ha!

I wonder if your dom is the same way.

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RE: Advice Please - 4/12/2016 11:33:02 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: domasourous1

loving a good submissive is primary to having a good and long lasting relationship.


No, it's not. I know several people that have service only relationships that are happy and have been long.


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RE: Advice Please - 4/12/2016 4:35:18 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		I have been in servants to 6 or 7 Dominants and I find it very fulfilling and relaxing, I don't have to worry about vanilla problems all I do is serve in whatever ways they want.

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RE: Advice Please - 4/14/2016 3:08:13 AM   
DuchessSeeking


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Status: offline 		This girl has found that asking Master a question that has the potential to irritate Him is a BAD monkey thing to do. Rather, this girl has found that if she kneels at Master’s feet and asks for permission to speak, it diffuses Master’s desire to be angry. When girl receives permission, which happens nine out of ten times, she makes sure her desires are voiced in a positive way leaving Master options and openings. Always … for instance … rather than ‘Master is making me feel like crap’ … girl says instead ‘What does girl need to do to be the sub Master needs?”

Same ‘feelings’ … different style of address from girl. Just a suggestion. your Masters seems to have lost some ‘respect’ for the sub in you. Good luck to you.


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