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DesFIP -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/3/2016 4:53:15 PM)

A porn type voicemail?
Haven't you any brains at all?

That's just the thing you want when your boss calls. Or your doctor.
Or elderly family members, or conversely the junior member of the family.





wannapleez -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 9:50:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LilJuly76
telling it like it is


That's the #1 thing I hear from Donald Trump supporters. Only he isn't telling it like it is. Because that's not how it is.

Applicability to the topic at hand is left as an exercise for the reader.




wannapleez -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 9:52:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
It doesn't matter if it was aimed at me. The forums guidelines allow anyone to post anywhere.


And as we all know, if you can do something, it's imperative that you should do it. #smh




wannapleez -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 9:58:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
It was a fluffy "lifestyle" site that had all sorts of rules about how to have an M/s relationship.


So you're glad that a site that strictly defined the only way in which a relationship works is gone.

And you're simultaneously telling us what submissive is and isn't.

So your beef with Castlerealm wasn't that they had a strict set of rules, but that they weren't your strict set of rules?

Or are you just trying to be ironical?




Danemora -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 10:42:21 AM)

~FRing it~

Life is complicated enough. I dont need to make up a bunch of stupid pointless tasks (my opinion) that I then have to evaluate later on complicating my life even more.




wannapleez -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 10:50:51 AM)

Sigh, so much "my way or the highway" shit (which is 100 times as illogical in this lifestyle as anywhere else) and faux omniscience about what you seek and/or think, ClubErotica. So damn tiresome.

The only thing that I agree with among your detractors is that sex games do not equal submissiveness. But you never said nor implied any such thing, so what the hell? True submissiveness doesn't preclude sex games, as the BDSM police would seem to imply. They're not a foundation on which to build a relationship, but they can certainly be a tool to enhance one.

So now, for an actual response to your question:

(I'll be using pronouns where the sub is male and the Domme is female.)

The way that I'm reading the question can be dangerous. If the sub is coming up with the challenges, there is a real danger of topping from the bottom. Subs could safely have some input into the process (e.g., suggestions or fleshing out), but beyond that seems risky to me. (Note that I said "to me" -- no universal declaration.)

That said, I can cite some dares/challenges that I have been given in the past. I had one LD Domme who used to occasionally send me on (what she called) scavenger hunts: several tasks in a row that she would give. I would tell her, "I have X hours free" and I never knew how long the hunt would be nor what task was next. Many (but not all) tasks were out and about. Each task would require some level of proof.

* I had to go to a mattress store and find a sales rep (bonus if it was a female). Had to tell the rep that my girlfriend and I had worn out our previous mattress because of rigorous sex. Bonus points if I tried out some mattresses with simulated motions. (Sadly, I didn't get to do this one. Got called in to work just before.)

* I had some white compression shorts (like bicycle shorts, only tighter and a bit more translucent) and a matching shirt. I had to go through a drive-thru in them. Did that a few times. I got some knowing smiles and stares.

* Variation: Went through a drive-thru wearing only a dress shirt. Everything was covered, but just barely.

* I had to do some outdoor work around the house (washing outside of windows or trimming bushes) in the compression shorts.

* Receive pizza deliveries wrapped in a towel, as though I had just come out of the shower. One towel just barely reached all the way around me; I had to hold it in place. Any movement exposed my thigh almost all the way up to my waist. Another towel was long enough to wrap around and tie off (without being held), but was folded over several times such that it barely concealed my naughty bits.

* Some hunts had me in the compression shorts under other clothing. One task involved going through a drive-thru, ordering food, but also asking for a large cup of ice. I had to then go park, unzip my outer shorts, pull open the compression shorts and dump the entire cup of ice inside them.

* In a sense, that was nothing compared to what she called "Thai Soup". This was usually reserved when punishment was necessary, but was a part of a hunt, once. I'd fill a large glass bowl with water and ice, then stick it in the freezer long enough for the water to get even colder, but not freeze. Then I would set it on the floor, strip, and dip Big Al and the Twins into it -- exquisite pain. This was always done on cam so that she could watch. The first time was supposed to be five straight minutes, but I wasn't able to take it, so she had mercy and made it three 2-minute intervals with a break in-between each. After that, I was able to do the full 5. Interestingly, the pain never diminished -- you'd think you'd get used to it and/or go numb from the cold, but no. The one interesting thing, though, was that it always entailed instant shrinkage, but if it went on long enough, I would get hard again.

