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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 9:31:52 AM

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I consider oral sex and penetrative sex or even finger penetration or dildo penetration, all to be sex.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 10:58:29 AM

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I have enjoyed showing 3 women the lash of my tongue and soul in my lifetime, feeding from the elixir of life. A few others I said you really must see a doctor, he be called Frankenstein after a good wire brush and detol.

By a curious quirk I have enjoyed 3 women knob gobbling my man parts

Is it a fetish – only in the mind of madmen, and madwomen, usually masquerading as grotesque caricatures and bad stereotypes.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 12:04:48 PM

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As women, we start to sense that there are some men who are natural givers in bed, and others who have reduced pussy-worship to such an intense fetish that the woman is secondary.

And if a man is doing anything, ANYTHING to pressure her, or sulk when denied, it's just not appropriate.

And it is NOT necessary for a woman to give any reason at all other than, "I just don't feel like it."

For men who are insistent, say they just want to please her, and going down on her is something he is good at and what's wrong - she WILL have an orgasm, right? For these men, how would your attitude change if she said, "I actually really would rather have you massage my shoulders for a half hour right now. I am feeling super tense about work."

It's the sulking and passive behavior that comes with a man's pussy obsession that creates relationship problems. The fact that some women actually sit back and think of other things or just wait to get it over with so his ego can feel good. You want to avoid that.

This reddit thread shares some personal stories on the matter:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1p0e2t/unique_problem_boyfriend_m25_seems_obsessed_with/

"On the one hand, it's nice he seems so eager to please you. On the other, based on his mood when he can't I'd wager his fascination with oral is more for his own enjoyment than yours. Let him know that while you appreciate his willingness it is not cool for him to pressure you into it. I mean, come on, you are on the receiving end! If you're not enjoying it then what's the point? It would be like if you insisted on cooking him an expensive, 3-course meal every night. Sometimes it's great, but eventually you get tired if filet mignon and just want a burger!

Maybe try setting up oral nights a few times a week? A way for you both to please each other."

Guys, just be careful about not making her feel objectified, and listen when she says she's not up for it. Do not pout or be passive aggressive. Otherwise she will endure it out of guilt, then it can escalate as a quick fix, and then she'll start faking that it's the best thing ever to keep you from sulking.

Adore the whole woman, not just the pussy.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 12:13:08 PM

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As women, we start to sense that there are some men who are natural givers in bed, and others who have reduced pussy-worship to such an intense fetish that the woman is secondary.

And if a man is doing anything, ANYTHING to pressure her, or sulk when denied, it's just not appropriate.

And it is NOT necessary for a woman to give any reason at all other than, "I just don't feel like it."

For men who are insistent, say they just want to please her, and going down on her is something he is good at and what's wrong - she WILL have an orgasm, right? For these men, how would your attitude change if she said, "I actually really would rather have you massage my shoulders for a half hour right now. I am feeling super tense about work."

It's the sulking and passive behavior that comes with a man's pussy obsession that creates relationship problems. The fact that some women actually sit back and think of other things or just wait to get it over with so his ego can feel good. You want to avoid that.

This reddit thread shares some personal stories on the matter:

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1p0e2t/unique_problem_boyfriend_m25_seems_obsessed_with/

"On the one hand, it's nice he seems so eager to please you. On the other, based on his mood when he can't I'd wager his fascination with oral is more for his own enjoyment than yours. Let him know that while you appreciate his willingness it is not cool for him to pressure you into it. I mean, come on, you are on the receiving end! If you're not enjoying it then what's the point? It would be like if you insisted on cooking him an expensive, 3-course meal every night. Sometimes it's great, but eventually you get tired if filet mignon and just want a burger!

Maybe try setting up oral nights a few times a week? A way for you both to please each other."

Guys, just be careful about not making her feel objectified, and listen when she says she's not up for it. Do not pout or be passive aggressive. Otherwise she will endure it out of guilt, then it can escalate as a quick fix, and then she'll start faking that it's the best thing ever to keep you from sulking.

Adore the whole woman, not just the pussy.

Akasha

The advices to adore the entire woman is good.
So is doing what she wants is good.

