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WhoreMods -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 5:28:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: WhoreMods Anybody on here any good with Javascript, then? How would that help?? Many people don't have it installed or enabled and as far as I know, anything Apple doesn't support it. It's the programming language used for Android apps.

NookieNotes -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 6:14:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic I think that when it was first created, it was so small it didn't need a search feature, and then later when membership took off, they didn't know how to implement a search feature properly... and so the fiction that it was never intended as a dating site was born. They may have originally intended that, but a first year coder could have put ASL search, or something like it, into place. They have chosen, specifically and repeatedly, not to. Maybe... but a first year coder could easily fix their multiple post bug too... but they seem uninterested in doing that. Surely it's not on some principle that they refuse to fix that??? Touché. LOL! I'm simply going by his stated remarks of denial. I don't think he has denied wanting to fix the bugs... he just ignores all that.

LadyPact -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 8:25:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: multirolechattel Do we really need a lecture or advice on how to find kinky people offline? I think not unless there is a novice reading the thread? It is always a good thing when someone can sum up solipsism in a single sentence. [sm=yourock.gif] Considering how many of the comments of the 35 page thread on the other site is "how will people interested in kink be able to find it" and "I wouldn't have found kink if it wasn't for Fet" testimonials, yeah, I'm thinking it's worth discussing.

LadyPact -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 8:47:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic Actually, if you read the creator of Fetlife's description of why he created it (Then "Friends with Fetishes" FWF 2.0)... " I pretty much created FWF because I was extremely horny with many fetishes I needed to act on and many more I still wanted to try. The problem was I was not sure their were any girls out their that had the same perverted ways as me. Like a female John. Let me rephrase that, I knew their were girls out their who had the same fetishes as me but they were far and few between and I was not sure how many slaps I could take before just giving up asking. So I figured, their must be a better way and I created FWF." It sure sounds to me like it WAS intended as a kinky personals site! I think that when it was first created, it was so small it didn't need a search feature, and then later when membership took off, they didn't know how to implement a search feature properly... and so the fiction that it was never intended as a dating site was born. And it is certainly a fiction! Any social network, any community, NEEDS an effective way for people to find their peers, in order to FORM a community. And anytime you get a community of like minded people coming together, people will make romantic connections... ESPECIALLY when the mutual interest is sexual. Interestingly... back then in 2008, FWF 2.0 was invitation only... which apparently didn't work. So much for learning from one's mistakes. I'll have to do some digging. All I know on the subject was one of the ways that Fet drew female members to the site in the first place was a promise that A/S/L features would never be a part of it. Finding peers is what I tend to think the "Events" tab is for, if we're discussing a community in a real life sense. Almost all sites that draw people into them because they have common interests will have people finding each other in a romantic sense. People have "found" each other through things like WoW forums and The Walking Dead fan sites, too. Edited from a missing word to throwing in a bit more.

WickedsDesire -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 9:02:20 AM)
DesFIP I remember bondage.com in the days of olde twere a goodish site…I met most of the people I knew from that one and they beheld me in wonderment and some I shagged - didn't alt, a tentacle of it pyramid scheme, buy it over. And I actually miss IC - anyone else – be known now, to me. And we have all the rest. All of the above is completely different from me saying I know people, ive met in real life, on all sites. To myself, I wonder, what makes a site good or bad. Do you know, ones immediately above me if you were a man who said that on fet you would be banned from fetlife Personally I still do not see what a liar or cheat bring to the lifestyle, or any single site or swingers site..and I will certain rebut any of them errant fukers sitting in judgement of me...and even I know they outnumber my kind 100 - 1 Fet is doomed, only one person on the internet exists, who mailed the owner and forewarned why, a few times over the epoch - and yet its team of sophists, and who he surrounds himself, creatures of wretch and sophistry, and those many, not all. forum creators who are predatory in nature - and threaders as for this place hmmm and yet none among you have solutions....CreEator https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FPiu4QmJyWs House of lies and sophistry, are forever doomed.

Bhruic -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 10:43:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic I think that when it was first created, it was so small it didn't need a search feature, and then later when membership took off, they didn't know how to implement a search feature properly... and so the fiction that it was never intended as a dating site was born. They may have originally intended that, but a first year coder could have put ASL search, or something like it, into place. They have chosen, specifically and repeatedly, not to. Maybe... but a first year coder could easily fix their multiple post bug too... but they seem uninterested in doing that. Surely it's not on some principle that they refuse to fix that??? Touché. LOL! I'm simply going by his stated remarks of denial. I don't think he has denied wanting to fix the bugs... he just ignores all that. Here's my source for that info, by the way. Fetlife may not be a dating site... but it was not "never intended to be" as far as I can tell. https://web.archive.org/web/20110716044345/http://sexualdeviants20.com/2007/12/31/friendswithfetishes-20-what-is-up-with-that-jerry/

multirolechattel -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 11:26:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic Im kinda busy web work wise at the moment, But I would welcome collaboration if anyone is interested in doing something together Sure thing. When hubby is away lets get together and have us some really good riding copulation fun!

