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Greta75 -> This mom annoys me (6/9/2016 4:25:55 AM)
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I would like this mom to write again 50 years later, but oops, she might be dead by then, and then what's gonna happen to her child?
I find this highly irresponsible. Her baby might be cute now at 15 months old, but I don't know if she understands that, she needs to OUT LIVE her baby to take care of her baby who will grow into a big baby for LIFE! She cannot die!
I say this because the x-company I worked for, did their part for charity by employing down syndrome adults. We were getting them between mid twenties to forties. And it was quite an experience. First of all, although obviously we consulted heavily with their minders what they can or cannot do. Each down syndrome adult HAS TO have one minder each. And while they attempted to do the simple job, they were unable to do it right, so basically, it's just an activity for them to do something but in the end, the individual minders per down syndrome adult, has to actually do the job for them properly, so it would be done properly.
I've seen them working with us for more than 10 years, and doing the exact same thing every single day, and still regardless how many repetition they have done it, they are unable to do it independently. They just aren't able to. Their minders did everything on their behalf after their attempts. It was more like activity stimulation for the sake of them feeling like they are working. And of course we pay them for their job out of charity to make them feel like useful society contributing human beings. Maybe we got the worst of the down syndrome cases who really aren't independent, that's why it's for charity and that's my experience with down syndrome people.
But basically, it seems to be that, down syndrome people means, they will be babies forever unable to take care of themselves, or ever be independent! The ones that worked with us, even threw tantrums like a 3 yr old, perpetual restlessness, even their minders have difficulty keeping their attention span to focus on the job. Many times, the minders have to time out, like quickly finish the job, and just tell the down syndrome fellow to just stick around and observe as the down syndrome fellow was getting frustrated. And imagine instead of a cute baby, this could be a 6 ft, 200lbs adult male to manage.
So I don't think this woman is listening to the facts that the doctor is telling her, and she is not seeing the future. I hope she is rich enough to afford permanent nurse for her down syndrome child after she dies. And no, I don't think this doctor should have told her her baby is perfect. Infact, I think most doctors need to focus on, "What happens after you die? Who will take care of your child?" That is the bigger question!
If a family was rich, I would have no worries, have as many down syndrome babies as they want. They can afford care for them after they die. But let's face it, poor or middle class families. What is going to happen to the child after they pass away, like seriously? They need to not save for their retirement, but save for the down syndrome child's permanent future full time nanny.
http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/mom-baby-syndrome-mail-letter-doctor-suggested-abortion/story?id=39666410
Dear Doctor,
A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, “He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, “I told you. He’s perfect.”
Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.
I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.
From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth. My child was perfect.
I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe. I’m sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don’t always give you pause. I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.
Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she’s touched the hearts of thousands. She’s given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express. She’s given us bigger smiles, more laughter and sweeter kisses than we’ve ever known. She’s opened our eyes to true beauty and pure love.
So my prayer is that no other mommy will have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every sonogram.
And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will look at that mommy and see me then tell her the truth: “Your child is perfect.”
“I hope he sees Emmy. I hope he sees my words on paper,” Baker told ABC News. “Emmy is proof that children with special needs are worthy and can change the world. She’s doing it right now.”
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