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LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:56:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: roboslavedog Well, I'm a practical, reasonable man. If I were interested in local people ONLY, I would definitely include this information in my profile, so as not to waste both mine and other people's time (which, as we can read even in this thread, is OH SO VALUABLE ;) ) Ah, so since that's what you would do, you want to tell other people that's what they should do, too? That's what this entire thread is. People wanting to dictate to other people what they have to do, trying to tell other individuals how they have to respond, etc to please other people. Do you know what people have to do? They have to abide by ToS. Everything else, they get to make their own choices about.

Pat4422 -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:00:50 AM)
I'm a bit surprised that "Quality Unread" is as obdurate as he is but I'm even more surprised that the ladies here are giving him and his opinions on etiquette this much attention.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:03:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Quiette Well this should answer your question qualityfirst, yea? You make a request and someone responded with a simple no. But then you demanded an explanation and when one was denied, you called her actions low level. This should more than show you why we don't respond and/or delete unread. Some guys appreciate a simple "no thanks" but others do what you did and demand an explanation. If a satisfactory one isn't given, men get the way you got. And since we have no way of knowing which guys are which, it's easier just not to engage. Please don't mess up the mops and the sails. If, being a submissive, I write a message to a dominant lady, she doesn't need a reason to reject me, and if she has one, she doesn't need to tell it to me. As a submissive, I consider it to be my duty to accept the decisions of a dominant lady without questions. And I fully respect each dominant lady who rejects me. However, on a forum, if one answers a question with no, it is usefull that she or he also explains why. Besides, I no longer blame Stef for not having explained her no, as I promised her to no more contradict her.

Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:16:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QualityFirst quote: Kneeling on rice or popcorn kernals or beer bottle caps would be more sadistic. You have Zero imagination. LOL... I have done all of them, and I could tell you much more sadistic ways to have someone sit on his knees than you could ever think of. My comment was regarding Four hours "online" kneeling specifically, I donot do sadistic anything from long distance. Yanno why? Im not actually there. Im not there to make him REALLY feeel his "punishment" to feel him in the skin, its useless to me, because I dont get a sexual thrill by reading about his "submission" or his subbliness, I dont get to taste his tears and laugh nasty things into his head, I dont get to feel his shivering or goosebumps, I dont get to feel his ANYTHING. Ive done far worse, but I practise restraint when Im not around physically. I believe in RACK, I Cant do anything if he has a panic attack, or has to go to the bathroom, or when the internet wobbles or he gets a BSOD. falls over in his bonds and blacks out... Im a Domme not ignorant. For me (and we had more than a few "oops" moments that were discussed and modified) I AM responsible for him not getting hurt, I refuse to do "more sadistic" things when Im not there. Oh and I only do "funishment" IF he thinks he needs a punishment, or pushes for one,by being a little shit we wont be talking for very long, let alone get Sadistic. I dont play with fools, only verbally. I certainly will never give four hours of my time to check in on a sad sack online kneeling cos he thinks he is showing me devotion. It is about as arousing as watching paint dry on growing grass. Been there done that.... never again. its a hard limit now.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:19:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LilJuly76 another submissive mistake, no one is going to require you to write a punishment, a punishment dynamic or "funishment" dynamic only exists between the committed couples that want that part of it in their relationship not just any Dominant online that you send a message to. As opposed to what some ladies seem to think, I am not at all fishing for a punishment that truly hurts (knowing the sadistic talents of some dominant ladies, I could barely regret it). However, we all know how easy it is on the Internet to write things other people don't like. Therefore, I want to remain faithful to myself as a submissive. If a dominant lady would feel that such a punishment could be a better way to have me understand something than a message here, I will accept it.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:22:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Or, maybe it's her profile and she's not required to put things in it specifically to make other people happy. You don't think it's a wee bit presumptuous to try to tell people what has to be in their profile, or where, to suit the reader? If you think that way, you should not complain that you receive so much messages of people who aren't compatible with your requrements.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:24:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic She was talking about the message I received, not you. OK. I'm sorry I didn't understand that right away. Thank you for enlightening me.

Snitch -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:26:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pat4422 I'm a bit surprised that "Quality Unread" is as obdurate as he is but I'm even more surprised that the ladies here are giving him and his opinions on etiquette this much attention. There is nothing else around.

roboslavedog -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:29:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Ah, so since that's what you would do, you want to tell other people that's what they should do, too? That's what this entire thread is. People wanting to dictate to other people what they have to do, trying to tell other individuals how they have to respond, etc to please other people. But you do see a distinction between an order and a friendly advice, do you? Because if you don't then there's no point in delving into more complicated topics.

LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 6:44:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QualityFirst If you think that way, you should not complain that you receive so much messages of people who aren't compatible with your requrements. That's the thing. I didn't complain. I mentioned that I receive messages and my solution in dealing with them. I delete them unread. To date, none of these threads about how women should answer emails have ever once, ever, been able to demonstrate how my responding to your email benefits me. Not a single shred. Oh, you'll tell me all about how it benefits you. How it saves your time, makes you feel better, gives you a different opinion, and all of that. None of which benefits me in any way, shape, or form. I especially like these ones all about how it's related to manners and that neat angle of how the guys writing emails think it's oh, so better, if somebody I don't know thinks more or less of me because of the way I chose to dispose of their email. My method works. It's two clicks for every email I receive that I have no interest in. However, if you've got something on the matter that actually benefits me, rather than you, I'm all ears. ETA quote: ORIGINAL: roboslavedog But you do see a distinction between an order and a friendly advice, do you? Because if you don't then there's no point in delving into more complicated topics. If you saw it as friendly advice, fair enough. I didn't recall seeing her asking for advice, so we'll have to split the difference.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 7:20:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: roboslavedog Well, I'm a practical, reasonable man. So am I, but many women have big problems with those qualities. quote: so as not to waste both mine and other people's time (which, as we can read even in this thread, is OH SO VALUABLE ;) ) Yes, only the time of the dommes is valuable, ours not. Once, I had written a message to a domme who was so dishonest as to not mention in her profile that she required money. She told me this only in her third message to me. I answered that I considered my time to be at least as valuable as hers, and therefore proposed her to pay me as much as she would require from me.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 7:34:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic I certainly will never give four hours of my time to check in on a sad sack online kneeling cos he thinks he is showing me devotion. When a lady required me to sit on my knees for 4 hours, it didn't take her 4 hours, but less than one minute. She opened a Skype session with me and told me to do so, not telling me in advance for how long I would have to sit there, and me not knowing if and when she would watch me, as I was not allowed to see her. In fact, she only looked again at me after 4 hours. And during those 4 hours, a lot of things had changed for me. It was not only boring and painful on the knees. I had to sit on a footstep, so my feet couldn't touch the floor, and all my (over)weight was on my knees. In this position, after four hours, I was completely exhausted from the constant effort it took to keep in balance, and the muscles in my arms, my back and my upperlegs were painful. The difference of my facial expression between the start and the end very much pleased the lady.

Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 7:38:55 AM)
im happy for you.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 7:44:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact That's the thing. I didn't complain. I mentioned that I receive messages and my solution in dealing with them. I delete them unread. To date, none of these threads about how women should answer emails have ever once, ever, been able to demonstrate how my responding to your email benefits me. Not a single shred. Oh, you'll tell me all about how it benefits you. How it saves your time, makes you feel better, gives you a different opinion, and all of that. None of which benefits me in any way, shape, or form. I especially like these ones all about how it's related to manners and that neat angle of how the guys writing emails think it's oh, so better, if somebody I don't know thinks more or less of me because of the way I chose to dispose of their email. My method works. It's two clicks for every email I receive that I have no interest in. However, if you've got something on the matter that actually benefits me, rather than you, I'm all ears. To save your precious time: you can delete a message unread with less than two clicks. First look at a page of messages. Then select them all with the check box at the top, and you have only to unselect the few you want to keep. If I suggest to not delete unread all messages you don't like, but to answer those who deserve it with a copy-and-paste "no thanks", and you don't feel well by showing a minimum of respect to the sender of the latter messages, then it's indeed difficult to find some benefit for you by behaving a little bit socially.

QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 9:51:13 AM)
A very interesting message I got today from a lady (submissive, 19 years old if it's true, before I did never even look at her profile): quote: I have a tiny little girl pussy and I need it drilled. Add me to skype: xxx Deleted unread? No. "No thank you, I'm a submissive"? Yes.

BamaD -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 10:05:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: QualityFirst A very interesting message I got today from a lady (submissive, 19 years old if it's true, before I did never even look at her profile): quote: I have a tiny little girl pussy and I need it drilled. Add me to skype: xxx Deleted unread? No. "No thank you, I'm a submissive"? Yes. I got the same message, looks like a scam to me.

Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 10:15:20 AM)
maybe she likes to offer herself up to age 60+ men?

OsideGirl -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 10:43:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BamaD quote: ORIGINAL: QualityFirst A very interesting message I got today from a lady (submissive, 19 years old if it's true, before I did never even look at her profile): quote: I have a tiny little girl pussy and I need it drilled. Add me to skype: xxx Deleted unread? No. "No thank you, I'm a submissive"? Yes. I got the same message, looks like a scam to me. Yeah.....he's just kind of obtuse.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 10:49:00 AM)
quote: But you do see a distinction between an order and a friendly advice, do you? Unsolicited advice.

OsideGirl -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 10:53:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: roboslavedog quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Ah, so since that's what you would do, you want to tell other people that's what they should do, too? That's what this entire thread is. People wanting to dictate to other people what they have to do, trying to tell other individuals how they have to respond, etc to please other people. But you do see a distinction between an order and a friendly advice, do you? Because if you don't then there's no point in delving into more complicated topics. It was unsolicited advice...and then when we declined that advice - we got 15 pages of whining.

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