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profile review? help? - 6/20/2016 6:49:50 AM

esLaveboi

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Hey Mistress, Masters and slaves

I'm kinda new on here, been here a few times and have been attempting to write a good attractive profile, I feel like may need advice, and I'm willing to listen and keep an open mind.

yes, I know pictures are important and i'll upload them when I get the chance, I plan to do put up one or two good clear face shot and maybe one body shot with cloths on and another with none on, is this fair?

Also best way for submissive sissy boi like me to send a respectfull message to a femdom to get a response?

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/20/2016 1:04:11 PM

stef

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quote:

ORIGINAL: esLaveboi

Also best way for submissive sissy boi like me to send a respectfull message to a femdom to get a response?

The biggest tip is to treat them like people, not fetish dispensers. Approach them as you would like to be approached.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/20/2016 3:47:54 PM

dcnovice

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Welcome to Collarchat!

You may find this thread helpful: Men: How to Find a Woman Here.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/20/2016 6:33:33 PM

DarkSteven

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1. As politely as possible, burn your profile to the ground and start again. The first paragraph says you want to be dressed in women's clothes and worship. Then you say you're ready to serve and throw in a few quotes.

Fella, you will do kinkscenes maybe 5%-10% of the time. The rest of the time, you'll be doing vanilla stuff. buying groceries, cooking, etc. The main purpose of your profile will be to make a woman think she's like to spend time with you and that you will NOT be some fantasist.

I recommend that you take a look at Rochsub's profile. http://www.collarspace.com/personals/v/922442/details.htm While it's not my style, note how he ticks off his accomplishments without seeming arrogant, has a picture of himself in a suit as his main photo, and his profile basically says "I'm real and not some fantasist. I know what I'm doing." He specifies that he wants to provide service, not kinkplay. Again, he gives the impression that he knows what he wants. His profile is written immaculately, and he sounds sophisticated and intelligent.

2. The message you send is actually easy. Let me pick the profile of one of my Friends, MargueriteV http://www.collarspace.com/personals/v/970868/details.htm I'll explain which things to pick in her profile to send a message about:

First paragraph - you could ask about Atlanta. Anything else is veering into territory where women have lotsa wankers asking kink questions. Don't be that guy.

Second paragraph - this is a gold mine of information about what subjects to lead with. If you have an interest or experience with any of them, strike up a conversation!

The rest of her profile simply lists what kinds of people she'd be compatible with. Read it, and make sure you fit the bill, but it's really not going to give you good conversational material.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/22/2016 8:36:16 AM

esLaveboi

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wow that a lot of information, thanks guys I really appreciate your help, I'll make changes to the profile and rethink my approach.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/22/2016 8:47:01 AM

esLaveboi

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I have to admit, before reading any of this good stuff you two guys sent me, I was being a grade A idiot, holy crap am I stupid.
I'm glad I asked for help before I ruined anybody else's day.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/22/2016 10:00:55 AM

MsLadySue

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Wecome to Collarchat. Nice to see someone new who is open to suggestions.

I disagree. A Grade-A idiot doesn't usually ask for advice, then would have bitched the advice given was crap and everyone was picking on him.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/23/2016 3:49:41 AM

SvenTheMad

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I have to agree with MsLadySue.

You've shown an ability to step outside yourself and consider the perspective of someone not you. That alone is a rare skill (I say that with the utmost tragedy.)

Speaking not as a Dominant, but as a human, that level of self-awareness is wonderful to behold and probably as attractive a trait as you can put in a personal ad.

Good luck in your fishing.

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RE: profile review? help? - 6/23/2016 10:26:28 AM

DarkSteven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Wecome to Collarchat. Nice to see someone new who is open to suggestions.

I disagree. A Grade-A idiot doesn't usually ask for advice, then would have bitched the advice given was crap and everyone was picking on him.

Agreed. Also, he would have noticed the difference between collarspace and porn, and decided that porn reflected reality better than reality did.

"Why are all the Dommes/submissive women/etc. on here all fake?"

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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