Why else do it unless she asks for it in the first place>
My only job is to let her know that she can ask and not be at all worried about reciproacation.

If she doesn't wish to ask she can tell but if she doesn't wish to ask or tell that is ok too.
Always it is up to her at her whim is the only point.

If she smile that is good.
If she happy that is good.

Why else do it unless that be so?

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 12:28:36 PM

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Why else do it unless she asks for it in the first place

I feel I don't do enough if I just wait until she asks for it. I carefully try out if she likes to become aroused and, if she seems to like it, I go further.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/17/2016 12:46:59 PM

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Why else do it unless she asks for it in the first place

I feel I don't do enough if I just wait until she asks for it. I carefully try out if she likes to become aroused and, if she seems to like it, I go further.

I don't use any initative unless she asks for initative.

In my experiences she just wants it one way which is never the same one way others like her want it.

But I am sub so dom may be different on initative.

She controls me 110% so if she wants it she gets it the way she wants it and for as long or short as she wants it.
If she doesn't want it I do not sulk or complain as I have pleny things other to do in my day.

But if she calls me. I am there in a flash becuase I am there only for her. To do only what she wants it done.
It's actually better if she does not try to do anything FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hate when she fakes for me for examples.
I hate when she cares that I am comfortable for examples.
I hate when she asks me what I want to do for example.

Hate is probably too strong a word but I love when she just tells me to do what she want and she tells me to shut up and do it as my job is to do it and nothing else.

Afterward, her only job is to tell me when to come back again.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 8:41:40 AM

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reading your inane comments about me, I have to say in view of your general attitude,
you obviously are a pathetic male fool, as most are, my picture can be checked easily.
as to my friends being other than in the UK so what.
I could feel sorry for you, but I do not.

and finally as to you question , seriously get a life. xx
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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 10:40:49 AM

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 11:15:38 AM

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I would definitely say it's not a fetish. A fetish is anything non vanilla or unusual which causes arousal so no, something that damn near every man wants to do and has a desire to do is something that in my opinion cannot be a fetish.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 11:20:28 AM

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as an obsession its hella boring.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 11:37:40 AM

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Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an obsession?

Usually it's a pathetic attempt by some guy to advertise.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 12:10:24 PM

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Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an obsession?

Usually it's a pathetic attempt by some guy to advertise.

I was waiting for someone else to notice.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 1:10:40 PM

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I've had one guy that could make me cum from oral, the rest were ok. Before that one I just was not bothered about it at all, and I dare say I won't be that bothered by it in the future. From experience I will also wonder every time I see a profile that brags about how great he is at oral just how he lack in other aspects. You see, for me, cumming from oral alone does not make up for the lack of other things. I'd far rather go without oral, but have other things that pleasure me more.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 1:30:19 PM

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 2:39:10 PM

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Oral is a must, has been a must since I was oh god a long time ago....I enjoy it immensely and insist on it often.
However, for someone with an obsession bordering on being shitty at everything else in life BUT oral is boring.
AND that most of the time, unsustainable.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/18/2016 2:39:39 PM

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I'd date her!

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/19/2016 4:20:41 AM

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dizzy, my message was not for you, but for the moron called...verbatim.xx

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/19/2016 9:35:18 AM

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I know, but it was still complete nonsense.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/19/2016 10:44:47 AM

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I know, but it was still complete nonsense.

because it's in completely the wrong thread. They are having a debate as to weather teentie is genuine, or just some little boy in a mommies basement somewhere typing random nonsense insults to people.

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RE: Is pussy licking a fetish or vanilla when it's an o... - 5/19/2016 10:50:58 AM

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I consider oral sex and penetrative sex or even finger penetration or dildo penetration, all to be sex.

I think sex only starts when something is being done that can result in that babies can be made.
But I do not think that I have the only definition of sex that is used.

Some people consider sticking an object on any hole sex, but what if I put a knife wound in a person and scrwe 4that?

Is that sex?

(That is a serious question even though it sounds spurious).

If I made a hole in the side of someone and if I screwed that hole, would that be sex?)

Just thinking of HOW to answer that would tell me a lot of what YOU think sex is.

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