NookieNotes -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 12:08:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic I think that when it was first created, it was so small it didn't need a search feature, and then later when membership took off, they didn't know how to implement a search feature properly... and so the fiction that it was never intended as a dating site was born. They may have originally intended that, but a first year coder could have put ASL search, or something like it, into place. They have chosen, specifically and repeatedly, not to. Maybe... but a first year coder could easily fix their multiple post bug too... but they seem uninterested in doing that. Surely it's not on some principle that they refuse to fix that??? Touché. LOL! I'm simply going by his stated remarks of denial. I don't think he has denied wanting to fix the bugs... he just ignores all that. Here's my source for that info, by the way. Fetlife may not be a dating site... but it was not "never intended to be" as far as I can tell. https://web.archive.org/web/20110716044345/http://sexualdeviants20.com/2007/12/31/friendswithfetishes-20-what-is-up-with-that-jerry/ Oh, but he has said that it was "never intended to be" in his ramblings before. Maybe FWF was, but Fet wasn't? Again, just going by his statements... if you believe some, he has a tendency to rewrite history.

Bhruic -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 12:25:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic I think that when it was first created, it was so small it didn't need a search feature, and then later when membership took off, they didn't know how to implement a search feature properly... and so the fiction that it was never intended as a dating site was born. They may have originally intended that, but a first year coder could have put ASL search, or something like it, into place. They have chosen, specifically and repeatedly, not to. Maybe... but a first year coder could easily fix their multiple post bug too... but they seem uninterested in doing that. Surely it's not on some principle that they refuse to fix that??? Touché. LOL! I'm simply going by his stated remarks of denial. I don't think he has denied wanting to fix the bugs... he just ignores all that. Here's my source for that info, by the way. Fetlife may not be a dating site... but it was not "never intended to be" as far as I can tell. https://web.archive.org/web/20110716044345/http://sexualdeviants20.com/2007/12/31/friendswithfetishes-20-what-is-up-with-that-jerry/ Oh, but he has said that it was "never intended to be" in his ramblings before. Maybe FWF was, but Fet wasn't? Again, just going by his statements... if you believe some, he has a tendency to rewrite history. I'm sure he does... or fails to remember history. I found other wayback machine Fetlife pages that show they once used captcha... so it's not like they are clueless about methods of weeding out bots... which further suggests to me that the crisis is manufactured. And as you may have seen... they tried to make it invitation only back then... I wonder why it didn't work, and why they think it will now. I believe Fetlife was just a rebranding of FWF... not a different site.

LadyPact -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 1:00:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic Here's my source for that info, by the way. Fetlife may not be a dating site... but it was not "never intended to be" as far as I can tell. https://web.archive.org/web/20110716044345/http://sexualdeviants20.com/2007/12/31/friendswithfetishes-20-what-is-up-with-that-jerry/ Thank you for providing the link. quote: ORIGINAL: NookieNotes Oh, but he has said that it was "never intended to be" in his ramblings before. Maybe FWF was, but Fet wasn't? Again, just going by his statements... if you believe some, he has a tendency to rewrite history. That was my understanding, too. I still haven''t found the statement from JB that I was looking for earlier. (Lack of thread search on the other site.) I only found a third party recount from the statement on the vote page from about four years ago. Of course, that's the same thread where so many people said, "don't do this," so the thread regarding the vote may be biased.

Wayward5oul -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 3:46:33 PM)
New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE

Bhruic -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:02:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE Hmmm... interesting. The announcement tries to suggest that it was always the plan to have text verification. Of course, that begs the question of why they wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place. It smacks of a panicked response to the overwhelmingly negative feedback to the "invitation only" idea. On the bright side, I guess it indicates they are listening somewhat, even if their PR and marketing is horrific. On the other hand, it kind of indicates a continued dedication to kluged and cobbled together "improvements".

Wayward5oul -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:04:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bhruic it kind of indicates a continued dedication to kluged and cobbled together "improvements". Agreed.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:05:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE But what of those not in the US?? Not everyone has international access from their cell phone. [:-]

Wayward5oul -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:16:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE But what of those not in the US?? Not everyone has international access from their cell phone. [:-] Good point.

Bhruic -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:16:47 PM)
I've had my own theories about what I think is going on with the higher ups at Fetlife, and I've read many more theories besides... but I also realized that we have an innate desire to find patterns and logic in everything... so when someone behaves in an irrational fashion that seems to make no practical sense, it's natural to try and impose logic on their behavior, and imagine that there is some genius and nefarious hidden plan in the works... but that is not always the case. Some people are just fuck-ups.

Wayward5oul -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:17:54 PM)
LOL. Even gooder point.

Bhruic -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:19:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE But what of those not in the US?? Not everyone has international access from their cell phone. [:-] So I guess, in your particular case, their new system is no better than paid subscription?

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:27:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE Is there any such thing as an anonymous text message? I learned from my first days on collarme something I hadn't known before, that a person can run a Google search on your phone number. A guy I'd been messaging with a little on the profile side did that when I gave him my phone number, and Google gave him my full name, address, and profession. I learned from that never to give my phone number on these sites. So if I were looking to join Fet now, I'd never sign up.

Wayward5oul -> RE: How to find kinky people without Fet (7/29/2016 4:34:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul New policy posted 1. invites 2. for those who don't have an invite, there is the option of a one-time verification by text message. HERE Is there any such thing as an anonymous text message? I learned from my first days on collarme something I hadn't known before, that a person can run a Google search on your phone number. A guy I'd been messaging with a little on the profile side did that when I gave him my phone number, and Google gave him my full name, address, and profession. I learned from that never to give my phone number on these sites. So if I were looking to join Fet now, I'd never sign up. In the comments people are pointing out that you can send text messages from borrowed numbers on a PC. And asking about people who don't have text capabilities.

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