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Greta75 -> RE: Feminists want equality, except when paying for dates (7/31/2016 6:51:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
Really? But...that's ridiculous. If you don't want to see him again, why not just say "Thank you, it's been nice meeting you, but we're just not suited for each other"?
Because it's Asian culture not to speak directly and confrontationally. We show it in subtle ways. I think the guys more or less know if a woman go dutch with him, and insist on paying her share, the date didn't go well, unless that woman been openly declaring what a feminist she is then that's different. It's still a very man should take care of woman world in my country. I mean, if you listen to male motivational speeches for males over here, they like to say, "Do you want to be a man who can give your wife a choice to work or not to work, or do you want to be man whom your wife have no choice but to work because you can't afford to take care of her?" But okay then again, Chinese culture, money is important. And a man who can provide is important. Like men don't feel good if their wives had to work to help out in family finances. Like men feel good that their wife is working because she enjoys it, not because she has to when she's with him.
There is also local dating agency where you pay to be set up on blind dates. And the rules are, go dutch if you don't like each other. If the guy likes you, he'll offer to pay, if you like him, accept it, if you dislike him, do not accept his offer to pay, and insist on going dutch.
It's indirect. And less confrontational. And the dude will get the message.
But anyway, who wants to date a man who has issues paying for a date with a female he digs. Such men usually have the thinking that, if they pay for the date, they are paying for a whore, thoughts like that, and one would not want to be with a dude like that, as they will end up accusing you for being a whore for every little cent they spent on you. If a man insist on going dutch, I will also assume, he didn't like me.
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