* Go to a department store and pick out some lingerie. Take it to the dressing room, put it on, and take pictures in the dressing room mirror.

There are a few other challenges that she (and others) gave, however they fall under such a level of forced exhibitionism that they could (if caught) lead to arrest for indecent exposure. I talked about these once before and the moderator nuked the thread and sent me a long-winded note about how I was encouraging illegal behavior and how he could get into legal trouble for hosting it. I wasn't encouraging anything, but I could see how he could get into trouble (seeing as how logic and the legal system have very little overlap). I sent him a sincere apology which he ignored.

So, I won't list those things here, but if you want to hear about them, you can contact me privately.




LadyPact -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 1:18:26 PM)

here we go....

quote:

ORIGINAL: wannapleez
So your beef with Castlerealm wasn't that they had a strict set of rules, but that they weren't your strict set of rules?

No. My "beef" with CastleRealm was the fact that "jade" never existed. For all of the people who said, "I talked to her on the internet," nobody has ever, ONCE, been able to verify her existence with a time stamped photo. Even her so-called death/obituary has ever been published in any newspaper, no death certificate on record linked to Colm. Nothing. Not one shred of evidence supports the fairy tale.

quote:

Or are you just trying to be ironical?

Personally, I am more than fair.

If you have evidence that 'jade' ever existed, I'll be happy to look at it.






OsideGirl -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 1:50:58 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

here we go....

quote:

ORIGINAL: wannapleez
So your beef with Castlerealm wasn't that they had a strict set of rules, but that they weren't your strict set of rules?

No. My "beef" with CastleRealm was the fact that "jade" never existed.




Exactly. It was a set of rules based on an over romanticized fantasy.








thishereboi -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 1:55:17 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

A porn type voicemail?
Haven't you any brains at all?

That's just the thing you want when your boss calls. Or your doctor.
Or elderly family members, or conversely the junior member of the family.




I guess the challenging part is when you try to explain to your mom why you were stupid enough to let him talk you into it.




LilJuly76 -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 2:45:07 PM)

I don't remember this conversation but I'll say even if I don't live there I would never support someone like Trump.




OsideGirl -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 2:58:44 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

A porn type voicemail?
Haven't you any brains at all?

That's just the thing you want when your boss calls. Or your doctor.
Or elderly family members, or conversely the junior member of the family.




I guess the challenging part is when you try to explain to your mom why you were stupid enough to let him talk you into it.



Oh just think of all the fun outcomes...

"Ummm...if this is Mr X....I'm your son/daughter's teacher....."

"Ummmm...if this is Mr X.....this is Reverend Smith......"





Wayward5oul -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 4:32:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: wannapleez
* I had to go to a mattress store and find a sales rep (bonus if it was a female). Had to tell the rep that my girlfriend and I had worn out our previous mattress because of rigorous sex. Bonus points if I tried out some mattresses with simulated motions. (Sadly, I didn't get to do this one. Got called in to work just before.)


Nice way to force someone to interact with you while you are being sexually inappropriate, and embarrassing or humiliating a person who may not have any choice but to tolerate it with a smile unless they want to lose their job.

quote:


* I had some white compression shorts (like bicycle shorts, only tighter and a bit more translucent) and a matching shirt. I had to go through a drive-thru in them. Did that a few times. I got some knowing smiles and stares.

* Variation: Went through a drive-thru wearing only a dress shirt. Everything was covered, but just barely.

I used to work a drive-thru in high school. We had perverts who did that sort of thing, and again, we had to serve them in and smile at them or get in trouble at work. It was creepy, uncomfortable, and once the person at the pay window warned us that said perv was headed our way, some of the drive-thru workers would do everything they could to avoid having to deal with that person. Those of us who were bolder would often volunteer to be the one, so that the more shy girls wouldn't have to get humiliated. Of course us bolder ones usually tended to be the more clumsy ones, as least when it came to those people and handing them their drinks. Morning was always the most fun, since that meant the opportunity spill hot coffee on some perv who got their rocks off over the idea of flashing underage girls.

