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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

I belong to another forum and I posted a question but it got deleted because the admin said this is just ranting. But honestly, I'm not ranting. I'm not here to rile or stir things up. I would like to know your opinion.

I've been reading some interesting posts concerning BDSM dating sites. I would like to ask this question.

1. Say an average guy joined a BDSM dating site and he wants to find an authentic long term relationship. He reads listing and sends out thoughtful emails but gets no response. He comes to a forum and complains and bitches about it. The most valid response I've read would be something like this:
"Well, you are only writing to women who are an #8, 9, 10. (I hate giving numbers like this.) And you are just a 3! Of course you're not getting a response. If you are serious in finding someone, why don't you write to the women who are a #2, 3, 4, 5.
If the guy complains that those women are ugly fat, etc, he gets the wrath of the community - a lot of derogatory remarks.

2. An average women joins a BDSM dating site and wants an authentic long term relationship. She complains that she can't find anyone of substance. 99% of the emails she receives are of dick pictures, men who live in another country, etc. However, 1% come through who live near her. But she says, "Look at that 1%! They look like they need a bath - they are ugly - etc."

Does she deserve the wrath of the community and derogatory remarks?