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stef -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 5:49:04 PM)

He spent so much time on that, doesn't that mean he's entitled to a response you big meanie?



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 5:50:54 PM)

I actually did respond:)



BitaTruble -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 5:57:12 PM)

I received the same message. [sm=smoke_woman_101.gif]



OsideGirl -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:08:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst


I cannot believe what I am reading. You cannot be so stupid as to not see the huge difference between a message I write here to a lady and span e-mail.
Good lord.....you are in no position to call other people stupid.

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I carefully read the profile and the journal of a lady who makes it clear that she wants a submissive. Only when I am compatible with the requirements she expresses in those texts do I send a personalized message to her.
I'm currently looking to refinance my house, so I'm getting lots of mail from mortgage companies. Just because we're both looking for something doesn't mean that have to I reply. If I look at that mail and they don't have what I want, it then becomes junk mail and it gets tossed in the trash.



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If afterwards, I seem to not be compatible with her, it's because she has have me loose my time by not expressing all her requirements.
Ummm....no it's not. It's because regardless of the requirements....you weren't compatible. But, nice try trying to put all the blame on the woman.

Again, this all comes down to your sense of entitlement. The world doesn't owe you anything, the women on this site don't owe you anything and you need to understand that no response is a response.

If you applied for a job, sent over your resume and didn't get a response...would you spend 5 pages whining about how mistreated you were? (And let's add that this isn't the first time you've ranted about this and this isn't your first screen name.)

Put on your big boy panties and get over it.



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:08:13 PM)

did you respond?
[;)]



Nepthys61 -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:14:25 PM)

I, too, received that same message, word for word.
And yes, QF, I deleted it without so much as a kind "Not Interested" in return.
Why?
It was obvious to me that the sender failed to read my profile which clearly states that I can not accept live in situations.



BitaTruble -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:30:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

did you respond?
[;)]
I'm not even going to respond to this post about it.

Oh crap. [sm=jaw.gif]



Quiette -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:31:57 PM)

ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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if I spend at least 15 minutes to write a well thought message, I am not worth 5 seconds for a "No thanks"?



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ORIGINAL: stef
No.


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

Too short. Explain why not.


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ORIGINAL: stef
No.


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
OK. Thank you for having shown me your low level.


Well this should answer your question qualityfirst, yea? You make a request and someone responded with a simple no. But then you demanded an explanation and when one was denied, you called her actions low level. This should more than show you why we don't respond and/or delete unread. Some guys appreciate a simple "no thanks" but others do what you did and demand an explanation. If a satisfactory one isn't given, men get the way you got. And since we have no way of knowing which guys are which, it's easier just not to engage.

I send "no thanks" all the time. But if I didn't, hopefully the above would show you exactly why not and how this drama is just worth avoiding as most of us see it as, like you said, a waste of bandwidth.


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

... if you answer a question just with "No" and you refuse to explain why, then you are just a waste of bandwith and space for this forum, which is low level.


Edit: forgive me I am terrible at quoting multiple posts



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 6:35:24 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

did you respond?
[;)]
I'm not even going to respond to this post about it.

Oh crap. [sm=jaw.gif]

chortle



Snitch -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 7:50:34 PM)

I didn't get the form letter.

Guess I don't rate even enuf for spam!



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/11/2016 7:56:46 PM)

Maybe he didnt get to the S's yet?
[:D]



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 12:43:09 AM)

FR
Oh dear.



LilJuly76 -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 3:34:21 AM)

another submissive mistake, no one is going to require you to write a punishment, a punishment dynamic or "funishment" dynamic only exists between the committed couples that want that part of it in their relationship not just any Dominant online that you send a message to.



roboslavedog -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:08:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76
example of why I just deleted a pm without responding. I get a lot of messages from people that live nowhere near me.


So, maybe you should do all of us a favour and include this information in your profile? I checked your profile and there is absolutely NO MENTION that you are looking for local folks, only. Get, what I'm talking about?



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:23:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

You QF, arent afraid, you arent scared, you are being persnickety and completely see through in your "fear"

OK. I have not many qualities, but I'm honest. If you don't believe me, than no further communication makes sense.

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Kneeling on rice or popcorn kernals or beer bottle caps would be more sadistic. You have Zero imagination.

LOL... I have done all of them, and I could tell you much more sadistic ways to have someone sit on his knees than you could ever think of.

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PS given that this is a BDSM site, you dont seem to get that a lot of dominant women wont agree with your *cough* opinions.

I have no problem at all with people not agreeing with my opinions. But the fact that people don't agree with my opinions doesn't mean that I would not have the right to have my opinions and to express them.

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Or even submissives, as has been shown, they certainly arent afraid and scared of fem dommes. Im glad to say.

It's not because other submissives are not afraid and scared of fem dommes, that I would not be.

In fact, I'm afraid of almost every woman, and this has nothing to do with BDSM. When I was 15, I landed in a hospital after having been beaten and kicked for no reason for 20 minutes by 4 young girls. Against 4 girls, a boy has no chance.

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You really dont get to decide for any woman, dommes, slaves or subs, what qualifies as a "well thought out message" to them

Indeed. But I know for myself what a well thought message is.



LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:24:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: roboslavedog
So, maybe you should do all of us a favour and include this information in your profile? I checked your profile and there is absolutely NO MENTION that you are looking for local folks, only. Get, what I'm talking about?

Or, maybe it's her profile and she's not required to put things in it specifically to make other people happy. You don't think it's a wee bit presumptuous to try to tell people what has to be in their profile, or where, to suit the reader?




QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:25:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: stef

He spent so much time on that, doesn't that mean he's entitled to a response you big meanie?

Please, I beg you: I promised you to no more contradict you, and you know I hate being ridiculised in public by a lady.



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:30:24 AM)

She was talking about the message I received, not you.



roboslavedog -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:39:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: roboslavedog
So, maybe you should do all of us a favour and include this information in your profile? I checked your profile and there is absolutely NO MENTION that you are looking for local folks, only. Get, what I'm talking about?

Or, maybe it's her profile and she's not required to put things in it specifically to make other people happy. You don't think it's a wee bit presumptuous to try to tell people what has to be in their profile, or where, to suit the reader?



Well, I'm a practical, reasonable man. If I were interested in local people ONLY, I would definitely include this information in my profile, so as not to waste both mine and other people's time (which, as we can read even in this thread, is OH SO VALUABLE ;) )



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/12/2016 5:46:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
If afterwards, I seem to not be compatible with her, it's because she has have me loose my time by not expressing all her requirements.

Ummm....no it's not. It's because regardless of the requirements....you weren't compatible. But, nice try trying to put all the blame on the woman.

LOL... Women are allowed to be so lazy as to waste my time by mentioning only half of their requirements in their profile. Also a nice try.

It happens that a lady rejects me, for instance, because of my age. And afterwards, I see she has added an age limit to her profile. Was it that difficult to do it from the beginning, so I would not have sent a message to her?

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Again, this all comes down to your sense of entitlement. The world doesn't owe you anything, the women on this site don't owe you anything and you need to understand that no response is a response.

This seems to be the conviction of many women on this site. They feel indeed they owe me nothing: no respect, no good manners, nothing at all. Only me, a submissive wimp, owe them respect. Strange ethics.

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If you applied for a job, sent over your resume and didn't get a response...would you spend 5 pages whining about how mistreated you were?

No, I wouldn't. In my country, if I apply for a job and the employer refuses me without a good reason, I go to my laywer, and it costs the employer a lot of money.



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