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FieryOpal -> RE: Do you think your childhood punishment experiences affected your later adult fetish life? (5/2/2016 11:05:26 PM)
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I can't speak to having had any corporal punishment as a child, much less having been abused.
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ORIGINAL: crumpets
Just curious, given I was both spanked and abused as a child, how many spankees here were spanked as children?
Do you think your childhood punishment experiences affected your later adult fetish life?
See recent 50-year study discussion:
Spanking and Child Outcomes: Old Controversies and New Meta-Analyses
Risks of Harm from Spanking Confirmed by Analysis of Five Decades of Research
Interpretations:
Spanking: More harm than good?
Spanking Makes Kids More Defiant, Studies Suggest
Spanking raises risks of anti-social behavior, 50-year study finds
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The study, published in this month’s Journal of Family Psychology, looks at five decades of research involving over 160,000 children.. [The study concluded] the more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties...
They defined "spanking" and contrasted it with "abuse"...
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spanking (defined as an open-handed hit on the behind or extremities) ... “Our analysis focuses on what most Americans would recognize as spanking and not on potentially abusive behaviors,”
While spanking and abuse were different, the adult behavioral results were similar...
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“We as a society think of spanking and physical abuse as distinct behaviors,” she says. “Yet our research shows that spanking is linked with the same negative child outcomes as abuse, just to a slightly lesser degree.”
Anti-social behaviors were also noted...
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Gershoff and Grogan-Kaylor tested for some long-term effects among adults who were spanked as children. Both spanking and physical abuse were associated with the same detrimental child outcomes in the same direction and nearly the same strength. The more they were spanked, the more likely they were to exhibit anti-social behavior and to experience mental health problems. They were also more likely to support physical punishment
With just one exception. My brother once swiped one of my father's cigarettes. We were staying in a lakeside cabin on vacation in Maine, which had stilts. We went under those stilts, where my older brother talked me into taking a puff even though I sensed that what he had done was wrong and that it would be wrong of me to participate.
He was the type of sibling who rarely shared his stuff with me, never liked having a kid sister tagging alone whom he was supposed to be keeping an eye on, so it was a big deal to me at the age of around 5-6 to be included in anything he did.
When my father found out, we both got an OTK spanking. Our first and last time. I believe my dad regretted having laid a hand upon us, as both he and my mother were ordinarily against using physical force in disciplining children. Using a belt on a child or otherwise striking one was viewed as barbaric. We were subjected to long explanatory lectures instead, which is the corrective mode I get into (I have never laid a hand upon my own boys).
I always thought it was patently unfair that I got punished for something that I had been corrupted into doing by my brother when he was 5 years older than I was and had undue influence over me.
As soon as I received enough of a weekly allowance to afford to buy myself cigarettes, I started smoking. There have been a couple of periods of time when I have quit smoking for not many years. I still smoke (less than half a pack) to this day, although lately I've been trying to cut down significantly.
I have to wonder whether my smoking habit originates from childhood and adolescent rebelliousness, rather than as a stress relief coping mechanism. On the other hand, I became adamant about not allowing myself to get "talked" or persuaded into doing something I didn't think was right.
I should also mention that I am not a physical sadist, and get no pleasure out of inflicting pain on others or in seeing it done, so this has had the opposite effect on me.
I can suspend my natural reaction of revulsion if it is apparent that others are engaging in consensually enjoyable S&M.
I will briefly administer a light OTK spanking at times for funishment as part of ass sensation play, but this is not a mandatory kink of mine, and I am surely incompatible with spankos.
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