These days, you can just get arrested and put on the sex offenders list for that shit.

quote:


* Receive pizza deliveries wrapped in a towel, as though I had just come out of the shower. One towel just barely reached all the way around me; I had to hold it in place. Any movement exposed my thigh almost all the way up to my waist. Another towel was long enough to wrap around and tie off (without being held), but was folded over several times such that it barely concealed my naughty bits.


Again, nice way of forcing a stranger just trying to make a living to interact with you in a sexual way just so you can rub one out.

quote:


There are a few other challenges that she (and others) gave, however they fall under such a level of forced exhibitionism that they could (if caught) lead to arrest for indecent exposure. I talked about these once before and the moderator nuked the thread and sent me a long-winded note about how I was encouraging illegal behavior and how he could get into legal trouble for hosting it. I wasn't encouraging anything, but I could see how he could get into trouble (seeing as how logic and the legal system have very little overlap). I sent him a sincere apology which he ignored.

So, I won't list those things here, but if you want to hear about them, you can contact me privately.

If these are the things that you consider mild, I would hate to see just how far outside of the bounds of human decency the ones you won't talk about publicly are.




OsideGirl -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/4/2016 6:18:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


Nice way to force someone to interact with you while you are being sexually inappropriate, and embarrassing or humiliating a person who may not have any choice but to tolerate it with a smile unless they want to lose their job.



Yup, and involving someone in your kink without their consent is not cool...and like you said...could end up with some pretty hefty penalties.




DesFIP -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (5/5/2016 8:29:10 AM)

Since many food delivery people are minors, I'd advise against answering the door barely covered. If the towel slips, you could well find yourself facing criminal charges.

Not even mentioning that you could scar the poor kid for life from that sight.




ClubErotica -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/12/2016 3:52:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: wannapleez

Sigh, so much "my way or the highway" shit (which is 100 times as illogical in this lifestyle as anywhere else) and faux omniscience about what you seek and/or think, ClubErotica. So damn tiresome.

The only thing that I agree with among your detractors is that sex games do not equal submissiveness. But you never said nor implied any such thing, so what the hell? True submissiveness doesn't preclude sex games, as the BDSM police would seem to imply. They're not a foundation on which to build a relationship, but they can certainly be a tool to enhance one.

So now, for an actual response to your question:

(I'll be using pronouns where the sub is male and the Domme is female.)

The way that I'm reading the question can be dangerous. If the sub is coming up with the challenges, there is a real danger of topping from the bottom. Subs could safely have some input into the process (e.g., suggestions or fleshing out), but beyond that seems risky to me. (Note that I said "to me" -- no universal declaration.)

That said, I can cite some dares/challenges that I have been given in the past. I had one LD Domme who used to occasionally send me on (what she called) scavenger hunts: several tasks in a row that she would give. I would tell her, "I have X hours free" and I never knew how long the hunt would be nor what task was next. Many (but not all) tasks were out and about. Each task would require some level of proof.

* I had to go to a mattress store and find a sales rep (bonus if it was a female). Had to tell the rep that my girlfriend and I had worn out our previous mattress because of rigorous sex. Bonus points if I tried out some mattresses with simulated motions. (Sadly, I didn't get to do this one. Got called in to work just before.)

* I had some white compression shorts (like bicycle shorts, only tighter and a bit more translucent) and a matching shirt. I had to go through a drive-thru in them. Did that a few times. I got some knowing smiles and stares.

* Variation: Went through a drive-thru wearing only a dress shirt. Everything was covered, but just barely.

* I had to do some outdoor work around the house (washing outside of windows or trimming bushes) in the compression shorts.

* Receive pizza deliveries wrapped in a towel, as though I had just come out of the shower. One towel just barely reached all the way around me; I had to hold it in place. Any movement exposed my thigh almost all the way up to my waist. Another towel was long enough to wrap around and tie off (without being held), but was folded over several times such that it barely concealed my naughty bits.

* Some hunts had me in the compression shorts under other clothing. One task involved going through a drive-thru, ordering food, but also asking for a large cup of ice. I had to then go park, unzip my outer shorts, pull open the compression shorts and dump the entire cup of ice inside them.

