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subbybound -> Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 11:36:18 AM)

I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.
Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?



OsideGirl -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 12:15:03 PM)

Because it is a job and she's human. Do you have a perfect attitude every single day that you're at work?



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 2:06:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Because it is a job

Indeed, and a very well paid one. Because it'a a job, she should do it in a professional way, which means customer friendly, not in a hurry.

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Do you have a perfect attitude every single day that you're at work?

No, I don't, but there is a huge difference between not perfect and the way she did her job.

Or was she honest enough to say: "It was less good than the first time, so I require less tribute"?

@subbybound: you are right to not go back to her. There are enough others who do a good job.



OsideGirl -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 2:15:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst


No, I don't, but there is a huge difference between not perfect and the way she did her job.



You don't know that. You only have one side of the story.

I have clients that I'm genuinely happy to hear from and others that make remaining polite and professional a challenge.

And again, we're all human and sometimes our personal lives effect our job performance.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 2:43:59 PM)

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Why can't she enjoy it?

Maybe she doesn't like you.
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Why does she have to treat it like a job?

Because that's what it is.



subbybound -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:01:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Why can't she enjoy it?

Maybe she doesn't like you.


Then she shouldn't accept me as a client.
You don't treat people that way.

There are a lot of people who always enjoy their work. Their work is the center of their lives.



Quiette -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:10:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: subbybound

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Why can't she enjoy it?

Maybe she doesn't like you.


Then she shouldn't accept me as a client.
You don't treat people that way.

There are a lot of people who always enjoy their work. Their work is the center of their lives.



She told you why. Gave you her real answer. Im not sure what else you're looking for by asking people who...aren't her.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:18:44 PM)

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Then she shouldn't accept me as a client.
You don't treat people that way.

Yeah, that's not how it works. Despite what you may think, the point of her business is not to make you happy, it is to get paid.
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There are a lot of people who always enjoy their work. Their work is the center of their lives.

And there are even more who don't, so what's your point?



MsLadySue -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:39:52 PM)

Maybe you had body odor or bad breath. Perhaps you wore a scent she didn't like.
What you required from her was boring/so common-place she was tired of the same old routine.
Did you react to what she was doing so she knew you enjoyed it, or did you stay silent?
Just some thoughts.

Did you voice your complaint to her or wait to come here and tell us?



OsideGirl -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:55:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: subbybound


There are a lot of people who always enjoy their work. Their work is the center of their lives.


There isn't a person on the face of this planet that ALWAYS enjoys their work.



OsideGirl -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 3:56:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Maybe you had body odor or bad breath. Perhaps you wore a scent she didn't like.

Or maybe a crappy attitude.

Again, we only have one side of the story.



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:14:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
You don't know that. You only have one side of the story.

Dear lady, do you realize at least that no forum can function with such statements?

First: we know the other side of the story, as the OP tells us that she snarled "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do." (which is of course an extremely poor excuse to not do a good job).

Second: most of the time, on a forum, not both parties participate on the discussion.

Third: theoretically, everything the OP writes here can be not true. But then, no more discussion is possible on a forum. Unless we can prove that what the OP tells is not true, we must grant him the benefice of innocence.

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I have clients that I'm genuinely happy to hear from and others that make remaining polite and professional a challenge.

Yes, each professional has challenges to overcome. You are supposed to have known that before you went in business. The only difference is that many service providers have much more difficult challenges to master for a much lower income.

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And again, we're all human and sometimes our personal lives effect our job performance.

Then you should go for a 9 to 5 job, instead of being in business. Moreover, it was 2 of 3 times that the customer was not satisfied.

If you cannot or if you don't want to satisfy a customer, then refuse him and don't accept his good money.



verbatimguy -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:15:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: subbybound

I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.
Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?



Why does a mechanic treat your car just like every other car?



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:20:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Then she shouldn't accept me as a client.
You don't treat people that way.

