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RE: How does a female 'brat' operate in BDSM ? - 9/18/2016 12:45:45 AM

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I wonder who well it goes for men who want to be brats? It only seems acceptable when a woman is.

You are looking at this all wrong. It is not an across-the-board male vs. female thing.

With straight couples, this has more to do with M/f than with F/m. Greta75 referred to it as a fetish, and within a certain context of excitement and arousal this may be true.
The M may have a fetish or attraction for this kind of sub, whether these dynamics are M/f or M/m.
There are maledoms who have a greater tolerance level for being willing to deal with bratty behavior.
You have to understand that there is a disproportionate number of daddydoms than there are mommydomme types, far fewer femdoms who typically want to "parent" their subs or do age play with them.

It is not always the case, but sometimes there is an element of competitive takedown kink involved. (We see a lot of this with M/m.)

Also, there is a wide-ranging grey area as to what constitutes a bratty sub.
For some males, it means they enjoy playing the kinky role of a domme's bitch or the bitch of whoever Tops them.
For others, being a brat plays out with passive-aggressive insubordination. They often want to be "forced" into submission.

A masochistic lesbian sub friend identifies as a brat but according to her, she does not try to provoke, buck authority or pull rank on her lesbian Mistress. If she were to TFTB, she would get thrown to the curb.

Many (but not all) femdoms want nothing to do with brats, whether they are a male, female or transgendered sub.
Brattiness is just not a desirable characteristic to many dominants, regardless of gender.
My sub is more like an indulged pet, but I do not tolerate any hint of childishness from him. Immaturity in a grown man does not turn me on.
I consider him my equal partner, as in equal in value and worth, although not equal in authority. We are equal, but not the same, which is how we both prefer our union to be.

I am of the opinion that a lot of what you misconstrue has to do with a lack of understanding how gender differences and individual predilections do not automatically make for gender inequalities based solely on the gender involved.

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RE: How does a female 'brat' operate in BDSM ? - 9/18/2016 10:26:08 PM

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I think one reason why boy "brats" aren't as common, is the reason why boy littles don't SEEM to be as common...is there's still fucking stigma, even in the BDSM community about boys being Doms. There's so man who still believe "BOYS CAN ONLY BE DOMS AND GIRLS CAN ONLY BE SUBS", it's ridiculous. So many MommyDommies have faced shit due to people believing in that old stereotype involving the BDSM community.

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RE: How does a female 'brat' operate in BDSM ? - 9/19/2016 8:20:53 AM

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You are certainly entitled to your opinion, but I have not encountered any real stigma attached to mommydommes within BDSM circles.
There are always going to be those who do not get into this kink or that fetish, whether it is with sissyCDs, littles, furries, or what have you.

What I have experienced is how many, many ladies from every walk of life get thoroughly exasperated when their man (husband, bf) behaves like an obnoxious petulant child, an immature man-child.

I think there is a big difference between acting *boyish* or *girlish* and acting downright childish.
Childlike behavior and engaging in age play are not the same thing as acting like a spoiled brat. Nobody I know wants a spoiled brat for an intimate partner.

We know a mommydomme who is her boy's daddy. (Her sub calls her that, and this is how she relates to him.)
She does not consider him a brat. He is not an ABDL little or tween little; their [teen]age play starts with adolescence.

For older women/femdoms, who have raised their own children or are still raising a child, there is not much appeal in a sub who does not want to act his or her adult age.
To some of us/them, immaturity feels creepy.
Is it any wonder, then, that it is not easy for an ABDL to find a mommydomme who will take on toddler-agers or younger, one who is willing to change soiled diapers.

Nevertheless, this may or may not have anything to do with brattiness or with subs who identify as brats.

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RE: How does a female 'brat' operate in BDSM ? - 9/21/2016 8:04:20 AM

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Greta I am inundated with so called men who want me, but it will never happen.xxTerri.

So-called men who want a so-called woman??? Dude, that's priceless!!!

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RE: How does a female 'brat' operate in BDSM ? - 9/21/2016 8:07:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressAubreee

I think one reason why boy "brats" aren't as common, is the reason why boy littles don't SEEM to be as common...is there's still fucking stigma, even in the BDSM community about boys being Doms. There's so man who still believe "BOYS CAN ONLY BE DOMS AND GIRLS CAN ONLY BE SUBS", it's ridiculous. So many MommyDommies have faced shit due to people believing in that old stereotype involving the BDSM community.

Really?

That's funny because calling men "boys" and diminutising them is an insult in these parts, employed by every woman on this board.

Having said that, if a man doesn't have emotional strength and stability, then what fucking good is he anyway? I realise shysters like yourself are always looking for more victims, but aside from lining your fucking pocket-book, any man who lacks those attributes is probably going to be eaten alive by the fucking world. Consequently, it would seem pretty fucking obvious why men that weak are a rarity.

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