* In a sense, that was nothing compared to what she called "Thai Soup". This was usually reserved when punishment was necessary, but was a part of a hunt, once. I'd fill a large glass bowl with water and ice, then stick it in the freezer long enough for the water to get even colder, but not freeze. Then I would set it on the floor, strip, and dip Big Al and the Twins into it -- exquisite pain. This was always done on cam so that she could watch. The first time was supposed to be five straight minutes, but I wasn't able to take it, so she had mercy and made it three 2-minute intervals with a break in-between each. After that, I was able to do the full 5. Interestingly, the pain never diminished -- you'd think you'd get used to it and/or go numb from the cold, but no. The one interesting thing, though, was that it always entailed instant shrinkage, but if it went on long enough, I would get hard again.

* Go to a department store and pick out some lingerie. Take it to the dressing room, put it on, and take pictures in the dressing room mirror.

There are a few other challenges that she (and others) gave, however they fall under such a level of forced exhibitionism that they could (if caught) lead to arrest for indecent exposure. I talked about these once before and the moderator nuked the thread and sent me a long-winded note about how I was encouraging illegal behavior and how he could get into legal trouble for hosting it. I wasn't encouraging anything, but I could see how he could get into trouble (seeing as how logic and the legal system have very little overlap). I sent him a sincere apology which he ignored.

So, I won't list those things here, but if you want to hear about them, you can contact me privately.


Thank you for your response. I've compiled 23 challenges to date and will no doubt find a few nuggets of gold within your post.

Thanks

Paul




DannyIsNotWelcom -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/12/2016 11:56:54 AM)

I wear gym shorts that really couldn't be smaller. I continue to feel kind of exposed like that but people assure me that it's still decent. Otherwise in my book how I behave towards other people reflects on my master even if they don't know that I have one, so no complaints please.




littleone35 -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/13/2016 8:09:34 PM)

I dont need mindless taks . Workng part time. makng sure the house is clean, the cliohes ar washed (ironed folded) and runninr erand for him. Shopping for and have dunner ready on time is more than enough "tasks" for me i don't need that stupid mindless crap.

Matt's litleone




sunshinemiss -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/16/2016 8:22:00 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

A porn type voicemail?
Haven't you any brains at all?

That's just the thing you want when your boss calls. Or your doctor.
Or elderly family members, or conversely the junior member of the family.




I guess the challenging part is when you try to explain to your mom why you were stupid enough to let him talk you into it.


It says EROTIC not SEXUAL. And frankly, my 70 year old aunt has a sexy voice mail message. Her plumber, doctor, sister, etc. all hear it and roll their eyes. BUt it's fun and expresses who she is - she's VERY flirty. So what? People do this kind of stuff. That's cool. Writing a story and publishing it (not under my real name)? Sure, why not? What was the third one? I forget. But seriously... this is just all in silly fun. (or that's how I see it). Now I don't think that wearing sexual clothes to deliberately make others uncomfortable is cool. No. Don't do that. However, after living in Asia for many years where gals had to carry files to cover their laps when they sat or to put in front of their behinds while they were walking upstairs so folks couldn't see their business... well, so what? It's their body. Do as they want. Every single day in Asia I was bombarded with prostitute-length skirts in the average every day woman. *Pfft* If it makes people happy? Who cares? Personally I'm uncomfortable with PDA by regular folks. I think it belongs in private. Aren't those people subjecting me to their sexuality? Oh well.




DesFIP -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/17/2016 7:54:28 AM)

It says erotic but reading the stuff the op wrote, I think his idea of erotic is blatant sexual.

Anyway, how do you like living in South America?




peppermint -> RE: Challenges for Subs/Slaves that you would actually consider doing? (6/20/2016 12:57:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl



In the community, a lot of male Doms used the website like a weapon when it came to approaching female submissives. (Usually while wearing a puffy pirate shirt) They acted like that website was the Bible. There was a group of us that made up a bingo sheet for when male Doms would approach us.



Sounds as if those male Doms misquoted the site. I took the quote I used directly from the site. I never saw Castlerealm as fluffy. I never saw it as spouting the ONE TRUE WAY. When I was a newbie I found many ideas to think about. It opened my eyes to new and exciting possibilities. Now that I've been round the dungeon a time or two, I still enjoy going back there to read and enjoy the good advice that was offered on the site. I still send newbies to look at the archives and read.




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