Yeah, that's not how it works. Despite what you may think, the point of her business is not to make you happy, it is to get paid.

I'm afraid you are right. And this is not business, but fraud. If you don't want to satisfy the needs and wants of a customer to earn money, then your place is not in business. It has a bad effect on so many other professional dominants who are not too lazy to do a good job for so much money.



dcnovice -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:20:15 PM)

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Why can't each session be like the first?

First times, at anything, often have a thrill of novelty that can be hard to replicate.

And on a cynical note, she may have thought she didn't need to keep working that hard to maintain your interest.



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:23:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: verbatimguy
Why does a mechanic treat your car just like every other car?

Yes, good remark. Would you feel it is normal that he treats your car less well than others, just because yours is a cheaper or an older one or it has already some rust and it is perhaps even dirty?



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:30:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue
Maybe you had body odor or bad breath. Perhaps you wore a scent she didn't like.
What you required from her was boring/so common-place she was tired of the same old routine.
Did you react to what she was doing so she knew you enjoyed it, or did you stay silent?

Yes, the domme cannot have done anything wrong, even if she admitted she was too busy to do good work. It must be the male client's fault.

Body odor of bad breath? Then a professional domme sends the guy first to the bathroom.

A scent she didn't like? Then she had to tell him and not accept his money.

Boring or common place, tired of the same old routine? Yes, that's what the job she choose implies. Only always the same bank notes don't bore her.

No reaction? It is part of the job of a professional to find out what the customer likes and doesn't like. A real professional can, even if the customer remains silent.

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Did you voice your complaint to her or wait to come here and tell us?

He complained. Read the op's message once again, and you will see.



QualityFirst -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:32:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice
And on a cynical note, she may have thought she didn't need to keep working that hard to maintain your interest.

I don't think it's a cynical note, on the contrary, I'm afraid you may be right. Looking for the least effort to get the same money. Yes, laziness is a source of productivity. Unless you loose customers with it.



Wayward5oul -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:45:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Then she shouldn't accept me as a client.
You don't treat people that way.

Yeah, that's not how it works. Despite what you may think, the point of her business is not to make you happy, it is to get paid.

I'm afraid you are right. And this is not business, but fraud.


No, its still business, not fraud. She provided the services that that she charged for. Had she not provided the services, that would be fraud.

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If you don't want to satisfy the needs and wants of a customer to earn money, then your place is not in business.

Perhaps her place is not in business, but because she is just a bad business-woman, not deceptive. Just because someone doesn't perform the job well doesn't mean they are fraudsters. Performing well or poorly is what keeps them in business, so if this provider habitually performs this way then she won't get repeat customers and her business will fail. But the failure will be due to less than stellar service, not fraud.



MissKatya -> RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? (5/29/2016 5:48:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subbybound

I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.
Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?



Probably because (according to this post) you seen her once a week for three weeks and that's a red flag that someone is overly attached and will be a burden that can interfere with her other clients and personal life. Based on your comments, I'm certain that this is the case.

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Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?


Ok, real talk on this one. She may have enjoyed it the first time around but you probably became too demanding by using payment as your bargaining chip. In other words, you turned it into a job by utilizing the "I pay for your attention" mantra.

Too many clients feel that because they are willing to pay for a session, it gives them a reason to demand even more attention from a Domme. Were you/do you top from the bottom? Did you Demand a laundry list of things to be done to you in session rather than letting the chemistry of the moment happen? We're you emailing/texting/calling her in between sessions with session/kink related questions or statements?


There is nothing wrong with seeing a Domme for a tributed session but you have to keep in mind that it's a business situation and you are not the only one she will session with so when you are expecting a higher than normal amount of attention/time from her, it will change the dynamic.

On a personal note, I consider 3 sessions in 3 weeks to fall within the realm of "tread cautiously" for the reasons that I mentioned above.

**Edit** After checking the OP's posting history I see that he is just trolling (again). Oh well**



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