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Lookin4Lace -> RE: That DAMN CAKE again-Religious Liberty or Discrimination? (7/13/2016 9:54:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Greta75
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ORIGINAL: Lookin4Lace
Alot of people dont know alot about the oriental, asian lifestyle or dare i say enough about it, she is right when she speaks of this lifestyle being kept private, she has alot riding on her anonymity, basically put she cannot ever bring disgrace to herself or her family name
Yea, in Asian culture. No matter what. Your actions reflect on your parent's upbringing. If only the only blame is yourself, then no problem. But in Asia, the shame is your entire family's. So I want to make sure the consequences of my actions are always my own and only my own and does not affect my family. The culture is different because we are always taught to sacrifice our self-interest or personal wants and needs, and always make decisions based on how will this affect your family. Family interests comes first always. Also why many Asians don't really take risks.
I mean, it's very normal for example, I asked my friend, why does he not ride a motorbike even though he really really wants to. He said, he is the only son of his family, he respects his parents wishes that he should never participate in any activity that could risk his own life in danger. So alot of things, he cannot do. It's a form of respect. I am a little more disrespectful, but I am very discreet and private. I refuse to even socialise with local bdsm community or join munches because I trust nobody. It will be seriously something my family cannot recover from, I think my dad might even commit suicide from shame.
Thats true Greta but on your freind with the want to ride a bike, as opposed to you from my understanding of the family values and the putting of the family name first, or honor if you will, the first male carries the name and the title of second elder or the commision of the household should the elder pass but in the event of the household having 2 sons of the same age and or genius of twins the one with most honor would take ownership of the estate and family within that household which can create some pretty wicked rivalries between competing sons, but women in general cannot hold titles unless under extreme circumstances and only the elder of say a village can honor that tradition "or am i mistaken in that notion" there is still alot i am unclear on, but the presumption i have is that YES a female can bring shame to a household but in general they hold very little to no power unless publically ordained or have shown to be a great provider otherwise they are normally seen as the lessor as opposed to a male that automatically is ordained as a title holderand raised as such from birth.
On a side note i applaud your openess to what you have submitted in persuing your own happiness within your kink
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